government freeloading sister in law

[jsteele]

Just in case it is not obvious, the previous three posts are are written by the same user who apparently could not get all of her insults into a single post.

[Anonymous]

BUSTED BY Jeff LOL You go boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my goodness, where does a person get free diapers and formula? I never heard of free diapers before....

Maryland gives out free carseats and cribs to low income mothers. I would not be surprised if they were handing out vouchers for diapers.

[Anonymous]

"Just in case it is not obvious, the previous three posts are are written by the same user who apparently could not get all of her insults into a single post."

As opposed to the "insults" the OP wrote about her SIL. That's OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Just in case it is not obvious, the previous three posts are are written by the same user who apparently could not get all of her insults into a single post."

As opposed to the "insults" the OP wrote about her SIL. That's OK.

The poster has also been busy all night slinging insults all around, her nastiness is apparant by the succession of nasty posts on various threads. I suspect she migrated from the Grocery/Coupon thread she has been sock puppeting as well. Maybe a bad day for her today?

[Anonymous]

OP, I am right there with you except my SIL is 34 years old and has 5 kids and is living on the government's dime. I hope in your case since your SIL is young, she can get her act together. In my case SIL is the queen of the handout. She gets a ton of money from the government and has been since she was 19.

So besides food stamps she gets medical assistance, legal assistance, free diapers (some lady whose child is disabled gets them from the govt. and gives to SIL) and she has the church circuit down pat. I know she has gotten a ton of cash, a plumber paid for, gas cards and windows replaced just in the last year.

I feel so bad for all the people who have donated to them. Every year she finds someone to adopt the family for Christmas and it is ridiculous how much stuff they get and how unappreciative the kids are. 2 years ago she got a college group and a church to adopt her. Oldest nephew gets a bike which gets stolen in 2 weeks because he just leaves it out front in the yard. So last year he gets another bike from another church group for Christmas and you guessed it, it gets stolen within a month!

In the last 2 years she has finally gotten a part-time job but that is only because she married a complete dead beat who sits home all day and plays video games. He tried to apply for disability, saying that he is deaf and got denied. He literally does nothing all day. My youngest niece and nephew are 3 and 4 and do not talk and I swear it is because he doesn't play or do anything with them all day.

It kills me how irresponsible she is. Last year she got a small bonus from work. At the time they had no washer and dryer because they had died. The responsible person would go out and buy a new W&D but she goes out and buys a new video game system for the deadbeat husband.

What is most upsetting is that my nieces and nephews are growing up thinking this is normal behavior. They really are seeing no work ethic and live in complete filth.

My SIL loves to play the pity card and she will tell you what a hard and horrible life she has had but she grew up upper middle class and she had many opportunities that a lot of people don't get. Her motto pretty much is why should I pay for something when someone else can.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it
A young delighted mother who believes she will get by
What is so wrong with that.
You do not have children. Let the pregnant mommies dream and do a little shopping. She will need what she buys. Babies go thru a lot of clothes

[Anonymous]

To the OP - designer baby clothes are very easy to buy at a deeply discounted price. I think it is interesting that you automatically believed that she spent alot of $ on the clothes.

A person's values do not change overnight as they do not develop overnight. A firm talking to is not going to work. You and your brother being a part of your SIL's life and role modeling good family values is about the best that you can do.

She might better hear you - if you drop the self-righteousness too. We all have our issues - I am sure that you have yours too. Good Luck!

[Anonymous]

Free diapers are actually hard to come by. You can't use food stamps to buy diapers. And according to a recent Washington Post article, many of the area nonprofits in Montgomery County are tapped out of free diapers. The article quoted the Executive Director of Interfaith Works as saying something along the lines that all of her caseworkers reported that families seeking assistance had infants with bad diaper rashes b/c they couldn't afford diapers. The Ex Director was calling for assistance with a diaper drive.

