My MIL finally admitted she thinks her son is "perfect"

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL believes both my DH and son to be perfect. I think she thinks I'm perfect by association.

That's a good thing, wish it would be my MIL's attitude. Instead, when she visits she constantly criticizes me and praises her son.

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Ah, the classic "Since the man is involved at any level more than my husband was, he's just so amazing and you should be sooo grateful for allll he does" attitude.

Yeah, that's really annoying. Try not to take it personally.

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If my mom told me I was passable but quite enough for her, my feelings would've been hurt! LOL

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OK, I've been thinking about this.

Personally I don't find this a strange thing for her to say. My question would be: does your husband think he is perfect? If the answer is yes, then I think there's a problem. Otherwise, whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, the classic "Since the man is involved at any level more than my husband was, he's just so amazing and you should be sooo grateful for allll he does" attitude.

Yeah, that's really annoying. Try not to take it personally.

OP here. Thanks. I am working on it. The repetitive nature of it makes me feel like she won't stop bringing it up. Ever. I wish she would move on.

I will also admit I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder about this because not only is my husband perfect in his mother's eyes, my parents cannot stop thinking he's the best thing ever either. Clearly I am chopped liver.

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Anonymous wrote:If my mom told me I was passable but quite enough for her, my feelings would've been hurt! LOL

Passable is insulting. But saying no one is perfect isn't a bad thing.

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Anonymous wrote:OK, I've been thinking about this.

Personally I don't find this a strange thing for her to say. My question would be: does your husband think he is perfect? If the answer is yes, then I think there's a problem. Otherwise, whatever.

OP here. No, and I asked him since he did hear the comment his mom made. He thinks it's weird / rude too.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, the classic "Since the man is involved at any level more than my husband was, he's just so amazing and you should be sooo grateful for allll he does" attitude.

Yeah, that's really annoying. Try not to take it personally.

OP here. Thanks. I am working on it. The repetitive nature of it makes me feel like she won't stop bringing it up. Ever. I wish she would move on.

I will also admit I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder about this because not only is my husband perfect in his mother's eyes, my parents cannot stop thinking he's the best thing ever either. Clearly I am chopped liver.

Your MIL lacks tact, but I am sure your parents think you are perfect yourself. Plus, your parents are happy that their perfect daughter found a great husband.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, the classic "Since the man is involved at any level more than my husband was, he's just so amazing and you should be sooo grateful for allll he does" attitude.

Yeah, that's really annoying. Try not to take it personally.

OP here. Thanks. I am working on it. The repetitive nature of it makes me feel like she won't stop bringing it up. Ever. I wish she would move on.

I will also admit I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder about this because not only is my husband perfect in his mother's eyes, my parents cannot stop thinking he's the best thing ever either. Clearly I am chopped liver.

Oh, yeah, my mother is the one who used to make comments about how amazing it was that DH cooked. She's finally stopped after my repeated explanations that that's more of an expectation than an exception now. I also stopped complaining if DH was annoying me by not doing some household task, which seemed fair. Mom didn't like it, and she wasn't sympathetic, so...

And the end of the day, though, it sounds like you do have a pretty good husband, so there is that, and as long as *he* is appreciative of what you do, that's also something.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I think my boys at perfect in MY eye. I love them unconditionally and accept they are who they are. I mean it in the sense I love the kids who they are. Parent the kid you get not the kid you want.

How are your kids perfect? Do they make mistakes? You must be a peach to deal with.

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"The capacity to blunder slightly is the real marvel of DNA. Without this special attribute, we would still be anaerobic bacteria and there would be no music. Viewed individually, one by one, each of the mutations that have brought us along represents a random, totally spontaneous accident, but it is no accident at all that mutations occur; the molecule of DNA was ordained from the beginning to make small mistakes." Lewis Thomas

If were perfect, "we would be anaerobic bacteria and there would be no music."

No one is perfect.

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Anonymous wrote:

OP here. Thanks. I am working on it. The repetitive nature of it makes me feel like she won't stop bringing it up. Ever. I wish she would move on.

I will also admit I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder about this because not only is my husband perfect in his mother's eyes, my parents cannot stop thinking he's the best thing ever either. Clearly I am chopped liver.

Sounds like an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond. *cue laugh track*

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Anonymous wrote:

I hear you OP. My MIL says that her son is the only good man on this earth, therefore she will never be able to get married (no other man is as good as her son). I know he's perfect for her, he can do no wrong, etc., but I wish she could use a little bit of humor when talking about him. We all love our children, they all are perfect for us, but but it is smart to keep this feeling to ourselves.

Sounds like someone has an Oedipus complex.

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My son is perfect.

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No one is perfect.

Nah, it's just you suck.