Share your story - Mother and MIL venting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.

I'm not sure what that has to do with my mother-in-law....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.

I'm not sure what that has to do with my mother-in-law....

The fact that you would say that stupid s*** says a lot about your mom
NP HERE!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.

What does the fact that you have no empathy says about your parents? We you neglected as a child?

[Anonymous]

oh you are right. anyone who has a child as a teen must be terrible, and so is the mother (the father is totally fine, of course.)

what the hell is wrong with you, PP?

[Anonymous]

I have SO many, but the standout one really is when DH and I told MIL that we had gotten engaged.

We had broken up earlier that year mostly because DH was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and it resulted in him shutting down any time we would have even the slightest conflict. The trauma was mostly from childhood - sexual abuse that he never felt safe telling his parents about, the death of a sibling that was handled very badly by his parents, their divorce - nothing actually directly related to our relationship. Anyway, after a few months of him being in therapy, we got back together and got engaged.

He called her and had me on speakerphone but we never actually told her I was on speakerphone (not an intentional oversight)...we were just at hello and she said, "What's new?" and he said, "____ and I got engaged!" and she GASPED and said, "OHMYGOD, have you talked to your therapist about that?!?!!?!?" (as if it was a horrible thing....)

we have never really recovered from that moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have SO many, but the standout one really is when DH and I told MIL that we had gotten engaged.

We had broken up earlier that year mostly because DH was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and it resulted in him shutting down any time we would have even the slightest conflict. The trauma was mostly from childhood - sexual abuse that he never felt safe telling his parents about, the death of a sibling that was handled very badly by his parents, their divorce - nothing actually directly related to our relationship. Anyway, after a few months of him being in therapy, we got back together and got engaged.

He called her and had me on speakerphone but we never actually told her I was on speakerphone (not an intentional oversight)...we were just at hello and she said, "What's new?" and he said, "____ and I got engaged!" and she GASPED and said, "OHMYGOD, have you talked to your therapist about that?!?!!?!?" (as if it was a horrible thing....)

we have never really recovered from that moment.

Lol, that's awful! When we told my MIL we were getting engaged, at a dinner in a restaurant, she literally cried while mumbling to herself "My life is over." She wore white to our wedding, and tried to find out exactly where our honeymoon was so she could come. We were gone for ten days. She called 28 times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have SO many, but the standout one really is when DH and I told MIL that we had gotten engaged.

We had broken up earlier that year mostly because DH was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and it resulted in him shutting down any time we would have even the slightest conflict. The trauma was mostly from childhood - sexual abuse that he never felt safe telling his parents about, the death of a sibling that was handled very badly by his parents, their divorce - nothing actually directly related to our relationship. Anyway, after a few months of him being in therapy, we got back together and got engaged.

He called her and had me on speakerphone but we never actually told her I was on speakerphone (not an intentional oversight)...we were just at hello and she said, "What's new?" and he said, "____ and I got engaged!" and she GASPED and said, "OHMYGOD, have you talked to your therapist about that?!?!!?!?" (as if it was a horrible thing....)

we have never really recovered from that moment.

Lol, that's awful! When we told my MIL we were getting engaged, at a dinner in a restaurant, she literally cried while mumbling to herself "My life is over." She wore white to our wedding, and tried to find out exactly where our honeymoon was so she could come. We were gone for ten days. She called 28 times.

PP here, OMG!!!! That is awful. And hilarious. Please tell me she lives far from you now!

[Anonymous]

My MIL's Christmas card the year DS1 was born was a birth announcement (all pics of DS with the family plus birth stats). And we hadn't even sent one out yet. And she didn't send one to us!

It was weird and bothered me a little, but I generally love her so I kept my mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.

I thought you were talking about your mother. Nevermind.

I'm not sure what that has to do with my mother-in-law....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have SO many, but the standout one really is when DH and I told MIL that we had gotten engaged.

We had broken up earlier that year mostly because DH was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and it resulted in him shutting down any time we would have even the slightest conflict. The trauma was mostly from childhood - sexual abuse that he never felt safe telling his parents about, the death of a sibling that was handled very badly by his parents, their divorce - nothing actually directly related to our relationship. Anyway, after a few months of him being in therapy, we got back together and got engaged.

He called her and had me on speakerphone but we never actually told her I was on speakerphone (not an intentional oversight)...we were just at hello and she said, "What's new?" and he said, "____ and I got engaged!" and she GASPED and said, "OHMYGOD, have you talked to your therapist about that?!?!!?!?" (as if it was a horrible thing....)

we have never really recovered from that moment.

That's hilarious. If you have to have inlaws you aren't going to get along with, at least it's good to have funny stories like that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just my most recent one, not by any means the worst - they're planning to visit. Only the second time in 2 years (they are driving distance, but overnight stays are necessary).

"I'm bringing chicken and potatoes and cereal with me"
"Um, why?"
"You never have any food in the house"

REALLY?? Your first visit i went out of my way to make really nice meals that accommodated whatever fad diet you were on at the time. The second visit I had a 2 WEEK OLD - I told you there was pasta in the pantry and handed you a folder of take out menus. Don't judge my ability to keep a functional and fed household based on when I had a 2 week old and preschooler. I actually cook real meals far more often than most people I know.

My mom did this the last time she was here, soon after I had my second. She insisted on cooking, instead of ordering, so she could be "helpful" - then spent the next hour complaining about how she had to "make do" with the pasta, chicken and broccoli we had on hand, and how I used to "keep food in the house", and how I used to "have delicious meals ready for her to cook."

[Anonymous]

When DD was a baby she preferred using her left hand to hold utensils, toys etc. MIL would move them to her right hand and tell me that it would be better to prevent her from becoming left-handed. When MIL would hand DD things she would only put them on her right side.

[Anonymous]

A day or two before my wedding my MIL, my mom and MILs friend went out to lunch. MIL told my mother that in every divorce there was a liar and a good person, my DH had told her my father was a good man so my
Mother must be the liar and the reason for the divorce. ? luckily I'm pretty sure she is back on her meds these days.

[Anonymous]

I still have a bag of frozen ham bones from her last visit in our freezer. She cooked ham for Christmas dinner. She thought it was a good idea to keep them so we could cook something with them..
(I know I should through them away.. ) but to my defense I am a FTM and work full time. This year has just been a big learning curve...

[Anonymous]

I meant to write "throw" the away...