14 year age difference

[Anonymous]

I started dating my husband when he was forty and I was twenty-eight. We have been together happily for 14 years.

It all depends on what the interests and life experiences of the people involved have, OP. I was orphaned at 16 and did a six year stint in the US Army before I started college so I never had much in common with my fellow classmates and men my own age seemed silly to me. I was just finishing my BA when I met DH. DH was established in his first career had endured many of life's "hard-knocks" already. We shared many of the same interests and saw the world in similar ways. We just kept growing together. When I finished grad school (an 8 year programs with one more year off to have our daughter), DH retired from his law enforcement job and went back to graduate school! So now I am the working wife while I am married to a full time student!

Yes, I am aware that the odds are good that DH will die well before I do and our childhood memories about pop culture (TV shows, music, movies) are not the same but it all is a small price to pay for the years of happiness and love we have shared already and the future years we expect to share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, don't even think about the age difference. My SIL has been married to her husband for 25 years with a 20 year age difference. If you met them, you would NEVER think there was an age gap at all. He seems much younger and she seems a little older.

This is me and we have an 8 yr old, though I'm starting to notice his age. Slower moving, more tired, etc. When he does something that seems "old," I remember all my imperfections that he tolerates and it equals out.