DD constantly cries and is depressed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm so sorry. I feel so sorry this is happening to your DD. Nothing hurts more than seeing your child hurt (and we know kids can be just awful to each other).
Could you talk to the school counselor and see if there's a "social, well-liked, nice" girl who could mentor your DD. I have to believe there are some nice girls at her school who, if asked (bc teens don't always look outside themselves!), would be really happy to guide your DD.

I wish you the best.

We actually tried to have a few girls befriend her. DD says that they don't mind if she's quiet and keeps to herself. Obviously, she wants to change, but she finds it difficult

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

I definitely think that she should seek some medical help with the possibility of medications if she's feeling this down. Not wanting to be around people may stem from anxiety and not just feeling self-conscious.

I'm wondering if you've considered therapeutic horseback riding? Sometimes making the connection with animals feels more rewarding than trying to connect with other people.

My nephew who has a disability has benefitted from horsebackriding with other disabled kids. I wonder if there are other activities like that. Is she part of a church youth group or something?

She did mention horseback riding, but I'm not sure if she'd actually like it. She's no longer a part of our youth group, she doesn't really participate in church anymore. But I'm more focused on trying to make her happy. She told me she doesn't know what happiness feels like.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP that last line breaks my heart. Does she read? Watch movies? I agree that medication might alleviate this, and therapy, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP that last line breaks my heart. Does she read? Watch movies? I agree that medication might alleviate this, and therapy, too.

She listens to music a lot, she's not really into watching tv. I feel like her biggest struggle is that she doesn't have much in common with people. She's always been the type to do the opposite of what is popular just because she doesn't want to be like everyone else. Switching therapists is a good idea

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP that last line breaks my heart. Does she read? Watch movies? I agree that medication might alleviate this, and therapy, too.

She listens to music a lot, she's not really into watching tv. I feel like her biggest struggle is that she doesn't have much in common with people. She's always been the type to do the opposite of what is popular just because she doesn't want to be like everyone else. Switching therapists is a good idea

She needs to see a medical doctor as well, a psychiatrist. This sounds like a situation that cries out for medication.

[Anonymous]

Has anyone had their kid put on meds? I've heard bad things about them. Like possible, suicide. That scares me!

[Anonymous]

After a year of trying to help our daughter with debilitating anxiety via other forms of therapy, we finally agreed to let her try Prozac. It has changed her life significantly. I was also scared to put my kid on meds but it has made such a difference that I regret not doing it sooner. Good luck to you and your daughter, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone had their kid put on meds? I've heard bad things about them. Like possible, suicide. That scares me!

Yes, my DC takes medication. Pulled him out of a serious depression.

The suicide risk is far higher without medication than with. I would be more afraid of the risk of suicide from the depression than the medication. The warnings about suicide are highly controversial because the science behind them is weak and because the warnings have led to an increase in teen suicide because parents are scared away from meds.

[Anonymous]

OP, here. Ok, well I do feel better knowing that some people have had success with them. I'll definitely do more research.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, here. Ok, well I do feel better knowing that some people have had success with them. I'll definitely do more research.

You need to make an appointment with a doctor ASAP, a psychiatrist. Talk to an expert, don't do internet research. Your daughter is in crisis. You need to be concerned that she could hurt herself. I have been there and done that. The signs are there. Please get on this quickly.

[Anonymous]

OP, if she says she does not have friends, sadly she probably doesn't. I am so sorry. Some schools just have a culture of meaness. In our school, there have been more than a few who have left because of the culture -- moved, pupil placed, private, sent to live with relatives. You are not alone, but you probably do have to take action.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if she says she does not have friends, sadly she probably doesn't. I am so sorry. Some schools just have a culture of meaness. In our school, there have been more than a few who have left because of the culture -- moved, pupil placed, private, sent to live with relatives. You are not alone, but you probably do have to take action.

The school won't do anything. I've even escalated the issue to the principal. I honestly wish that I could afford private school because I know that's where she wants to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if she says she does not have friends, sadly she probably doesn't. I am so sorry. Some schools just have a culture of meaness. In our school, there have been more than a few who have left because of the culture -- moved, pupil placed, private, sent to live with relatives. You are not alone, but you probably do have to take action.

The school won't do anything. I've even escalated the issue to the principal. I honestly wish that I could afford private school because I know that's where she wants to be.

Have you applied to private school and asked for financial aid? You won't know until you inquire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if she says she does not have friends, sadly she probably doesn't. I am so sorry. Some schools just have a culture of meaness. In our school, there have been more than a few who have left because of the culture -- moved, pupil placed, private, sent to live with relatives. You are not alone, but you probably do have to take action.

The school won't do anything. I've even escalated the issue to the principal. I honestly wish that I could afford private school because I know that's where she wants to be.

Have you applied to private school and asked for financial aid? You won't know until you inquire.

I've never inquired, but it's highly unlikely that she'll get a full ride. That's the only way I can afford it.

[Anonymous]

GET HER OUTSIDE!

It's March. Vitamin D levels are depleted. Of course she's depressed. Please do get her professional help, but more than anything she needs activity, exercise, and sunshine.