Should I file for a protective order

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Are you out of your mind? The police will get BOTH sides of the story and say, "Hey, you were flirting with another woman. Sounds like you deserve what you got." Really PP?????!!!!

Am I really the only person who pauses to question the validity of the anonymous posts made on an anonymous message board? Really, PP(s)??????!!!!!!!! For as often as people call "troll" here, I'm surprised. Maybe the people jumping on me for having the audacity to think critically are the type to flip out and punch/bite/assault their spouses for merely having innocent conversations with people of the opposite sex, so this story doesn't seem weird to them. Something in this story doesn't add up.

I never said OP deserved it, or any "anti male" nonsense. What I said was "If you've been assaulted, call the police." That's what people who have been assaulted should do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Are you out of your mind? The police will get BOTH sides of the story and say, "Hey, you were flirting with another woman. Sounds like you deserve what you got." Really PP?????!!!!

Am I really the only person who pauses to question the validity of the anonymous posts made on an anonymous message board? Really, PP(s)??????!!!!!!!! For as often as people call "troll" here, I'm surprised. Maybe the people jumping on me for having the audacity to think critically are the type to flip out and punch/bite/assault their spouses for merely having innocent conversations with people of the opposite sex, so this story doesn't seem weird to them. Something in this story doesn't add up.

I never said OP deserved it, or any "anti male" nonsense. What I said was "If you've been assaulted, call the police." That's what people who have been assaulted should do.

He described an assault. Saying "if" implies you don't think he was assaulted. You are anti-male. Just own it. Your definition of thinking critically is victim blaming. Not a great example of critical thinking.

If you don't believe of the posts on this board about women/men being assaulted and you feel the need to go into each one and tell women/men that they deserved it or it isn't the whole truth and they are at fault, then maybe you should just stay out of threads involving domestic violence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Are you out of your mind? The police will get BOTH sides of the story and say, "Hey, you were flirting with another woman. Sounds like you deserve what you got." Really PP?????!!!!

Am I really the only person who pauses to question the validity of the anonymous posts made on an anonymous message board? Really, PP(s)??????!!!!!!!! For as often as people call "troll" here, I'm surprised. Maybe the people jumping on me for having the audacity to think critically are the type to flip out and punch/bite/assault their spouses for merely having innocent conversations with people of the opposite sex, so this story doesn't seem weird to them. Something in this story doesn't add up.

I never said OP deserved it, or any "anti male" nonsense. What I said was "If you've been assaulted, call the police." That's what people who have been assaulted should do.

He described an assault. Saying "if" implies you don't think he was assaulted. You are anti-male. Just own it. Your definition of thinking critically is victim blaming. Not a great example of critical thinking.

If you don't believe of the posts on this board about women/men being assaulted and you feel the need to go into each one and tell women/men that they deserved it or it isn't the whole truth and they are at fault, then maybe you should just stay out of threads involving domestic violence.

I don't tend to believe anything anyone writes anonymously on the internet. I don't see how that makes me "anti male". Someone asks a question of "should I _____?" and then gives a one-sided story that would leave "yes, of course" as the obvious answer. Sounds off to me.

Having sat a multi-day vigil at the hospital bed of an unconscious MALE FRIEND (OMG, yes, I have those!) who was assaulted by a domestic partner, I can assure you I am well and truly aware that men can be victims of domestic violence.

That doesn't mean that all anonymous posts on an anonymous forum are accurate, complete depictions of actual reality.

[Anonymous]

And calling the police is still sound advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Are you out of your mind? The police will get BOTH sides of the story and say, "Hey, you were flirting with another woman. Sounds like you deserve what you got." Really PP?????!!!!

Am I really the only person who pauses to question the validity of the anonymous posts made on an anonymous message board? Really, PP(s)??????!!!!!!!! For as often as people call "troll" here, I'm surprised. Maybe the people jumping on me for having the audacity to think critically are the type to flip out and punch/bite/assault their spouses for merely having innocent conversations with people of the opposite sex, so this story doesn't seem weird to them. Something in this story doesn't add up.

I never said OP deserved it, or any "anti male" nonsense. What I said was "If you've been assaulted, call the police." That's what people who have been assaulted should do.

