Would you turn down a 200k job to be a SAHM?
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Anonymous
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I'm going to be the odd one out, but I'd say -- take it IF DH is supportive. That means that he realizes that yours is the new job and thus you cannot be the one to deal with dr's appointments and kid events for a while until your bosses get to know you -- so either he deals or you find a super reliable nanny.
It's hard for a SAHM to get back into the work force as substantially as you'd be getting back in. Worst case scenario -- if you get back in, are unhappy, your kids are unhappy or it just doesn't work -- you can always quit and know that that type of job/lifestyle isn't for you. As PP suggested, if your bosses end up liking you enough, you could end up with a flexible arrangement or a reduced travel arrangement. If you don't take it, you'll wonder if you could have made it work. |
Anonymous
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If you're on the fence, why not try it? Also...in my industry we have some requires travel but when not traveling there is flexibility (wfh, work at off hours if it works for your client, etc). So that may be something to consider.
Also obvi at this income level you would outsource everything you could regarding the household so u dont have to worry about it and could spend free time with your family... Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Not me. Just getting back in the workforce now after SAH for many years (on a whole lot less income from DH and net worth than you have) I have no regrets and would not have given up that time with my kids for anything. Now I can be energized about work - I couldn't have back then. The stress of that kind of travel and hours would have not made it worth it - even if we had the best nanny in the world. But all that said, I was fulfilled as a SAHM. That doesn't suit all people. |
Anonymous
| It sounds great except for the travel. Can you find a similar job without travel? |
Anonymous
| You're just trying to brag about all the money you have. The amount of money makes no difference in your decision to be a SAHM. To those with lower incomes trying to figure out how to stay afloat money is a concern in this decision. To you, no. If you want to stay at home, do. If you don't, don't. And stop trying to make yourself feel important by subtly revealing your financial situation on DCUM. |
Anonymous
| How about this ladies.... IF nanny is consistant and stable, maybe. If there's several nannies in the first year, absolutely not. Our children are paying a steep price for unstable care, and many of them aren't doing so well down the road. Little children required stability. |
Anonymous
| How will you handle both of you traveling? You will need more than one nanny/a live in/night nanny situation. |
Anonymous
| I have turned down 240 k to be home with my kids. |
Anonymous
| 200k? What is your occupation? |
Anonymous
| I would not turn it down but that's because I work at a serious job for $130. My career is very important to me. |
Anonymous
| If you are ready to nanny up and go back, then yes. Personally? No. |
Anonymous
| Just think of how much better off your family will be with the money. Can you negotiate shorter hours for less pay? More work flexibility? |
Anonymous
How would the children be better off with the typically unstable nanny care? |
Anonymous
| Yes. I had our kid in my forties and quit my job to SAH. No regrets and will not be returning to work. DH will retire by the time DC enters high school. Works for us. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I would turn it down. You can live comfortably on DHs salary. |