IL's Dog

[Anonymous]

Get the dog to a boarding situation. Call the ILs and tell them that Fluffy's destructive behavior is over the top, and she is no longer welcome in your home.

You should have said no a long time ago--after the first awful time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The fact that he bit a kid at any point in time would be an absolute no for me. Why on Earth would you wait for him to bite yours! I had a dog when I was very young that caused my sister to have plastic surgery and for me to have 7 stitches on my eye. My mother was sick that she let it get to a second time. That alone would make it VERY easy to say NOOOOO!

I know. To be honest, I could not BELIEVE my IL's did not have the dog put down at that point. And I further couldn't believe they kept asking people to take him. I actually really love my IL's but this situation is making me resent the hell out of them, to be honest.

I can. Maybe they're hoping he bites you next.

If you didn't want to take care of the dog, you should have said you would not take care of the dog. If your husband said it while you were not present, then your issue is with him. Either way, it doesn't have anything to do with your ILs (no apostrophe needed- you're welcome).

Thanks, grammar police.

It has a lot to do with them, and their guilt trips. I will tell them that this is the last time, but I guarantee you my MIL will get all passive aggressive about it, which is why DH doesn't want to tell her no or confront her. I just need her to understand that the dog makes our household extremely unpleasant and that the stress of him ruining my things and leaving us without a moment's peace is too much to bear.

So what if MIL gets passive aggressive?

The only thing she needs to understand is that the dog can't stay with you. She won't understand your reasons. Who cares? If she behaves horribly, that is a reason to see her less.

[Anonymous]

Board it today.

[Anonymous]

Tell the in laws they need to fly with their dog. If it's small it should be easy to take.

I love dogs, but HELL NO could I take a dog pissing everywhere.

That being said, we diaper my parents dogs when they visit. This is a life changer: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ETS9LZ4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s02?ie=UTF8&psc=1 You put the biggest maxi pad you can find inside and the dog is good to go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Board it today.

And pay for it how? I do not wish to pay for this upfront and then make a big dramatic scene of it with my in-laws over the phone. We said we would take the stupid dog - I told DH months ago when they asked that I did not want to, and he overrode me b/c he didn't want to make waves. I am willing to put up with it for three more weeks but I will not take the dog again after this. That is the issue with DH. He doesn't want me to tell his parents once they get home that the dog will no longer be welcome to stay with us. He sure as hell won't want to address this with them over the phone from hundreds of miles away. In all honesty, I'm not concerned about MIL getting upset with me. I know she will and I think that is her problem to deal with. I am concerned with this becoming a thing between DH and me. He refuses to address it with them and if I do, and MIL gets all passive-aggressive with him, it will be my fault. I do not think that is fair. I think HE should address this with his parents or at the very least back me up. But I know he won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell the in laws they need to fly with their dog. If it's small it should be easy to take.

I love dogs, but HELL NO could I take a dog pissing everywhere.

That being said, we diaper my parents dogs when they visit. This is a life changer: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ETS9LZ4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s02?ie=UTF8&psc=1 You put the biggest maxi pad you can find inside and the dog is good to go!

They have those stupid wraps for him. The problem is that even with the pad they get disgustingly smelly and wet, and have to be washed. The little shit has taken every opportunity when he is out of them to piss all over my house. They sent him with the wraps but not the pads that go in them. WE had to buy those. It also doesn't solve the problem of either having to take him down the basement stairs to go out the walkout or live with him shitting on my deck every day. The dog has a multitude of issues - the peeing, the pooping on the deck, the barking, the whining. Last night he woke my kid out of a dead sleep at 10pm barking at the neighbors who had the audacity to be taking their garbage out. Unless he can have his voicebox removed and be trained to go in a litter box, there is no way to live with him. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell the in laws they need to fly with their dog. If it's small it should be easy to take.

I love dogs, but HELL NO could I take a dog pissing everywhere.

That being said, we diaper my parents dogs when they visit. This is a life changer: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ETS9LZ4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s02?ie=UTF8&psc=1 You put the biggest maxi pad you can find inside and the dog is good to go!

They have those stupid wraps for him. The problem is that even with the pad they get disgustingly smelly and wet, and have to be washed. The little shit has taken every opportunity when he is out of them to piss all over my house. They sent him with the wraps but not the pads that go in them. WE had to buy those. It also doesn't solve the problem of either having to take him down the basement stairs to go out the walkout or live with him shitting on my deck every day. The dog has a multitude of issues - the peeing, the pooping on the deck, the barking, the whining. Last night he woke my kid out of a dead sleep at 10pm barking at the neighbors who had the audacity to be taking their garbage out. Unless he can have his voicebox removed and be trained to go in a litter box, there is no way to live with him. Seriously.

Bark collar. Find the best one on amazon and demand in laws overnight it to you. My in laws have a great bark collar that also has a remote controlled zapper if you see the dog doing something extra bad.

We have 5 of those doggie diapers. We put those ginormous maxi pads in them, throw them out, and then at the end of the week, we wash all 5 diapers. But we don't mind doing it because our dog is amazing and is the joy of our lives. He's just getting older and can't hold it 10 hours a day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Board it today.

