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Do the parents you know resemble DCUM posters?
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When I started having kids I lived in Bethesda. After seeing an environment that was highly competitive for children as well as us socially, we decided to move to NOVA. It was a GREAT choice. This forum reminds me of all the bullets I dodged.
My kids are in public school, don't have to play lacrosse to fit in, don't have to run around from one competitive team to another on weekends, etc. I feel bad for those kids who are under so much pressure. I think this board should have a topic called "Damage Control". My comments are not to offend but rather another way of looking at parenting. Isn't that the purpose of this forum? ps: My husband and I don't work in customer service. We are both professionals with happy kids. |
Anonymous
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I would not say NOVA is immune to these things, you just found a niche that works for you, and I think you can find that anywhere. I think that's the OP's point, that things don't exist in real life as much as they do on these boards.
Bethesda might be a different story though! I don't live there so I don't know though. |
zumbamama
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There seems to be some cool, down-to-earth moms on here once in awhile....so yes, I do.
But I don't know anyone with a nanny and never heard of the big 3 until I started visiting DCUM. The SAHs and WMs I know don't trash talk each other (at least in my presence). I know tons of other Zumbamamas in DC, but they are not on this site. |
Anonymous
I live in Bethesda, and yes, i can easily imagine that ALL of the posters on this board are very, very real!! I also think most people have enough sense to not talk about something like whether or not to breastfeed or vaccinate; those are very personal decisions and it would be unpleasant to say the least to be debate that kind of thing in conversation, but that doesn't mean people don't have deep opinions one way or the other. Here they are free to express them. Isn't that the point of DCUM? |
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The tuition alone puts me off that place. My friend's are saving thousands now that their child is in college. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the OP. I am a big firm lawyer and my DH is a lawyer as well. We have many friends who are lawyers and some who are not. I don't know anyone caught up in these discussions. I have no idea what red-shirting is, and as a product of public schools myself, I think many of these issues are not a product of what is best for the child but best for the parent to satisfy their own insecurities. |
Anonymous
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The sad things is, most will say no. But that's because only on this forum can one be true to yourself and say what you really are thinking.
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Anonymous
| I think it's easy to laser in on a few of the topics that generate a lot of heat. But there are also tons of very supportive posts by people (mostly women) who are taking a fair amount of time to offer thoughtful responses to strangers' questions and concerns. I have recognized at least 2 parents that I know IRL posting kind and caring words to others. If you choose to avoid the drama, there's a lot of good stuff happening on this site. |
Anonymous
| what is red-shirting? |
Anonymous
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"The sad things is, most will say no. But that's because only on this forum can one be true to yourself and say what you really are thinking."
I agree. Does anyone else out look at other moms a little differently after reading these posts? I know I sometimes wonder what they are really thinking or whether I have run into one of the secret nut cases. I used to not really think about TY notes but now when I do them, I almost want to stop. I keep wondering if one of the recipients is a crazy 'you must do TYs or civilization will end' people. Honestly, if I knew who those people were I would never send them a TY note. |
Anonymous
OP here. This has all been interesting to read, especially because it seems like there are different voices than in the "controversy" threads. Obviously I cannot read my friends' minds, but I know that in my own case, and strongly suspect that in my 4-5 best girlfriends' cases, we are really, really not thinking about things the way that I see them discussed here. My best friends and I share almost everything, especially about parenting. I was the first of my little posse to have a child and so my girlfriends gravitated to me for the everyday stuff (bathing, helping them sleep a little better, stuff like that). The kind of things I initially posted really don't come into play with any of us, though actually the stay-at-home/work outside thing is a hot button with some of our own parents. It's all interesting and still makes me feel as if my world is somehow narrow, but I'm okay with that kind of narrow because I don't think I could handle dealing with such intensity all of the time. Enjoy your normal, low-key, unremarkable weekends, people. |
Anonymous
| Thankfully, I do not people in real life who are like some of the most vocal (and the craziest) people on here. I kind of wonder if it's just one or two mean people who just like to post a lot. |
Anonymous
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For starters, no one I know says things like, "your sorry ass."
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Anonymous
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Or even calls people "asses." (Sounds a little dated.)
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Anonymous
| I know a good number of people who are like the posters on DCUM. I also know many who are not. I would say it is a 50:50 split. We live in Arlington. |