Your worst experience with a school or school system

[Anonymous]

A cliquey/bully teacher in a private school targeted. I work full time and I am not "involved" in school during school hours so she felt like my DD was an easy target. She targeted other kids who had similar profiles. She was overly punitive in grading my DD's work and would take off full letter grades for ridiculous things like using blue versus black pen for a writing assignment in 2nd grade. I probably could have dealt with that somewhat but she made my daughter cry many, many times during the school year by singling her out and bullying her. She made outlandish claims that my DD was incapable academically- though that was far from the truth as demonstrated in her grades since then/before then. The administration supported me a little but not enough.

[Anonymous]

PS3...DS's teacher thought going to aftercare made for a day that was too long for him. So she would refuse to send him and call me 30min after school ended and demand I pick him up. I was a single mom and worked FT. He'd been in daycare since 10mo, and was used to the schedule. I had to get the principal involved to force the teacher to send him. She thought I should have had family come get him, family that also worked. Or his father should pick him up, the same father I had told her was not in DS's life because of abuse (and to immediately call the cops if he ever showed up).

This is the same teacher who didn't call me when he broke his leg on the playground and tried to tell me she had no idea he was hurt. We went straight from school to the ER where he was put in a thigh to toe cast.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The whole process when dealing with a SN child- especially the IEP process. I have PSTD from it. Seriously.

don't tell me... it was in MCPS?

FCPS

+1 but we're still in the thick of it. Been trying for 3 years and the school has been a pain to deal with. 504- no problem and all smiles, but once you bring up the need for an IEP it turns into a battle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole process when dealing with a SN child- especially the IEP process. I have PSTD from it. Seriously.

don't tell me... it was in MCPS?

FCPS

+1 but we're still in the thick of it. Been trying for 3 years and the school has been a pain to deal with. 504- no problem and all smiles, but once you bring up the need for an IEP it turns into a battle.

I am the PP, and we are still it in too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole process when dealing with a SN child- especially the IEP process. I have PSTD from it. Seriously.

don't tell me... it was in MCPS?

FCPS

+1 but we're still in the thick of it. Been trying for 3 years and the school has been a pain to deal with. 504- no problem and all smiles, but once you bring up the need for an IEP it turns into a battle.

I am the PP, and we are still it in too.

Hit enter too soon.

We are still in it- which makes the PTSD harder to treat.

[Anonymous]

Lice and plantar warts. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. School didn't do anything to minimize contagion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole process when dealing with a SN child- especially the IEP process. I have PSTD from it. Seriously.

don't tell me... it was in MCPS?

FCPS

Feel the same in LCPS. Our case included lots of retaliation against my elementary aged child. I'm still not over it and don't trust any school staff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PS3...DS's teacher thought going to aftercare made for a day that was too long for him. So she would refuse to send him and call me 30min after school ended and demand I pick him up. I was a single mom and worked FT. He'd been in daycare since 10mo, and was used to the schedule. I had to get the principal involved to force the teacher to send him. She thought I should have had family come get him, family that also worked. Or his father should pick him up, the same father I had told her was not in DS's life because of abuse (and to immediately call the cops if he ever showed up).

This is the same teacher who didn't call me when he broke his leg on the playground and tried to tell me she had no idea he was hurt. We went straight from school to the ER where he was put in a thigh to toe cast.

Okay, that teacher is insane

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole process when dealing with a SN child- especially the IEP process. I have PSTD from it. Seriously.

don't tell me... it was in MCPS?

FCPS

Feel the same in LCPS. Our case included lots of retaliation against my elementary aged child. I'm still not over it and don't trust any school staff.

Can you elaborate please? We are going to go that route due to ADHD and thIs gives me the shivers

[Anonymous]

We didn't get into our preferred special? What grade are you in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PS3...DS's teacher thought going to aftercare made for a day that was too long for him. So she would refuse to send him and call me 30min after school ended and demand I pick him up. I was a single mom and worked FT. He'd been in daycare since 10mo, and was used to the schedule. I had to get the principal involved to force the teacher to send him. She thought I should have had family come get him, family that also worked. Or his father should pick him up, the same father I had told her was not in DS's life because of abuse (and to immediately call the cops if he ever showed up).

This is the same teacher who didn't call me when he broke his leg on the playground and tried to tell me she had no idea he was hurt. We went straight from school to the ER where he was put in a thigh to toe cast.

This teacher sounds cruel and evil. What a sick person that shouldn't be around kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole process when dealing with a SN child- especially the IEP process. I have PSTD from it. Seriously.

don't tell me... it was in MCPS?

FCPS

Horrible process! My son was called names by the teachers no less. We finally shelled out the cash to have him tested privately, which identified his learning disability. The school just preferred to call him lazy, because he tested so well on standardized tests. When we brought them the results, they told us they would not accept them, because they didn't instigate the testing. I then asked them whether or not they would prefer to discuss this in a court of law, because I could not see the educational difference between their specialist and the one we hired.

The school backed down.

You HAVE to play hardball with public school systems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole process when dealing with a SN child- especially the IEP process. I have PSTD from it. Seriously.

don't tell me... it was in MCPS?

FCPS

ugh. sorry to hear that. we are in MCPS and facing similar challenges.

Make sure they know you are willing to bring in a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

I hated fcps as a kid. Too restricting and stuffy. And if you were smart but not smart enough you were ignored. Luckily I applied to an arts high school far, far, far away and loved it.

[Anonymous]

FCPS IEP process. It's not just the money we had to spend on private evaluations and advocates, it's the emotional ringer you go through when you know what the school is doing defies logic, is contrary to the law and is just morally wrong. Then, the cynicism that develops when FCPS quickly reverses itself when faced with a state complaint/attorney. It's colored all my interactions with them at IEP meetings. I know new school team members wonder why we insist on such detailed meeting notes and nitpick over words and meaning. It's because we learned the hard way that we have to document every detail.