My DH went out of town and I hardly miss him...is my marriage doomed?
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Anonymous
| My DH recently took a job where he travels during the week. I have been sad about this change and really missed him the first night. Now that it's Thursday I hardly miss him at all. What.in.the.world. Does this mean my marriage is in trouble? |
Anonymous
| Nah. I have a good marriage and one of us is always traveling - mostly him. You just get on with things when they're gone. I think it's good, actually. It's the time when I make decisions just for myself. Not a bad thing. |
Anonymous
| Takes me 7 days apart from DH for me to miss him. No idea when he misses me. |
Anonymous
| No. It means you're more stable and adaptable than you gave yourself credit for being. |
Anonymous
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My husband also travels every week and honestly I love it. During the week I can eat what and when I want for dinner, go to the gym on my schedule, sleep without anyone waking me up, work late until the night if needed without neglecting anyone etc. On weekends its great to have him back and be a couple.
The only downside is that we do end up having less of a social life because we pack all our "couple" time into the weekend first and then slot in one or two social things. I found that when I over-schedule our weekends we end up feeling very disconnected. We don't have kids, I imagine I'd feel differently if we did. Right now its really like the best of single life and married life combined (minus dating other people) |
Anonymous
| After two weeks I miss my husband, after a month I get severe anxiety. |
Anonymous
Nah. My DW travels a bit for work. Not every week, but she's probably gone 5 or 6 nights every month, usually one night at a time but sometimes she'll be gone 3 or 4 nights in a row. I can't say that I miss her. I mean, it's not like I'm happy she's gone, but it's fine when she is. I eat what I want (usually something unhealthy) and watch what I want on TV, etc. It's like being a bachelor again every once in awhile. We're married 22 years. |
Anonymous
| No. It is normal. It is nice to have a break from dh. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Thanks all! Just wanted to make sure this wasn't too abnormal. |
Anonymous
No kids, huh? You don't say.... 
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Anonymous
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My dad traveled a lot for work when I was growing up, and while I know it was hard for my parents, I honestly think it was great for their marriage. In fact, if you ask them what the secret is to a long-lasting marriage (over 40 years) they'll tell you it is to spend plenty of time apart.
I love my husband, love being married to him, but I also love it when he goes out of town. I love it when I get to travel alone too. I watch TV in bed, have quiet time, it's great. I'm always happy to see him though. |
Anonymous
| No. Damn I love those travel nights. I cook or order WHATEVER I WANT for dinner, eat it on the couch while watching what I want, drink wine in total silence, get in bed with a book and fall asleep whenever I want with no expectation of sex (which I do enjoy but I also enjoy and evening full of nothing but relaxing on my own terms). Love my DH but as someone who has been cohabitating for years, that alone time is precious to me. |
Anonymous
Not abnormal at all. It is healthy to spend time apart. While you may not miss him while gone, once he is back you'll realize why you love being with him. Every couple should experience this. |
Anonymous
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DH is gone about 20 nights a month. LOVE it! Go shopping, dinner with girlfriends, eat whatever I want (cereal is my fav!), watch chick flicks with my dog, and then reunion sex! What's not to love?!
The only downside is that DH doesn't get overtime or comp time for his crazy long hours. Stupid federal government. |
Anonymous
| Mine is gone now. We do have kids but meals for two little girls is super easy and involves almost no cooking. |