Is this part of the college culture nowadays?

[Anonymous]

I had a one night thing w my professor I was 20 , he was 33. Very hot. His intellect just drove me mad. It was a toxic combination for a young 20 year old doe eyed student like myself. He was I found out after engaged. But it was a helluva night!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think it happens everywhere. I personally don't think its so unethical lets say its a young professor like 29 and hes dating a 20 year old, whats the big deal? A 65 year old with an 18 year old...thats just gross.

It's unethical because of the power differential in the situation.

I'd find it unethical for a 30 year old community college prof to sleep with a 33 year old student in his/her own class.

[Anonymous]

My husband is a professor and has a couple girls throwing themselves at him each semester. He's been in academia for almost 20 years and it's nothing new.

I knew one girl in college who was sleeping with a prof. He lost his job.

[Anonymous]

This has always happened but it isn't typical either. Everyone knows someone who slept with a professor -- I certainly do and I went to college 30 years ago.

[Anonymous]

This shows astoundingly poor judgment on the professor's part. The girl gets an A in the class and the prof gets fired. Hope she was worth it.

[Anonymous]

consenting adults = no problem

Emphasis on CONSENT

[Anonymous]

I have heard of it mostly with TA's.

[Anonymous]

This was my experience too - except no one married a professor. At Georgetown.

Another Georgetown grad her. I have a classmate still married to a professor. (2nd marriage for him).

I don't remember this being rampant at college, but I do remember this being rampant at law school.

[Anonymous]

BTW, it was always male professors with female students.

[Anonymous]

I find this interesting and am going to throw out a different perspective. I was THAT student. I had an "affair" with my professor for nearly 8 months. It was a combination of many hings, the power trip, the attraction to the person of authrotiy, he was a "rockstar" professor in that people waited for months to get into one of his classes, he was cocky as hell but it was admittedly a turn on to me at the time not even 21.
On top of all that, he was really good looking in a bad boy kind of way, like a frat boy who never grew up but one that was wickedly smart. So it was almost toxic, lots of girls in his class had crushes.
It was classic I stayed after one day to go over a paper that I didn't on a grade of and we spent about 40 mins rehashing it. He had me go back the next morning before class to help me correct it for him to review again. I was so grateful that i instinctively went to give him a hug to say thanks and it was like that 20 seconds just suspended in mid air. Neither of us moved away. I honestly this many years later do not know who really initiated the kiss. It was a strong magical moment. I knew it was wrong but neither of us stopped.

We met for drinks off campus a few nights later ended up going back to his house and thus begun our steamy affair. He was in the middle of a divorce and his ex wife was no longer living there. I confided in my 2 best friends but we kept it under wraps. Went away skiing a few times and had a few getaways. I fell hard for him. VERY hard. He loved me but I sense it was more lust and feeding his big ego. I don't think for a minute he thought there was a future whereas I briefly was naieve enough to think there might be. It went on for several months but when I saw there was no future, it was too painful to stay in it just for the sex (which was damn good).

I met someone else who started to take my attention away so it made it easier to make the break. We had a few more encounters afterwards but eventually we went back to being professor and student. On my campus it was not forbidden. He was 34. A very youthful 34 year old and highly accomplished. If it were my own D today, I wouldn't like it but I know from first hand experience how these things can happen so quickly and so powerfully.

[Anonymous]

This is the type of thing you can expect in a world adrift, without its moorings.
If there is no moral compass, what is to stop the relentless parade of debauchery?

At least in the olden days there were temple prostitutes to satisfy mens' needs, and there were ziggurats.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is any more or less prevalent than it was in the past. If anything less so as there are more policies about fraternization and harsher consequences than there were decades ago.

The reason it gets talked about is because it isn't common. It happens in isolated incidents and has for a long time.

If it is common in your DDs program then that is an outlier and specific to the program or school as there would have to be an accepting culture there.

[Anonymous]

My dad was my mom's professor 40 years ago
(granted, they are only 5 years apart in age)

One of my professors put the moves on me 15 years ago but I politely declined (and still got an A). Skeevy 50 year old man. He had a reputation for dating students.

[Anonymous]

I think its more common than many realize. No doubt many of these people in power abuse it to seduce these young students however many of these girls who engage in these kinds of illicit affairs are no wallflowers, they knew what they are doing. My H taught at Duke and one of our friends (another professor) was carrying on with a senior girl which he confided to my husband about. In his words she was "sex crazed" and wanted him on the hour, he couldn't' keep up....serves him right, he was 50 thinking he could keep up with a 22 year old. We still laugh about it to this day!

[Anonymous]

I don't know the whole things is kinda hot. Makes me wish I could relive my college days againhe he