14 year age difference

[Anonymous]

Just started dating someone 14 years older. I'm in my late 40s. Not sure what I think of the difference. He doesn't seem "old"... He runs, etc. definitely some cultural references reflect age gap. What is folks experience with this. Previously had thought 10 years was the outside limit.

[Anonymous]

I'm 14 years younger than my husband. It's a non-issue now but sadly I expect it will be more and more of an issue as he gets older. We're trying to save enough so that I can afford to retire when he does and we can enjoy time together before he gets old enough that I have to be his caretaker. Sorry I can't offer you any useful advice but I'm also interested to hear from older couples that have this age gap and have dealt with some of these issues.

[Anonymous]

My parents are 12 years apart and my father is approaching 80. My mother wants to travel and enjoy her money, my father is starting to become less adventurous and risk averse in general. They have had sexual difficulties for at least 10 years. The age difference is becoming an issue for them later in life, but was not much of an issue until my Dad hit 70.

[Anonymous]

14 years doesn't seem like that big of a deal if you are pushing 50.

Also, if he's running, he's probably in good health. Most guys in their 60s are fat and can barely speedwalk, let alone run.

After certain age, it's less about age and more about health. I could buy a 10 year old Honda civic that will run fine, while a 5 year old dodge caravan is already showing its age.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy what you have today. Don't worry about the age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Enjoy what you have today. Don't worry about the age.

How fat is his wallet?

[Anonymous]

Awww. I hope you move forward with it. Enjoy. I think that bad living really starts to creep up on men who don't take care of themselves in their forties. Other men at the same age look fab and live way longer because they are healthy and fit.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, the older you are, the less an age gap tends to matter.

Meaning that a 20 year old is in a totally different stage in his/her life than a 34 year old and chances are any relationship between any two people in those age groups will not work out.

However at 48 and 62 while there will be some fundamental differences, they won't be so severe as to negatively impact or harm a relationship's potential.

I say as long as you both are on the same page maturity-wise + can have share good conversation together, why not?

[Anonymous]

Seriously, don't even think about the age difference. My SIL has been married to her husband for 25 years with a 20 year age difference. If you met them, you would NEVER think there was an age gap at all. He seems much younger and she seems a little older.

[Anonymous]

If you were 25 and he was 39 it would matter. In your 40s it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were 25 and he was 39 it would matter. In your 40s it doesn't matter.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents are 12 years apart and my father is approaching 80. My mother wants to travel and enjoy her money, my father is starting to become less adventurous and risk averse in general. They have had sexual difficulties for at least 10 years. The age difference is becoming an issue for them later in life, but was not much of an issue until my Dad hit 70.

why do you know about your elderly parents' sexual difficulties...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents are 12 years apart and my father is approaching 80. My mother wants to travel and enjoy her money, my father is starting to become less adventurous and risk averse in general. They have had sexual difficulties for at least 10 years. The age difference is becoming an issue for them later in life, but was not much of an issue until my Dad hit 70.

why do you know about your elderly parents' sexual difficulties...

My mom is in her mid-sixties and has confided in me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were 25 and he was 39 it would matter. In your 40s it doesn't matter.

+1

I was 26 and married my husband when he was 38. 15 years later, we're still going strong. No issues outside of the normal communication/relationship issues.

[Anonymous]

You all are being naive. There is a huge difference between a 60 yr old man and a woman in her late 40s. And it will only get more obvious the older he gets. Sure, there are exceptions, but they are just that. Of course, women are bred to be caretakers, so if that's how you want to spend your late middle age, good luck.