Friend of several years changed her number and cut me out of her life

[Anonymous]

Well, you sound like a bitch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably the end of the line for her. Can't say I blame her either.

+1

[Anonymous]

I've cut a few friends out of my life after many years of friendship, just because I'd had enough of whatever annoying thing they did. One was a boozer that crossed boundaries and the other was in an abusive relationship. Never argued or discussed issues, just one day decided these friendships no longer brought value to my life. Maybe your friend is growing up and realized you were of no value.

[Anonymous]

Why would "hand jobs" be a relevant factor in the admission process?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've cut a few friends out of my life after many years of friendship, just because I'd had enough of whatever annoying thing they did. One was a boozer that crossed boundaries and the other was in an abusive relationship. Never argued or discussed issues, just one day decided these friendships no longer brought value to my life. Maybe your friend is growing up and realized you were of no value.

Cutting off a 20 year friendship without any inkling that you had a problem with the friendship is NOT grown up.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like she was annoyed with you for a long time but never spoke up. But for the record, that's a shitty thing to say to a friend who has shared an accomplishment with you. And I'm not even a person who has a problem with a crass sense of humor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I dont know what to do...my really good friend of 20plus years just changed her phone number and isnt calling me anymore. I can be kind of crass sometimes and when she called to tell me she got into a top ranked graduate school, I said "wow, how many hand jobs did you have to give to get in?"

She politely ended the call. I tried to call her and her phone is disconnected...

She knowa Im crass and I just dont get why this is such a big deal..I just cant believe.shed be so extreme as to cut me off...

Thoughts?

I think you're a troll, but I'll play along. Crass isn't the word. You were a total bitch and I think she was right for dumping your jealous azz

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've cut a few friends out of my life after many years of friendship, just because I'd had enough of whatever annoying thing they did. One was a boozer that crossed boundaries and the other was in an abusive relationship. Never argued or discussed issues, just one day decided these friendships no longer brought value to my life. Maybe your friend is growing up and realized you were of no value.

Cutting off a 20 year friendship without any inkling that you had a problem with the friendship is NOT grown up.

Well if someone is that stupid to not realize they're a F UP, serves them right.

[Anonymous]

You sound horrible. I'd have cut you off years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I dont know what to do...my really good friend of 20plus years just changed her phone number and isnt calling me anymore. I can be kind of crass sometimes and when she called to tell me she got into a top ranked graduate school, I said "wow, how many hand jobs did you have to give to get in?"

She politely ended the call. I tried to call her and her phone is disconnected...

She knowa Im crass and I just dont get why this is such a big deal..I just cant believe.shed be so extreme as to cut me off...

Thoughts?

I think you're a troll, but I'll play along. Crass isn't the word. You were a total bitch and I think she was right for dumping your jealous azz

+1

[Anonymous]

I used to have a friend that would constantly make fun of me; because sometimes I would say things that were not grammatically correct or mis spell something. She would laugh and say oh it's because she's not from this country. This went on for years. I told her to stop and told her how offensive it was. About two years ago, I commented on something on her FB page and she another friend of hers then commented and said oh it's because she's not from this country. Well I got fed up and that was end of our 10 year plus friendship. I can honestly say, I'm much happier without her in my life and put up with her stuff for way too many years.

Maybe your friend was tired of it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, really? That's not just crass, you basically said you didn't think she was good enough to get into the program. A friend would have said "Congrats, that's awesome!". I'm pretty sure I'd have dropped you too.

X1000 I'm suet this was her last straw.

OP, you need to grow up. Mature, loving friends don't say that type of thing to each other.

[Anonymous]

It's can be just co-incident. When I started law school, I had a one year old toddler and barely any time for myself, not to mention my husband or even friends. A lot of friendship just felt apart during that time. I did my best to restore some of them and just let it go with others. Life is going on.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to think about what you were really giving to the friendship. You were not supportive or understanding and with an offensive comment like that, you don't even make a good fair weather friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would "hand jobs" be a relevant factor in the admission process?

Maybe OP was talking from experience...