Remembering anniversaries- do you get upset

[Anonymous]

I've always remembered the big ones, but I don't send gifts or cards yearly to our parents for their anniversary. We received a lot of cards on our first anniversary, but not afterwards. Marriage is between a couple

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry but the only two people who need to remember a wedding anniversary are the husband and wife. Nobody else. If you want a celebration you as the spouses are the hosts and invite people. You can't expect cards or congratulations for this...that's actually really weird. It's a day that's special to husband and wife - nobody else.

[Anonymous]

So to be clear.. I've always sent my parents a card or got them something nice for their anniversary. Same with my inlaws. They didn't acknowledge ours though, it was our one year. So it's cool then if I just forget remembering theirs and stop sending a gift? Why do I need to recognize theirs if they don't need to remember mine.

[Anonymous]

I am a DW who forgets our wedding anniversaries sometimes. It does not bother me that others forget as well.

[Anonymous]

Anniversary is for DH and I, only. I do not expect anyone else to acknowledge us for it. I don't congratulate my dad on his anniversary or my siblings, and we are all very close!

[Anonymous]

if I had my way, Mother's Day, Father's Day, birthdays for people over 18, and all anniversaries but your own would be abolished. My husband feels the same.

Drives us nuts. We are expected to make a bigger deal about my dad's anniversary than we do about our own?

[Anonymous]

I only care if DH remembers it. Growing up my sister and I wanted to acknowledge our parent’s but my mom always said it was between my Dad and her. However, after we were much older and had families of our own and my parents were retired, we would send flowers or a card most years and on their 50th we sent yard flamingos- they loved that (we also upgraded their room when they went on a trip near their anniversary). My mom really appreciated it in the last decade or so.

[Anonymous]

I always acknowledge my parents' anniversary - card and usually a gift (they're anniversary is NYE so I usually find a Christmas ornament). My mom would get upset if I didn't. Mom also sends us a card and sometimes a restaurant GC for our anniversary. DH's parents don't acknowledge their own anniversary so we also don't do anything for them. The only anniversary they've acknowledged of ours was last year (our 10 year) with flowers sent to our hotel and they were at our house watching the kids for a night getaway - it was sweet!

[Anonymous]

I usually informally acknowledge my parents (text, FB message, mentioning it if I'm already calling them about something else). I think I might have given them a small gift on their 30th, but that is unusual. They don't care. Their acknowledgement of our anniversary is similar. My MIL always sends a card (she does for EVERYTHING). Pretty sure my DH doesn't acknowledge theirs, I doubt he even knows when it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but the only two people who need to remember a wedding anniversary are the husband and wife. Nobody else. If you want a celebration you as the spouses are the hosts and invite people. You can't expect cards or congratulations for this...that's actually really weird. It's a day that's special to husband and wife - nobody else.

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This!!

The only exception is when kids throw a 50th anniversary party for their parents. Otherwise anniversaries should only be celebrations between spouses. I think it would be quite weird to get a gift for our anniversary from anyone other than my husband (and we typically don't do gifts - just dinner or a night at a hotel).

[Anonymous]

OMG i saw this thread headline and just realized we missed ours th other day! YIKES! dang -

better stop for some flowers on the way home...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW who forgets our wedding anniversaries sometimes. It does not bother me that others forget as well.

Seriously, particularly the year we had a 7 day old. I think towards the end of the day one of us went "Oh, isn't it our anniversary?"

I haven't a clue when my ILs' anniversary is. I sort of remember my parents, I know this year is their 50th and my brother and I are throwing a party for them because that seems like a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW who forgets our wedding anniversaries sometimes. It does not bother me that others forget as well.

Seriously, particularly the year we had a 7 day old. I think towards the end of the day one of us went "Oh, isn't it our anniversary?"

I haven't a clue when my ILs' anniversary is. I sort of remember my parents, I know this year is their 50th and my brother and I are throwing a party for them because that seems like a big deal.

+1 I have no clue, and I don't care. I'm lucky if I remember mine. I pay attention only to birthdays and have to write those down too LOL

[Anonymous]

I barely even remember my own anniversary.

I congratulate my parents on milestone anniversaries. That's about it.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I nearly always forgot our own anniversary.

So no, I don't expect anyone else to remember it, and I don't expect to remember other people's!!!

Who are these people so uptight about these things? Relax and enjoy your lives, for God's sake.