He described an assault. Saying "if" implies you don't think he was assaulted. You are anti-male. Just own it. Your definition of thinking critically is victim blaming. Not a great example of critical thinking.

If you don't believe of the posts on this board about women/men being assaulted and you feel the need to go into each one and tell women/men that they deserved it or it isn't the whole truth and they are at fault, then maybe you should just stay out of threads involving domestic violence.

I don't tend to believe anything anyone writes anonymously on the internet. I don't see how that makes me "anti male". Someone asks a question of "should I _____?" and then gives a one-sided story that would leave "yes, of course" as the obvious answer. Sounds off to me.

Having sat a multi-day vigil at the hospital bed of an unconscious MALE FRIEND (OMG, yes, I have those!) who was assaulted by a domestic partner, I can assure you I am well and truly aware that men can be victims of domestic violence.

That doesn't mean that all anonymous posts on an anonymous forum are accurate, complete depictions of actual reality.

Seeing as 99% of the posts on here are one sided and anonymous - what is the point of being on this board? Do you go into every thread and make a point of pointing out the post is one sided and anonymous and therefore might not be true.

And I call bullshit on your little story about caring about a male victim of domestic violence - sounds like the "I have a black friend" statement by someone who is racists. Seeing as you are also anonymous I don't believe you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Are you out of your mind? The police will get BOTH sides of the story and say, "Hey, you were flirting with another woman. Sounds like you deserve what you got." Really PP?????!!!!

OK. I understand. It's OK for men to beat the tar out of their wives if they appear to be flirting with other men, right? Wasn't there an MMA star who recent did this? I guess that's OK.

[Anonymous]

Just leave, OP.

Get yourself an apartment and file for divorce.

Also, file a police report on your ex and sure, get a restraining order.

Pretty simple, really.

[Anonymous]

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Seeing as 99% of the posts on here are one sided and anonymous - what is the point of being on this board? Do you go into every thread and make a point of pointing out the post is one sided and anonymous and therefore might not be true.

And I call bullshit on your little story about caring about a male victim of domestic violence - sounds like the "I have a black friend" statement by someone who is racists. Seeing as you are also anonymous I don't believe you.

You don't have to. Awesome, isn't it?

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/387072.page

This is you again. Either you are in a terrible, awful relationship and you need to leave TONIGHT. Hand biting and writing style gave you away.

Or it is three months later and you are still trolling.

If your wife is truly abusing you, leave NOW.

If you are trolling, STOP NOW.

[Anonymous]

Good catch. Definitely the same guy. Apparently THAT thread wasn't the first time either.

So, yeah... OP, either get away from this person and into a safe place or knock off the trolling.

[Anonymous]

OP, not everyone gets that it isn't just super easy to walk away from an abuser. Many women and men don't just leave the first time an incident happens. They stay or they leave and go back. People who are annoyed you didn't just walk out the first time don't really understand the cycle of abuse or how it feels to be victimized and what it takes from you.

I am glad you are still posting. Hopefully you are calling one of these hotline numbers and getting some more professional advice from people who understand. They won't shit on you for not having left before. They won't call you a troll or victim shame you. Please call them. They are a far better support and source of non biased advice than this board.

[Anonymous]

I reported domestic violence to the police yesterday, going to file for a protective order today. The police were more helpful than anticipated. They'll point you in the right direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

Seriously. I'm really starting to doubt this is 2014. we've made zero progress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Please shove your eye roll up your a**.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Are you out of your mind? The police will get BOTH sides of the story and say, "Hey, you were flirting with another woman. Sounds like you deserve what you got." Really PP?????!!!!

Am I really the only person who pauses to question the validity of the anonymous posts made on an anonymous message board? Really, PP(s)??????!!!!!!!! For as often as people call "troll" here, I'm surprised. Maybe the people jumping on me for having the audacity to think critically are the type to flip out and punch/bite/assault their spouses for merely having innocent conversations with people of the opposite sex, so this story doesn't seem weird to them. Something in this story doesn't add up.

I never said OP deserved it, or any "anti male" nonsense. What I said was "If you've been assaulted, call the police." That's what people who have been assaulted should do.

When it comes to posts about domestic violence, whether the individual poster is real or not is irrelevant - give the advice as if the person were really having this problem because I guarantee that other people who are in similar situations are reading and absorbing the advice (and victim blaming) too.