Is this a hint?

[Anonymous]

Just say "Oh, cc me next time!" Why take it personally?

[Anonymous]

If you see them twice a year and get along well with the ILs you do deal with regularly, then forget about it. It's not like they are going to directly hurt your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So last night we're having dinner at MIL's house, when she and DH start laughing about a video that his brother, my BIL sent out to the family showing his kids in Halloween costumes dancing. WTF? I didn't get a copy...nor did I get a copy of my SIL's pic of her baby in a Halloween costume. (I put a pic of our kids on Facebook for all to see.) No, I don't care so much about seeing the costumes, obviously more about being excluded. Also, our last Christmas card from SIL mentioned everyone in the family by name (DH, kids) in a personal note. Not so much as a "Merry Christmas" to me anywhere.

Am I overreacting?

They might be assuming your DH will forward it to you. In my family, I email my parents and sister, and DH emails his parents and sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ouch, OP.

But it requires a light touch: "SIL, how cute! I'd love to be included when you send pictures out, if it's not too much trouble."

Yes, if you want to see them, say something with a light touch like the PP said above.

She may be assuming you do not WANT to see all the dippy dip things that get passed around their family. I know I do not care to hear all the ins and outs of the minutia that my MIL texts about ad nauseum so I am so so so happy she only sends it to my DH. I am more on a "need to know" basis.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So last night we're having dinner at MIL's house, when she and DH start laughing about a video that his brother, my BIL sent out to the family showing his kids in Halloween costumes dancing. WTF? I didn't get a copy...nor did I get a copy of my SIL's pic of her baby in a Halloween costume. (I put a pic of our kids on Facebook for all to see.) No, I don't care so much about seeing the costumes, obviously more about being excluded. Also, our last Christmas card from SIL mentioned everyone in the family by name (DH, kids) in a personal note. Not so much as a "Merry Christmas" to me anywhere.

Am I overreacting?

They might be assuming your DH will forward it to you. In my family, I email my parents and sister, and DH emails his parents and sister.

I was about to say the same thing. That is how it usually works in my family. If I send something to my brother, I assume (and he does) share it with his wife when it pertains to family things (pictures, events, etc). I think it is weird your husband doesn't share this stuff with you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ouch, OP.

But it requires a light touch: "SIL, how cute! I'd love to be included when you send pictures out, if it's not too much trouble."

Fuck that. I'd be straight up. "Yo, SIL, WTF? How do you think this makes me feel? Think much?"

[Anonymous]

I would bet SIL thinks DS shares the pictures etc. I think that is a reasonable assumption. I'd be annoyed at DH

[Anonymous]

DH shares *

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So last night we're having dinner at MIL's house, when she and DH start laughing about a video that his brother, my BIL sent out to the family showing his kids in Halloween costumes dancing. WTF? I didn't get a copy...nor did I get a copy of my SIL's pic of her baby in a Halloween costume. (I put a pic of our kids on Facebook for all to see.) No, I don't care so much about seeing the costumes, obviously more about being excluded. Also, our last Christmas card from SIL mentioned everyone in the family by name (DH, kids) in a personal note. Not so much as a "Merry Christmas" to me anywhere.

Am I overreacting?

They might be assuming your DH will forward it to you. In my family, I email my parents and sister, and DH emails his parents and sister.

I was about to say the same thing. That is how it usually works in my family. If I send something to my brother, I assume (and he does) share it with his wife when it pertains to family things (pictures, events, etc). I think it is weird your husband doesn't share this stuff with you

+1 This is exactly what I thought. In my family, we assume that sending something to one spouse covers the other as well.

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forgot to add...what do you care more about? Their kids or being included? I am betting the latter. It shows in your attitude. So mystery solved! Youre not interested, and you come off as a selfish groupie.

Had you made an investment (not money) into how your nieces or nephews were for halloween. youd be included.

As for me, I have a truly loving relationship with my nieces and nephews...even with no blood relationship. I get sent pics with personal notes. Why? because I care about them kids. a lot. They know. Their kids talk about uncle xxxx all the time (me) so it is natural to be included.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:forgot to add...what do you care more about? Their kids or being included? I am betting the latter. It shows in your attitude. So mystery solved! Youre not interested, and you come off as a selfish groupie.

Had you made an investment (not money) into how your nieces or nephews were for halloween. youd be included.

As for me, I have a truly loving relationship with my nieces and nephews...even with no blood relationship. I get sent pics with personal notes. Why? because I care about them kids. a lot. They know. Their kids talk about uncle xxxx all the time (me) so it is natural to be included.

Okaay, Uncle Goober.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ouch, OP.

But it requires a light touch: "SIL, how cute! I'd love to be included when you send pictures out, if it's not too much trouble."

Fuck that. I'd be straight up. "Yo, SIL, WTF? How do you think this makes me feel? Think much?"

I guess I am in the minority, then, in saying this would not bother me at all. I'd be like, "Thanks for not inundating me with minutia." I am the PP who prefers to be on the "need to know" basis b/c I don't WANT to hear every minute piece of trivia in DH's family! I have enough going on!

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why your not pissed at your husband. SIL did send the video / pictures to your family but your DH didn't share it with you and your kids. I send things to my sister assuming she will share it with her family, I don't email my niece & nephew directly.

[Anonymous]

Pissed at her husband about what? Not forwarding a dumb link? That would have to be one of the stupidest spousal arguments of all time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pissed at her husband about what? Not forwarding a dumb link? That would have to be one of the stupidest spousal arguments of all time.

Makes more sense than being pissed at her in laws and assuming they are intentionally leaving her out. I'd bet they figure DH shares what they send. So she should really be asking DH instead of assuming SIL is a bitch.