Parents buying out my brothers x wife from the house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here. My parents have plenty of money and the only reason that I am upset is they always throw it in my face that they have to be fair and give equal amounts of money to all of us including my youngest brother. They also tell us that they are not giving us money because my one brother is an F-UP! Then they turn around and give buy his x wife out of the house so he can own it by himself.

It sounds like your parents are assholes who raised assholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here. My parents have plenty of money and the only reason that I am upset is they always throw it in my face that they have to be fair and give equal amounts of money to all of us including my youngest brother. They also tell us that they are not giving us money because my one brother is an F-UP! Then they turn around and give buy his x wife out of the house so he can own it by himself.

MYOB.

[Anonymous]

MYOB.

THEIR money.

Not yours.

Does your brother have kids? If so, great move by your folks for THEIR grandchildren to keep something constant and stable in their lives.

(Do you work?) Worry about your own hard-earned money.

[Anonymous]

OP, it really sucks that your parents show financial favoritism for one sibling over another.

Seriously, though, you are a grown-up now. This is not like one sibling getting a better Christmas present than everyone else.

Your life will be happier if you stop expecting and accepting money from your parents. You are a grown up. Support yourself and stop feeling entitled to handouts.

You can ask your parents to support you in this decision by refraining from telling you if they are choosing to give money to other siblings. It's not something any of you need to know about the others and it will only increase conflict between you. MYOB and tell your parents to stop over-sharing financial decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it really sucks that your parents show financial favoritism for one sibling over another.

Seriously, though, you are a grown-up now. This is not like one sibling getting a better Christmas present than everyone else.

Your life will be happier if you stop expecting and accepting money from your parents. You are a grown up. Support yourself and stop feeling entitled to handouts.

You can ask your parents to support you in this decision by refraining from telling you if they are choosing to give money to other siblings. It's not something any of you need to know about the others and it will only increase conflict between you. MYOB and tell your parents to stop over-sharing financial decisions.

+1

You can also ask them to see a financial counselor or something, to make sure they're being smart about their money choices. But it's up to them to make mistakes. There's always a family screw up that leeches financial and emotional resources.

[Anonymous]

Your issue is with your parents, not your brother or his ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

"You can also ask them to see a financial counselor or something, to make sure they're being smart about their money choices."

I would be pissed if my adult children asked me this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You can also ask them to see a financial counselor or something, to make sure they're being smart about their money choices."

I would be pissed if my adult children asked me this.

YES! Unless your parents are 100% financially clueless or have made huge mistakes in the past, you would be an ass to suggest this- it really should only be in those cases, not others. They are not children!

[Anonymous]

You sound very petty. I wouldn't think that divorce is something that should be rewarded or punished. They're just helping him tie up the loose ends and move on. Financial help does not have to be even across all offspring and you'll go crazy trying to keep score. They are helping him out and it is none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here. My parents have plenty of money and the only reason that I am upset is they always throw it in my face that they have to be fair and give equal amounts of money to all of us including my youngest brother. They also tell us that they are not giving us money because my one brother is an F-UP! Then they turn around and give buy his x wife out of the house so he can own it by himself.

I think if you're this frustrated, then you say to them, "I'm glad that you've changed your mind about what it means to be fair and realized that sometimes fair means giving each child what you think makes sense given their circumstance." Then never think about it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here. My parents have plenty of money and the only reason that I am upset is they always throw it in my face that they have to be fair and give equal amounts of money to all of us including my youngest brother. They also tell us that they are not giving us money because my one brother is an F-UP! Then they turn around and give buy his x wife out of the house so he can own it by himself.

I think if you're this frustrated, then you say to them, "I'm glad that you've changed your mind about what it means to be fair and realized that sometimes fair means giving each child what you think makes sense given their circumstance." Then never think about it again.

Excellent, PP. In other words, make lemonade.

[Anonymous]

Are there children involved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not your money, not your business. Being a money grubber is so very unattractive.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would talk to your parents if you have that type of relationship with them, and ask them if the buy out is a loan. It isn't pleasant to have these discussions but it will prevent resentment from building.

Possibly even have your brother there during the conversation.

We have the type of family that discusses these issues with each other.

I completely agree with this. What her parents choose to do with their money is of absolutely no concern of OP's, nor are the circumstances of her brother's divorce. In fact, I find her petty scorekeeping to be disgusting.

Only look in someone else's bowl to be sure that person has enough, OP.

Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would talk to your parents if you have that type of relationship with them, and ask them if the buy out is a loan. It isn't pleasant to have these discussions but it will prevent resentment from building.

Possibly even have your brother there during the conversation.

We have the type of family that discusses these issues with each other.

I completely agree with this. What her parents choose to do with their money is of absolutely no concern of OP's, nor are the circumstances of her brother's divorce. In fact, I find her petty scorekeeping to be disgusting.

Only look in someone else's bowl to be sure that person has enough, OP.

Sheesh.

^^^ Er, completely DISagree I mean.