My dd is being made fun of for eating salads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's be real. 9th grade girls who eat salads everyday are dieting.

+1. Sorry no one loves salad THAT much. Even if your dd does over the, can't she get her fill of them at dinner at home and eat PB&J at school like everyone else? Sorry but parents here are SO quick to cry bullying when in reality they don't want to accept that special snowflakes who set themselves apart esp being the new kid will be made fun of.

[Anonymous]

The best way for your DD to deal with this is to calmly go on eating her salad and show her stable weight, day after day.

And if the bullying continues past the first week of school, she can alert a principal.

[Anonymous]

I've been working with my young children to not care what anyone thinks about them. I hope by the time 9th grade comes along they can say "I like salad" with a confident smile and keep on going with their conversation as if nothing happened. I know I couldn't have because I had no spine in HS, but I hope my kids can. She should just be confident in her choices and not care what those people think.

[Anonymous]

I tell my kids most people are fine but some are jerks. That helps them.

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Are they indirectly commenting on her weight\?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been working with my young children to not care what anyone thinks about them. I hope by the time 9th grade comes along they can say "I like salad" with a confident smile and keep on going with their conversation as if nothing happened. I know I couldn't have because I had no spine in HS, but I hope my kids can. She should just be confident in her choices and not care what those people think.

+1 I've told DD since kindergarten that when a child picks on you, it says more about them than it does about you. DD also brings super healthy lunches everyday and kids comment on it. She just smiles and says "I like being healthy" and considers it part of her identity. When I was going to put a homemade brownie in her lunch one day, she said it would "ruin her rep" as the healthy one. Granted, she is in 6th grade, not 9th, so we'll see if her confidence continues in high school, but please don't tell your DD to change her behavior because of what these girls say, it is absolutely the wrong message to send to a girl her age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's be real. 9th grade girls who eat salads everyday are dieting.

+1. Sorry no one loves salad THAT much. Even if your dd does over the, can't she get her fill of them at dinner at home and eat PB&J at school like everyone else? Sorry but parents here are SO quick to cry bullying when in reality they don't want to accept that special snowflakes who set themselves apart esp being the new kid will be made fun of.

These are odd statements. We're not talking about elementary students here. Lots of high schoolers love salads. My 10th grader--a very healthy athlete--always votes for Sweetgreen or Chop't when we are trying to pick a takeout option. And salads she gets from those places could never qualify as diet food.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your daughter very skinny as well?

[Anonymous]

You don't handle it. Damn, she's in 9th grade. Tell her to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

What kind of salads are these? Being "in love" with salads and veggies is how I hid my eating disorder from my family.

[Anonymous]

All this after 1 week of school? My DS is a very healthy eater. He actually likes not just salad but kale salad. He just owned it. Interestingly, eventually a lot of the other guys started to adopt his eating habits. But the girls were like that from the start so surprising that your DD is getting teased for this. All DSs girl friends practically lived at sweet green.

[Anonymous]

First. World. Problem! Life. Ain't. Fair!

[Anonymous]

Help your daughter realize that most Americans are fat and unhealthy and so of course they don't understand eating lots of salads and veggies.

I've been working with my young children to not care what anyone thinks about them. I hope by the time 9th grade comes along they can say "I like salad" with a confident smile and keep on going with their conversation as if nothing happened. I know I couldn't have because I had no spine in HS, but I hope my kids can. She should just be confident in her choices and not care what those people think.

This is what I would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been working with my young children to not care what anyone thinks about them. I hope by the time 9th grade comes along they can say "I like salad" with a confident smile and keep on going with their conversation as if nothing happened. I know I couldn't have because I had no spine in HS, but I hope my kids can. She should just be confident in her choices and not care what those people think.

This is a better response. "Ignore it" isn't always very helpful advice for kids. They often need to address situations head on instead.

[Anonymous]

Have hew add a protein like peanut butter & jelly.