Did you hire a personal coach for your child's sport?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What has the world come to? Everyone that rich?

Not sure why it's that different from private music lessons vs group lessons. My kid runs track. There are about 80-100 kids on the team depending on the season. So not a lot of personal attention. A private coach on form/strategy would be useful.

[Anonymous]

My son is 12 and all his coaches are paid. I don't pay for extra coaching.

I did send him to a clinic with about 10 kids to learn face offs.

Each year 1 sport is $2500 and he plays 2 sports so you still might want to save.

[Anonymous]

Good god. Why all the vitriole?

OP: no, I did not. I did, however switch my son to a different travel club because I didn't like the coach. If he woke up tomorrow and said, "mom, I really want to achieve x, and I need some extra training for that", I would stall to make sure he really meant it and the hire that person. Also, looking back at my son's first travel tryout, he was woefully outclassed by the experience of the other kids and at a disadvantage because of the simple fact that his local rec team had been pretty crappy. As a parent, I had failed to find him the right opportunities early on for the kind of player he could have been, and it mattered. In retrospect, a few months of private coaching would have been money well spent.

Travel soccer brings him joy. There you go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid doesn't have a sport, so no fucking personal coach needed.

Two questions for you:

1) Why did you click on this thread?

2) Why so angry? I mean, did your response really merit dropping the f-bomb? Do you lack a robust vocabulary in general, or were you just having a bad day?

[Anonymous]

I have a gymnast and most people with a child who competes at higher levels do hire private coaches, me included. Yeah, it's a luxury but the. So is the a klutzy to allow your child to compete in those sports that cost hundreds a month and requires ridiculous amounts of travel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid doesn't have a sport, so no fucking personal coach needed.

why does anyone need a fucking coach? Most people figure it out on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you ask this question?

this was meant for OP. i questioned her intention to start this thread. she sounded anti-sport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid doesn't have a sport, so no fucking personal coach needed.

why does anyone need a fucking coach? Most people figure it out on their own.

and no parent would hire a coach for THAT.

[Anonymous]

DS likes tennis. I'm planning to pay for private lessons this summer. But that is pretty common. I wouldn't hire a private soccer coach or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid doesn't have a sport, so no fucking personal coach needed.

why does anyone need a fucking coach? Most people figure it out on their own.

and no parent would hire a coach for THAT.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid doesn't have a sport, so no fucking personal coach needed.

why does anyone need a fucking coach? Most people figure it out on their own.

and no parent would hire a coach for THAT.

I dunno, every once in a while you hear about dads arranging prostitutes for teen boys. Does that qualify as a coach?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mean she decided NOT to participate?

Yes, sorry. Dropped the word NOT.

She saw the commitment involved and what she'd have to give up so chose not to do it.

If I were you, I would have made her do it or told her she owed me the money I spend on the coach. Your kid sounds pretty entitled to have her parent hire her a personal coach to make a team, then make the team and decide not to participate because it would be too much effort.

[Anonymous]

spent not spend

can't type today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mean she decided NOT to participate?

Yes, sorry. Dropped the word NOT.

She saw the commitment involved and what she'd have to give up so chose not to do it.

If I were you, I would have made her do it or told her she owed me the money I spend on the coach. Your kid sounds pretty entitled to have her parent hire her a personal coach to make a team, then make the team and decide not to participate because it would be too much effort.

I'm curious about something: Were you born an insufferable, rude twat, or did you learn that behavior later?

I hired a personal coach before tryouts so she would have some idea of what to expect and to develop some skills. She didn't "have" me hire her a personal coach -- it was something I decided to do for her to put her on equal footing with the competition.

It's her choice to not participate. Playing on the team would have meant giving up a musical instrument, a school play, and some church activities. She's far too young to specialize in a sport. I respect her thought process. She was good enough to be on the team, but didn't want to do that thing exclusively.

She can always do it later.

As for you, your remarks about her being "entitled" sound like projection. I'm sorry to learn that you completely fucking up your children's upbringing, but please don't take it out on others. Keep your failures to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS likes tennis. I'm planning to pay for private lessons this summer. But that is pretty common. I wouldn't hire a private soccer coach or something.

This. Certain sports require lessons to learn to play properly. I gave my kid swimming lessons, even though he was on a swim team. He needed more help than the swim coach was giving him. Soccer could be the same thing, if the child is really interested and wants or requests the extra help. If it's just to pad the parents' egos, then the money would be better set aside for a psychotherapy fund for the child when s/he gets old enough to realize how self-absorbed her parents are.