Also, FWIW, Montgomery County is strapped right now in terms of housing assistance for homeless families (many are presently being temporarily sheltered in motels). And monthly public benefits (TANF) do not cover even the most basic expenses. To put it bluntly: there really isn't much of a safety net for folks -- and as the economy gets worse and middle class people are finding themselves tetering on the brink of homelessness, more folks will be competing for benefits and services that are already spread too thin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is at least getting free diapers and formula and that is enough to get me outraged. I felt like saying to her, I would like to get back at least $1200 for the first year of my sons life because realistically I would have rather bought a new Gucci purse instead of all those diapers.

She once told me that her boyfriend made "good money" on disability. My husband spit out his food and was like, maybe I should just start paying your bills directly because essentially that is what I am doing.

The fact that my mother in law is fully in favor of the whole thing makes me pissed at her too.

How are you related to your in-laws? Thru your husband? If so, how did he get out of this freeloading mentality?

Plus, your SIL is not already receiving government aid, is she? Maybe it's my level of ignorance, but I'd be surprised if they rec'd much cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am right there with you except my SIL is 34 years old and has 5 kids and is living on the government's dime. I hope in your case since your SIL is young, she can get her act together. In my case SIL is the queen of the handout. She gets a ton of money from the government and has been since she was 19.

So besides food stamps she gets medical assistance, legal assistance, free diapers (some lady whose child is disabled gets them from the govt. and gives to SIL) and she has the church circuit down pat. I know she has gotten a ton of cash, a plumber paid for, gas cards and windows replaced just in the last year.

I feel so bad for all the people who have donated to them. Every year she finds someone to adopt the family for Christmas and it is ridiculous how much stuff they get and how unappreciative the kids are. 2 years ago she got a college group and a church to adopt her. Oldest nephew gets a bike which gets stolen in 2 weeks because he just leaves it out front in the yard. So last year he gets another bike from another church group for Christmas and you guessed it, it gets stolen within a month!

In the last 2 years she has finally gotten a part-time job but that is only because she married a complete dead beat who sits home all day and plays video games. He tried to apply for disability, saying that he is deaf and got denied. He literally does nothing all day. My youngest niece and nephew are 3 and 4 and do not talk and I swear it is because he doesn't play or do anything with them all day.

It kills me how irresponsible she is. Last year she got a small bonus from work. At the time they had no washer and dryer because they had died. The responsible person would go out and buy a new W&D but she goes out and buys a new video game system for the deadbeat husband.

What is most upsetting is that my nieces and nephews are growing up thinking this is normal behavior. They really are seeing no work ethic and live in complete filth.

My SIL loves to play the pity card and she will tell you what a hard and horrible life she has had but she grew up upper middle class and she had many opportunities that a lot of people don't get. Her motto pretty much is why should I pay for something when someone else can.

This is why I don't like to donate thru my company's charity program. I don't know where and how the money is spent.

[Anonymous]

My sister freeloads too despite having grown up with middle-class advantages. She just does not like to work. I have learned that compassion is the only answer. OP, consider that what may be intolerable to you -- accepting handouts -- is perfectly fine for someone else. You should not expect her to have your standards.

[Anonymous]

I have no respect for free loaders family or not. They are parasites.

[Anonymous]

There's no way someone has been receiving TANF (commonly referred to as welfare) since she was 19 if she is presently 34. The old AFDC system was revamped as TANF and there are hard and fast time limits. Now she or her children may have been declared disabled and then she could be eligible for SSI -- that's a different story. I'm only writing to clarify so folks don't think that it's possible to ride the welfare gravy train long-term -- that simply isn't the case anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's no way someone has been receiving TANF (commonly referred to as welfare) since she was 19 if she is presently 34. The old AFDC system was revamped as TANF and there are hard and fast time limits. Now she or her children may have been declared disabled and then she could be eligible for SSI -- that's a different story. I'm only writing to clarify so folks don't think that it's possible to ride the welfare gravy train long-term -- that simply isn't the case anymore.

What happens after the ride is over? They all become employed?