The Explosive Child
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Anonymous
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Op... explosive is a new term to me.
We started with testing by a psychologist. Once the issues of anxiety and depression were discovered we dealt with those. Lots of boundaries behavior wise. Strategies to help him calm himself down. We had to stay calm, quiet and reassuring while making it clear that losing control would not change anything. |
Anonymous
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13:33 back again, my phone died.
I'm trying to think back. I know we had clear boundaries in place. Losing his cool was not an option. It was repeated to him many times that home/with us was his "safe place." He could rant if he needed to, but getting physical or blaming us was not okay. HE had to learn to recognize it himself. Rapid breathing, slightly nauseated etc. It's damn scary because they feel so out of control. When necessary we would remove him from the situation. Even if that meant leaving in the middle of something when we first started working on it. He would get SO incredibly belligerent. As it turns out now that's part of his personality. But, we would keep repeating our requests calmly and quietly. Once he realized that there would be no other reaction he generally gave up. The thing is that they feel out of control. For ds, he had to learn that it was okay.. we were his parents and it was our job to maintain control. He could trust us to do that. It's a long, long road. We considered medication but at his age at the time we didn't want to. We continued with the psychologist for a while, and had to remain diligent in the strategies. The one thing I will absolutely stress is get help from a professional. |
Anonymous
| I agree with PP. You need to talk with a professional. Kids can react explosively for a variety of reasons. LDs, anxiety, ADHD, etc. I think your first step is getting a neuropsych evaluation. I would check out the SN forum for recs. |
Anonymous
We didn't realize there was a problem until he was 8. After 7 months of therapy (with some improvement finally), we added in Zoloft. It hasn't been that long so its hard to say, but he is trending better over time. We are also doing a behavior-based point chart and the therapist is working with school on managing behavior. |
Anonymous
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I'm a little confused. Who is the OP? What problem are you having OP?
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Anonymous
This post is also not OP. Please identify whether or not you are the OP. |
Anonymous
The question was not asked by OP. Please identify whether or not you are the OP. |
Anonymous
| Relax, OP. People are asking questions about a post. Perfectly legit whether or not they identify themselves as not the OP. (This is not the OP, BTW.) |
Anonymous
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It's just getting confusing. I'm not OP.
If people want to ask a question, go ahead and start a post with your question. But if several people chime in on a post with questions, it's not clear whose situation is whose. I'm not really sure what OP's question is. |
Anonymous
OP, what situation are you trying to resolve, exactly? |
Anonymous
+1 OP here. ITA. It helps me and others if you do not hijack, but instead identify as NP, OP, PP, whatever. Then maybe all of our questions can be answered, instead of confusing the respondents who are trying to help us. My post is the first one. I normally don't need to state this. |
Anonymous
The "explosiveness" at home, if you are familiar. |
Anonymous
| Can you give more details OP? |
Anonymous
Many threads have multiple topic-related conversations going on. Should not be such a big deal. |
Anonymous
It's not. If the posters identify themselves and stop trying to act as if they are OP. Can we move on now? |