Etiquette regarding when you know a coworker is applying for other jobs

[Anonymous]

^exact^ not "eat"

[Anonymous]

Well on the plus side, you're unlikely to ever asked to be a reference again since you'll have the reputation as a tattle tale

[Anonymous]

Why are you asking DCUM about etiquette regarding your coworker applying for other jobs, since you already made your decision? You already tattled. You suck, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you asking DCUM about etiquette regarding your coworker applying for other jobs, since you already made your decision? You already tattled. You suck, OP.

Because the type of people who tattle are the same types who would also post online so others would say "good job!" So they could further pat themselves on the back. Notice how OP hasn't come back since the responses are the opposite (although I'm sure she'll say she was busy and of course this isn't her personality)

[Anonymous]

OP...you suck. I would never do that to a coworker I agreed to be a reference for.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP. While I don't agree with what you did I have to wonder why your colleague did not inform you of the situation first. It is proper etiquette to ask someone if you can use them as a reference before doing so. Had the colleague done this and explained the situation, hopefully you would not have felt the need to tell.

Next time come to DCUM first for advice not after the fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you asking DCUM about etiquette regarding your coworker applying for other jobs, since you already made your decision? You already tattled. You suck, OP.

I'm asking because after the fact, I did feel like I had done the wrong thing. And, I wanted to get feedback in case this ever happens again. (It has never happened to me before.)

The coworker did not ask me in advance if he could use me as a reference on job applications.

I've been at my agency a very long time and know that me sharing this information is not going to hurt him. Yet, out of discretion, I think I should've kept quiet.

My boss thought this information should be shared with management probably because he thought they should be prepared for the possibility of him leaving soon. But I'm not sure what can (or should) be done until the employee actually gives notice. But his comment made me think that, as a manager, maybe my loyalty should be more to the other managers/supervisors. On the other hand, If I get a reputation among the staff as a gossip or tattle-tale, that could hurt me professionally.

[Anonymous]

Congrats OP, you now have that reputation.

[Anonymous]

If he didn't ask you if he could use you as a reference, and you work for the same place, that was a HUGE mistake.

That said, I wouldn't have told. What would you gain from that?

[Anonymous]

You blabbed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you asking DCUM about etiquette regarding your coworker applying for other jobs, since you already made your decision? You already tattled. You suck, OP.

I'm asking because after the fact, I did feel like I had done the wrong thing. And, I wanted to get feedback in case this ever happens again. (It has never happened to me before.)

The coworker did not ask me in advance if he could use me as a reference on job applications.

I've been at my agency a very long time and know that me sharing this information is not going to hurt him. Yet, out of discretion, I think I should've kept quiet.

My boss thought this information should be shared with management probably because he thought they should be prepared for the possibility of him leaving soon. But I'm not sure what can (or should) be done until the employee actually gives notice. But his comment made me think that, as a manager, maybe my loyalty should be more to the other managers/supervisors. On the other hand, If I get a reputation among the staff as a gossip or tattle-tale, that could hurt me professionally.

He should have talked to you. It got out my husband was looking for another job. But, his group was great and instead of him leaving, gave him three different job offers with a pay raise to stay. If has no offer, but clearly interviewed well. If anything, if he is a good employee, find out why he is trying to leave and fix it.

[Anonymous]

Moral of the story: Never ask a woman to be a reference for any reason.

[Anonymous]

OP YOU SUCK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you asking DCUM about etiquette regarding your coworker applying for other jobs, since you already made your decision? You already tattled. You suck, OP.

I'm asking because after the fact, I did feel like I had done the wrong thing. And, I wanted to get feedback in case this ever happens again. (It has never happened to me before.)

The coworker did not ask me in advance if he could use me as a reference on job applications.

I've been at my agency a very long time and know that me sharing this information is not going to hurt him. Yet, out of discretion, I think I should've kept quiet.

My boss thought this information should be shared with management probably because he thought they should be prepared for the possibility of him leaving soon. But I'm not sure what can (or should) be done until the employee actually gives notice. But his comment made me think that, as a manager, maybe my loyalty should be more to the other managers/supervisors. On the other hand, If I get a reputation among the staff as a gossip or tattle-tale, that could hurt me professionally.

You suck, you suck, you suck, you suck, you suck, you suck, you suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess things work differently for Feds. I think it's pretty crappy of you to tell his business.

No, it does not.

OP, what possessed you to do such a thing?