My MIL finally admitted she thinks her son is "perfect"

[Anonymous]

Nothing more to add. Just nice she finally confirmed my suspicion.

[Anonymous]

Don't you think YOUR child is perfect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you think YOUR child is perfect?

Not the OP, but I don't think either of my children are perfect. What does that mean?

[Anonymous]

OK. Congratulations?

[Anonymous]

My kids are all perfect! So is my husband, my dog and my me for that matter!

But...my perfection may not be yours... It's all in the eye of the beholder !

[Anonymous]

Oops - no my- damn perfection !

[Anonymous]

OP, you shouldn't be sharing with her, complaining to her, whatever you are doing.

Something has prompted this

[Anonymous]

Perfect for her? Weird. Elaborate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you shouldn't be sharing with her, complaining to her, whatever you are doing.

Something has prompted this

OP here. Wish I could remember what prompted her to say that, but I do not. Our conversation is always innocuous, I know better than to say anything of substance to her. I was so stunned (she said this in the presence of my husband) I turned to my DD (who isn't even two) and said sorry girl, you are not perfect but you will always be good enough for mom!

I think her "perfect" comment stems from the comment she has made since our DD was born. She makes it a point to tell
ME each time she visits how wonderful it is her son is so involved with DD. I have tried to handle this in various ways, but she loves to repeat it. I know my husband is a wonderful person (I married him!) but sorry, co-parenting isn't an above and beyond behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you think YOUR child is perfect?

Not the OP, but I don't think either of my children are perfect. What does that mean?

OP. I agree PP. My child is not perfect but I love her beyond measure. I think everyone has room to improve and teaching children otherwise will lead to many disappointments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was so stunned (she said this in the presence of my husband) I turned to my DD (who isn't even two) and said sorry girl, you are not perfect but you will always be good enough for mom!

Aren't you a pleasure to be around!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you shouldn't be sharing with her, complaining to her, whatever you are doing.

Something has prompted this

OP here. Wish I could remember what prompted her to say that, but I do not. Our conversation is always innocuous, I know better than to say anything of substance to her. I was so stunned (she said this in the presence of my husband) I turned to my DD (who isn't even two) and said sorry girl, you are not perfect but you will always be good enough for mom!

I think her "perfect" comment stems from the comment she has made since our DD was born. She makes it a point to tell
ME each time she visits how wonderful it is her son is so involved with DD. I have tried to handle this in various ways, but she loves to repeat it. I know my husband is a wonderful person (I married him!) but sorry, co-parenting isn't an above and beyond behavior.

Maybe it's because her own husband (your DH's father) wasn't as involved, so she thinks her son is so great that he is involved. A lot of moms think their sons are "perfect". My MIL hangs on DH's every word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you shouldn't be sharing with her, complaining to her, whatever you are doing.

Something has prompted this

OP here. Wish I could remember what prompted her to say that, but I do not. Our conversation is always innocuous, I know better than to say anything of substance to her. I was so stunned (she said this in the presence of my husband) I turned to my DD (who isn't even two) and said sorry girl, you are not perfect but you will always be good enough for mom!

I think her "perfect" comment stems from the comment she has made since our DD was born. She makes it a point to tell
ME each time she visits how wonderful it is her son is so involved with DD. I have tried to handle this in various ways, but she loves to repeat it. I know my husband is a wonderful person (I married him!) but sorry, co-parenting isn't an above and beyond behavior.

I hear you OP. My MIL says that her son is the only good man on this earth, therefore she will never be able to get married (no other man is as good as her son). I know he's perfect for her, he can do no wrong, etc., but I wish she could use a little bit of humor when talking about him. We all love our children, they all are perfect for us, but but it is smart to keep this feeling to ourselves.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I think my boys at perfect in MY eye. I love them unconditionally and accept they are who they are. I mean it in the sense I love the kids who they are. Parent the kid you get not the kid you want.

[Anonymous]

My MIL believes both my DH and son to be perfect. I think she thinks I'm perfect by association.