My wife does not want to have sex because the baby.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much sleep is she getting? My husband sleeps like a rock, so I was waking up several times a night plus getting up at 5:30 am everyday. It definitely killed my interest in just about everything.

+1. My baby is now 3 months and we haven't had sex since he was born. I'm exhausted.

You haven't had sex. Let's be clear about that.

[Anonymous]

I'm shocked. Am I the only female that couldn't, and didn't, wait the standard 6 weeks to have sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much sleep is she getting? My husband sleeps like a rock, so I was waking up several times a night plus getting up at 5:30 am everyday. It definitely killed my interest in just about everything.

+1. My baby is now 3 months and we haven't had sex since he was born. I'm exhausted.

You haven't had sex. Let's be clear about that.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked. Am I the only female that couldn't, and didn't, wait the standard 6 weeks to have sex?

I'm a high drive woman, but my libido tanked for almost a year. After my hormones evened out, I was back to being myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried being physically affectionate without a hard sell? Just offering a non-sexual backrub or foot rub?

Sometimes, after you have a baby and BF, you feel touched out. It takes a while to see your body as your own and not just existing to satisfy the needs of others.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes your drive comes back after you get back into a rhythm.

It's sort of a cache22.

It's a CATCH-22. Good lord.

[Anonymous]

As mentioned in the other forum, many women will have excuses, but you will likely hear from her that her "priorities have changed," meaning sex with you is not on the top of the list.

Oh, you'll have sex eventually. It will be infrequent. It will be fast. It will be boring. And don't you dare ask for anything above and beyond what she's willing to give you and just be thankful she's giving you anything at all. <------ Her attitude toward sex, not my advice.

There are some women who can't wait to have sex again, but that's not the norm.

And the final sad reality and irony is, she will resent you for saying anything or telling her what you want, but she'll bend over backwards to give the NEXT man everything you wanted so he can see that she really is sexual.

[Anonymous]

Five weeks 6 days here. And I had post partum depression. And I BF. Just really like sex. Red tube.com you're welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As mentioned in the other forum, many women will have excuses, but you will likely hear from her that her "priorities have changed," meaning sex with you is not on the top of the list.

Oh, you'll have sex eventually. It will be infrequent. It will be fast. It will be boring. And don't you dare ask for anything above and beyond what she's willing to give you and just be thankful she's giving you anything at all. <------ Her attitude toward sex, not my advice.

There are some women who can't wait to have sex again, but that's not the norm.

And the final sad reality and irony is, she will resent you for saying anything or telling her what you want, but she'll bend over backwards to give the NEXT man everything you wanted so he can see that she really is sexual.

Why do you say this like it is fact for everyone? It's not. Deal with your issues with women already.

The unhappy and vocal ones bitch about it. That does not mean it's the same for every couple.

What about men who have drops in their sex drives? Should we just assume that it's over and pack our shit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As mentioned in the other forum, many women will have excuses, but you will likely hear from her that her "priorities have changed," meaning sex with you is not on the top of the list.

Oh, you'll have sex eventually. It will be infrequent. It will be fast. It will be boring. And don't you dare ask for anything above and beyond what she's willing to give you and just be thankful she's giving you anything at all. <------ Her attitude toward sex, not my advice.

There are some women who can't wait to have sex again, but that's not the norm.

And the final sad reality and irony is, she will resent you for saying anything or telling her what you want, but she'll bend over backwards to give the NEXT man everything you wanted so he can see that she really is sexual.

Why do you say this like it is fact for everyone? It's not. Deal with your issues with women already.

The unhappy and vocal ones bitch about it. That does not mean it's the same for every couple.

What about men who have drops in their sex drives? Should we just assume that it's over and pack our shit?

While I don't disagree with you that it's not everyone, it's exceptionally common. I don't have women issues. Just because I point out what they do, does not mean I have issues. I'm the one having sex regularly. These poor shlubs are not. I also have many married friends who wish they could fuck anything other than their own hands. Sorry. The problem runs rampant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As mentioned in the other forum, many women will have excuses, but you will likely hear from her that her "priorities have changed," meaning sex with you is not on the top of the list.

Oh, you'll have sex eventually. It will be infrequent. It will be fast. It will be boring. And don't you dare ask for anything above and beyond what she's willing to give you and just be thankful she's giving you anything at all. <------ Her attitude toward sex, not my advice.

There are some women who can't wait to have sex again, but that's not the norm.

And the final sad reality and irony is, she will resent you for saying anything or telling her what you want, but she'll bend over backwards to give the NEXT man everything you wanted so he can see that she really is sexual.

Why do you say this like it is fact for everyone? It's not. Deal with your issues with women already.

The unhappy and vocal ones bitch about it. That does not mean it's the same for every couple.

What about men who have drops in their sex drives? Should we just assume that it's over and pack our shit?

While I don't disagree with you that it's not everyone, it's exceptionally common. I don't have women issues. Just because I point out what they do, does not mean I have issues. I'm the one having sex regularly. These poor shlubs are not. I also have many married friends who wish they could fuck anything other than their own hands. Sorry. The problem runs rampant.

So, if a guy is stressed and doesn't want to have sex, I should leave him? That's what you're advising?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked. Am I the only female that couldn't, and didn't, wait the standard 6 weeks to have sex?

Yes, you're the only woman in the whole world to experience this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked. Am I the only female that couldn't, and didn't, wait the standard 6 weeks to have sex?

I waited exactly the 6 weeks, after I got clearance from my doctor. I don't get all these wives who selfishly bail on the marriage once they have a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked. Am I the only female that couldn't, and didn't, wait the standard 6 weeks to have sex?

I waited exactly the 6 weeks, after I got clearance from my doctor. I don't get all these wives who selfishly bail on the marriage once they have a kid.

Bc oftentimes it isn't for selfish reasons. It's hormones, it's feeling touched-out having a baby on you (and your boob) all day, it's being exhausted, it's having a birth-related injury that needs to heal, it's feeling self-conscious from the body changes of pregnancy and childbirth, it's <gasp> other women having many experiences that differ from your own that also feel equally valid. Congrats on wanting to get right back to it -- glad that happened for you -- but don't knock other women by calling them selfish bc they have a harder road returning to their former drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked. Am I the only female that couldn't, and didn't, wait the standard 6 weeks to have sex?

I waited exactly the 6 weeks, after I got clearance from my doctor. I don't get all these wives who selfishly bail on the marriage once they have a kid.

Bc oftentimes it isn't for selfish reasons. It's hormones, it's feeling touched-out having a baby on you (and your boob) all day, it's being exhausted, it's having a birth-related injury that needs to heal, it's feeling self-conscious from the body changes of pregnancy and childbirth, it's <gasp> other women having many experiences that differ from your own that also feel equally valid. Congrats on wanting to get right back to it -- glad that happened for you -- but don't knock other women by calling them selfish bc they have a harder road returning to their former drive.

+1. What an unbelievably immature response.