Beauvoir Playdate

[Anonymous]

Until you've been there you cannot possibly realize how completely neurosis- not to mention breakdown-inducing this ridiculous process can be. And no, knowing that it's ridiculous doesn't make things any better.

[Anonymous]

Oh, honey, believe me, I've been there. And I came away determined not to fall into this ridiculous game playing. (Yes, my child did get in, not on our first choice, but another of theese top schools that we're now very happy with.)

The idea that your three year old is being assessed for his/ her "leadership qualities" is absurd. Truly, I cannot believe that any rational person would buy into that. And to the poster that said "what to do about my shy child," implying that he/ she may not "perform well" at a playdate... you should be ashamed of yourself. Did you ever stop to think that Beauvoir may be a better fit for you than for your child?

[Anonymous]

Shame on you then. If you've been there, you should have more empathy. Beauvoir may be an excellent fit for a child even if s/he doesn't warm up to strangers right away. And the regardless of the school, why shouldn't a parent try to make his/her child as comfortable as possible when walking into an unusual situation like these playdates?

[Anonymous]

I know and love Beauvoir.

I agree that they prefer "compliant" children, and the play date is specifically designed to weed out those, ahem, non-compliant little ones.

The irony is that STA seems to be looking for the future leaders. "Compliance" is not what appears to be on the top of the list of attributes they seem to be looking for. As far as NCS, I'm not sure that compliance breeds mean-spiritedness, but somewhere along the line the precious little Beauvoir girls mutate into something much different at NCS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Until you've been there you cannot possibly realize how completely neurosis- not to mention breakdown-inducing this ridiculous process can be. And no, knowing that it's ridiculous doesn't make things any better.

Then WHY go through it? If all of you are THIS NUTS, imagine what you're doing to your children?

I'd run off if I had any of you for parents.

being examined during a play date? What the hell is that about? It's play! You learn through play!

You're making future therapists rich already! They're salivating right now just thinking of all of the clients they'll get.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Until you've been there you cannot possibly realize how completely neurosis- not to mention breakdown-inducing this ridiculous process can be. And no, knowing that it's ridiculous doesn't make things any better.

Then WHY go through it? If all of you are THIS NUTS, imagine what you're doing to your children?

I'd run off if I had any of you for parents.

being examined during a play date? What the hell is that about? It's play! You learn through play!

You're making future therapists rich already! They're salivating right now just thinking of all of the clients they'll get.

Oh, please. You don't have to worry about us and our children, thank you. It sounds like you need to take care of yourself and deal with your frustrations and your lashing out at others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Until you've been there you cannot possibly realize how completely neurosis- not to mention breakdown-inducing this ridiculous process can be. And no, knowing that it's ridiculous doesn't make things any better.

Then WHY go through it? If all of you are THIS NUTS, imagine what you're doing to your children?

I'd run off if I had any of you for parents.

being examined during a play date? What the hell is that about? It's play! You learn through play!

You're making future therapists rich already! They're salivating right now just thinking of all of the clients they'll get.

Oh, please. You don't have to worry about us and our children, thank you. It sounds like you need to take care of yourself and deal with your frustrations and your lashing out at others.

I don't worry about you; I worry about your kids. They're the ones who will be thrown into the real world one day, and unless Mommy and Daddy give them a room rent free, they'll never be free of your apron strings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Until you've been there you cannot possibly realize how completely neurosis- not to mention breakdown-inducing this ridiculous process can be. And no, knowing that it's ridiculous doesn't make things any better.

Then WHY go through it? If all of you are THIS NUTS, imagine what you're doing to your children?

I'd run off if I had any of you for parents.

being examined during a play date? What the hell is that about? It's play! You learn through play!

You're making future therapists rich already! They're salivating right now just thinking of all of the clients they'll get.

Oh, please. You don't have to worry about us and our children, thank you. It sounds like you need to take care of yourself and deal with your frustrations and your lashing out at others.

You don't need to worry about our children either.

Frankly, I'm worried about YOU.


I don't worry about you; I worry about your kids. They're the ones who will be thrown into the real world one day, and unless Mommy and Daddy give them a room rent free, they'll never be free of your apron strings.

[Anonymous]

As an NCS grad who has known several generations of girls who attend the school, including recently, I have to speak up about the mean girl thing. What I've seen in every class is a few years of mean girl stuff that resolves around 9th or 10th grade and what replaces it is an incredibly supportive spirit. I have a close group of friends for life from NCS and I've seen the same dynamic in subsequent classes. I see other schools with worse mean girl problems (GDS).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Until you've been there you cannot possibly realize how completely neurosis- not to mention breakdown-inducing this ridiculous process can be. And no, knowing that it's ridiculous doesn't make things any better.

Then WHY go through it? If all of you are THIS NUTS, imagine what you're doing to your children?

I'd run off if I had any of you for parents.

being examined during a play date? What the hell is that about? It's play! You learn through play!

You're making future therapists rich already! They're salivating right now just thinking of all of the clients they'll get.

Oh, please. You don't have to worry about us and our children, thank you. It sounds like you need to take care of yourself and deal with your frustrations and your lashing out at others.

I actually don't worry about her kids, either. The odds are that they'll inherit her neurosis and unhealthy obsessions regardless. I'm worried for the normal kids who will grow up and may have contact with her kids, who will be by then, insufferable adults.



I don't worry about you; I worry about your kids. They're the ones who will be thrown into the real world one day, and unless Mommy and Daddy give them a room rent free, they'll never be free of your apron strings.

[Anonymous]

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I actually don't worry about her kids, either. The odds are that they'll inherit her neurosis and unhealthy obsessions regardless. I'm worried for the normal kids who will grow up and may have contact with her kids, who will be by then, insufferable adults.

No truer words were EVER spoken! Bravo!

[Anonymous]

If you are assuming that "normal" kids, in contrast, will grow up to be wonderful adults, then they'll have no problem coping. Save your pity and worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an NCS grad who has known several generations of girls who attend the school, including recently, I have to speak up about the mean girl thing. What I've seen in every class is a few years of mean girl stuff that resolves around 9th or 10th grade and what replaces it is an incredibly supportive spirit. I have a close group of friends for life from NCS and I've seen the same dynamic in subsequent classes. I see other schools with worse mean girl problems (GDS).

I think this sort of thing is true in almost all schools. I remember it in my school growing up - a parochial school in NYC.

[Anonymous]

As for weeding out the free spirits, some schools definitely try to balance temperaments in the classroom. My mom was a preschool teacher at one of the very competetive independent schools in another city. When we began the admissions process with my child I asked what they were looking for - she mentioned, among other things, "not too many indian chiefs".

I have no idea if Beauvoir does this or what they're looking for, other than kids who will thrive in the environment they provide. My DC is there, is definitely an indian chief (always has been) and is quite happy. DC enjoyed the playdate but I don't know what they found in DC tht they didn't find in others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are assuming that "normal" kids, in contrast, will grow up to be wonderful adults, then they'll have no problem coping. Save your pity and worry.

Oh our normal ones will cope, but unfortunately will have to do double the work at their jobs to compensate for the lackluster job done by your enabled children.