And pay for it how? I do not wish to pay for this upfront and then make a big dramatic scene of it with my in-laws over the phone. We said we would take the stupid dog - I told DH months ago when they asked that I did not want to, and he overrode me b/c he didn't want to make waves. I am willing to put up with it for three more weeks but I will not take the dog again after this. That is the issue with DH. He doesn't want me to tell his parents once they get home that the dog will no longer be welcome to stay with us. He sure as hell won't want to address this with them over the phone from hundreds of miles away. In all honesty, I'm not concerned about MIL getting upset with me. I know she will and I think that is her problem to deal with. I am concerned with this becoming a thing between DH and me. He refuses to address it with them and if I do, and MIL gets all passive-aggressive with him, it will be my fault. I do not think that is fair. I think HE should address this with his parents or at the very least back me up. But I know he won't.

Can you go somewhere for a while and let your DH have full responsibility of this animal? It sounds as though he is saying o.k. to his parents and then dumping the dog off on you to deal with (must run in the family, haha). I think your dh and that dog need to spend some quality time together. Just him and the dog. When you return from your well earned break maybe you will find him more agreeable to the whole boarding idea.

[Anonymous]

They make muzzles in petite sizes -- no barking, no biting and if the ILs don't like it, they can find a new place for the dog. You can also get a crate with sides so he can't see out and bark at things. The are ways to get through this visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They make muzzles in petite sizes -- no barking, no biting and if the ILs don't like it, they can find a new place for the dog. You can also get a crate with sides so he can't see out and bark at things. The are ways to get through this visit.

That's a good idea. I hadn't thought about the muzzle. I think I'll go get one today. It's better than me killing the dog, or dumping it in the woods, which are two thoughts that have crossed my mind. I am not paying $400 to board this little fucker for the next three weeks and I don't feel like arguing with the IL's over the money. I just have to survive the next three weeks and then take whatever comes, b/c I am putting my foot down. I cannot listen to that incessant noise for 21 more days, and I cannot have this dog in my house again. The amount I'll already have to pay for deep carpet/furniture cleaning probably equals what it would cost me to board him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They make muzzles in petite sizes -- no barking, no biting and if the ILs don't like it, they can find a new place for the dog. You can also get a crate with sides so he can't see out and bark at things. The are ways to get through this visit.

That's a good idea. I hadn't thought about the muzzle. I think I'll go get one today. It's better than me killing the dog, or dumping it in the woods, which are two thoughts that have crossed my mind. I am not paying $400 to board this little fucker for the next three weeks and I don't feel like arguing with the IL's over the money. I just have to survive the next three weeks and then take whatever comes, b/c I am putting my foot down. I cannot listen to that incessant noise for 21 more days, and I cannot have this dog in my house again. The amount I'll already have to pay for deep carpet/furniture cleaning probably equals what it would cost me to board him.

in laws should pay for carpet cleaning!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell the in laws they need to fly with their dog. If it's small it should be easy to take.

I love dogs, but HELL NO could I take a dog pissing everywhere.

That being said, we diaper my parents dogs when they visit. This is a life changer: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ETS9LZ4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s02?ie=UTF8&psc=1 You put the biggest maxi pad you can find inside and the dog is good to go!

They have those stupid wraps for him. The problem is that even with the pad they get disgustingly smelly and wet, and have to be washed. The little shit has taken every opportunity when he is out of them to piss all over my house. They sent him with the wraps but not the pads that go in them. WE had to buy those. It also doesn't solve the problem of either having to take him down the basement stairs to go out the walkout or live with him shitting on my deck every day. The dog has a multitude of issues - the peeing, the pooping on the deck, the barking, the whining. Last night he woke my kid out of a dead sleep at 10pm barking at the neighbors who had the audacity to be taking their garbage out. Unless he can have his voicebox removed and be trained to go in a litter box, there is no way to live with him. Seriously.

Bark collar. Find the best one on amazon and demand in laws overnight it to you. My in laws have a great bark collar that also has a remote controlled zapper if you see the dog doing something extra bad.

We have 5 of those doggie diapers. We put those ginormous maxi pads in them, throw them out, and then at the end of the week, we wash all 5 diapers. But we don't mind doing it because our dog is amazing and is the joy of our lives. He's just getting older and can't hold it 10 hours a day.

Yeah see this dog CAN hold it. He literally pisses all over the house out of spite. He was never trained and when he doesn't get the attention he wants (because I'm making dinner, helping my son with homework, etc) he will go off and do it. He has done it right in front of me while looking at me like, yeah, what are you gonna do? By the time I notice and get to him it's too late. DH has a bad habit of letting the dog in from outside and not putting the diaper thing back on him. I'm trying hard not to want to kill DH too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They make muzzles in petite sizes -- no barking, no biting and if the ILs don't like it, they can find a new place for the dog. You can also get a crate with sides so he can't see out and bark at things. The are ways to get through this visit.

That's a good idea. I hadn't thought about the muzzle. I think I'll go get one today. It's better than me killing the dog, or dumping it in the woods, which are two thoughts that have crossed my mind. I am not paying $400 to board this little fucker for the next three weeks and I don't feel like arguing with the IL's over the money. I just have to survive the next three weeks and then take whatever comes, b/c I am putting my foot down. I cannot listen to that incessant noise for 21 more days, and I cannot have this dog in my house again. The amount I'll already have to pay for deep carpet/furniture cleaning probably equals what it would cost me to board him.

in laws should pay for carpet cleaning!

Op's in laws will say - "Well we sent the wraps along, why didn't you use them?" I would bet money that those people will not be paying for the carpet cleaning.

[Anonymous]

No way in hell. Your DH needs to grow a spine!

[Anonymous]

Crate him! Or baby gate him into a room without carpet -- how about the laundry room? Add the muzzle et voila.