DH and I disagree on college

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Average is more like 3.0. If she was getting steady C's through school, her GPA is definitely below average.

Here is the warped view.

C is average. C is 2.0

OP here-- thank you. I agree with you. C is average. 3.0 is better than average.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Average is more like 3.0. If she was getting steady C's through school, her GPA is definitely below average.

Here is the warped view.

C is average. C is 2.0

That would be true if teachers graded so that C was the average. They don't. The PP who said a 3.0 was average is closer to the mark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Average is more like 3.0. If she was getting steady C's through school, her GPA is definitely below average.

Here is the warped view.

C is average. C is 2.0

That would be true if teachers graded so that C was the average. They don't. The PP who said a 3.0 was average is closer to the mark.

OP again-- if that's true, then the decision maybe out of my hands. If she is not admitted to any of the schools she is applying to, then there is no decision to make.

[Anonymous]

OP, if the reason you think she has a 2.0 average is because: 1. She chose not to apply herself, or 2. She is not academically inclined, then I would agree with you. But you have indicated that her learning disability is a factor. A better school will have better services to help her.

Bottom line: I would send her to the best school she can get into if she has the aptitude for college and is willing to try. If she doesn't know what she wants to do, save the money and go for community college. But keep in mind, an Econ 101 class at a community college is not of the same quality as at a private 4 year school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any thought to what the kids wants?

She has already announced that her goal is to be a SAHM and have 4 kids. She strongly dislikes school and studying but college is whatever is "supposed" to do so she feels there is pressure to conform. She was on the CC plan until DH mentioned the option of a 4 yr school.

As far as her ability to function on day to day things-- she does her own laundry, can make her own meals, pack her lunch, and get herself to school on time. But given the choice between cleaning the gutters and school work, gutters win. She has very poor time management skills and still requires constant reminders from me and her teachers about assignments that are due.

With this additional info, it really doesn't sound like college is what she wants. Instead of focusing on 2 year/vs 4 year, what about focusing on a job/training path that will allow her to be financially self-sufficent until Mr Right comes along (if he does). Is there a type of work that she likes to do? It sounds like she actually prefers work to studying, maybe you should focus on helping her get a job. She could work for a year, and then she if there is any type of training or certificate she could get to help with more stability and more money.

[Anonymous]

I would want to see a B average for two years of community college then transfer.

Is there anyone like a guidance counselor who might weigh in?

[Anonymous]

If you have plenty of money, I would quickly try to research four year colleges that say they will work with kids with learning disabilities.

She has a much better chance of being a stay at home mom married to a man who has a good salary if she has a college degree. Statistically, men who have graduate degrees or high oaying professional jobs are unlikely to marry someone with an associate's degree.

[Anonymous]

Could ODU be a choice - less selective state school ??

[Anonymous]

She should start out at community college. It will be hard for her, and the support of living at home will be more help than she'll realize. She can transfer after one or two years to a four-year college AFTER community college.

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it, give her the choice and tell her she has to maintain a 2.75 gpa. I did terrible on the sat but has about a .3.0, maybe higher. I did much better in college as I enjoyed the classes and my major. Give her a chance. B

[Anonymous]

Dear OP,
Our child is only in 7th grade now but I'm thinking she will be like your child 5 years from now.

Right now for our child, I am thinking 2 years in CC first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Average is more like 3.0. If she was getting steady C's through school, her GPA is definitely below average.

Here is the warped view.

C is average. C is 2.0

That would be true if teachers graded so that C was the average. They don't. The PP who said a 3.0 was average is closer to the mark.

C is the average. Your child is just not in class with D and F students, that world does not exist to you. Schools segregate classes in HS, parents use honors and AP classes to segregate.

OP, There are small schools that have very good counseling programs for kids with LDs. I don't know your budget or the specific LD. I think it would be of value to invest in a psychologist that specializes in college placement for LDs.

I know this is very scary to think your child might not be able to support herself and being a SAHM is not the best plan. Lots of C students thrive when they find their thing, school is not everybody's thing...sometimes it is a necessary evil to get where you need to go.

[Anonymous]

Not all CCs are alike. I know someone who started out at CC and had a wonderful experience there -- and there WAS more support for less capable students. Don't assume that any private college is necessarily better than any community college.

Friend ended up in a four year college and then getting a PhD from Hopkins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any thought to what the kids wants?

She has already announced that her goal is to be a SAHM and have 4 kids. She strongly dislikes school and studying but college is whatever is "supposed" to do so she feels there is pressure to conform. She was on the CC plan until DH mentioned the option of a 4 yr school.

As far as her ability to function on day to day things-- she does her own laundry, can make her own meals, pack her lunch, and get herself to school on time. But given the choice between cleaning the gutters and school work, gutters win. She has very poor time management skills and still requires constant reminders from me and her teachers about assignments that are due.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any thought to what the kids wants?

She has already announced that her goal is to be a SAHM and have 4 kids. She strongly dislikes school and studying but college is whatever is "supposed" to do so she feels there is pressure to conform. She was on the CC plan until DH mentioned the option of a 4 yr school.

As far as her ability to function on day to day things-- she does her own laundry, can make her own meals, pack her lunch, and get herself to school on time. But given the choice between cleaning the gutters and school work, gutters win. She has very poor time management skills and still requires constant reminders from me and her teachers about assignments that are due.

This shines a new light on your DH's motivation to put her in a 4-year-school. He's thinking she'll find a better quality husband at a University. Honestly, though, if she's struggling in high school and has no enthusiasm to go to college, then even CC is an iffy choice if she can't find a field that interests her.