My DH went out of town and I hardly miss him...is my marriage doomed?

[Anonymous]

Oh how I would love it if H ever traveled, even just one night.

[Anonymous]

I look forward to FH travelling for all the reasons everyone's stated. I think it's good to feel good on your own.

I think it only means trouble if you're not happy to see him when he comes back (although I think a little disappointment about having to share the TV and bed again is fine )

[Anonymous]

Wait, am I the only one whose DH does a big chunk of the housework and childcare? He's been gone this week and in addition to missing the snuggles/sex I am also burned out on doing everything myself. Won't lie, the trash can is a little over full right now.

[Anonymous]

I seriously LOVE going to bed earlier. DH just can't seem to get in bed until midnight. I feel like a new person when I go to sleep at 10pm.

[Anonymous]

My DH was working out of town for six months. I didn't miss him. The kids missed him a lot. DH says that he missed ME a lot and when he came home, he made a lot of the changes that I had been asking for. Seeing me doing just fine without him in the house and missing me gave him some motivation to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH was working out of town for six months. I didn't miss him. The kids missed him a lot. DH says that he missed ME a lot and when he came home, he made a lot of the changes that I had been asking for. Seeing me doing just fine without him in the house and missing me gave him some motivation to change.

Good thing relationships aren't two way streets.

But I'm sure all the issues were with him and he needed to make changes you asked for. You are perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, am I the only one whose DH does a big chunk of the housework and childcare? He's been gone this week and in addition to missing the snuggles/sex I am also burned out on doing everything myself. Won't lie, the trash can is a little over full right now.

Yep. My DH does practically nothing and sex is blah.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I wish DH would have a job like that. It would probably pay more and I would be extra nice to him when he got back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, am I the only one whose DH does a big chunk of the housework and childcare? He's been gone this week and in addition to missing the snuggles/sex I am also burned out on doing everything myself. Won't lie, the trash can is a little over full right now.

I think my DH is you right now and I've been gone almost a week. We are also a 50/50 household and both travel for work and elderly parent support. He misses me and gets tired from picking up all the slack and I miss him and get tired of picking up the slack as well. However our marriage is based on the premise that time alone is a good thing. 15 years on we both appreciate a night of eating popcorn watching baseball for him and a night of wine and cheese watching Scandal for me. Two weeks apart is the limit for both of us. After that things start melting down, food rots in the fridge, the kids get sick of my cooking.

[Anonymous]

Nah.

It just means that you are adapting to this new transition.

Plus it is very healthy to have time apart from each other. Absence will make the heart grow fonder.