I think we need to break up
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Anonymous
Lots of good advice here, especially the advice to avoid giving a long list of reasons. By the way, it's much easier being the dumper. 
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Anonymous
| Did you give him that diamond ring? is that you? I felt badly for you and knew this was going to end soon. I hope it all works out ok. you are doing the right thing to end it. |
Anonymous
| He's too good for you. Tell him soon so he can find the love he deserves. |
Anonymous
For realsies? |
Anonymous
No! Do not talk about points in the post. Break-up is not a conversation. |
Anonymous
OP here -
That wasn't me! All I've given him is a cat
It's because I'm a feminist, liberal, non-believer, isn't it?  boo
He won't be angry. He'll be sad and frustrated and probably will be totally silent the whole time, but I am not afraid he will get mad or become violent or anything. Thanks everyone who's given me advice so far. This is so hard I hate hurting people and this is easily the most I will ever hurt anyone. I am going to talk to the friend I am moving in with and see if there's ANY way I can move in earlier. Luckily I've been dumped so many times I am starting to think back about what would have made those experiences less painful for me. Short and sweet seems to be the way to go.
I am going to be selfish and ask for the advice and encouragement to keep coming. Thanks! |
Anonymous
| Never stay in a relationship because of housing. |
Anonymous
| You've been together less than a year and you are 21? You are CRAZY. Also, never buy someone a pet as a gift. Again, CRAZY! |
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Well, if her really loves you a lot, tell him that you are not ready for marriage.
He's 25, you're 21. You both need time to mature. Give it a couple more years. If things have not changed, then break up. |
Anonymous
| seriously? do you even have a kid or just the kitten. sorry -did I miss that? If not - cry me a river. you are young and this is part of life. |
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For a twenty one yr. old, you have an amazing head on your shoulders.
You are very well-spoken and know exactly what you want out of life. I am 44 and when I was your age, I was nowhere near where you are at intellectually or common sense wise. That being said, you are very young and have your whole life ahead of you. If you do not feel like this guy is Mr. Right, then by all means, do not lead him on any longer. The longer things go on, the harder it will be for both of you when things don't pan out. I wouldn't stay w/him just for a place to stay. That would be wrong in so many ways. Find another place to stay and break up w/him sooner rather than later. It won't be easy, but the sooner you let him go, the sooner you will be giving both of you the opportunity to move on to a more compatible relationship that will be more suitable for both of you. Good luck.
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Do not move in with him for a month when you know you are breaking up with him. That is using him and taking advantage of him.
While I agree you don't need to go through every little detail, it is good to have a conversation. Not giving someone a reason or acting like there is no reason leads to no closure for the dumpee. Tell him his good qualities and you appreciate how you've grown in this relationship - basically it wasn't all bad and let him know you are too different (different goals), and you aren't ready for marriage. |
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| you're 21. |
Anonymous
Yes I am. And? Thank you everyone who has chimed in so far. I'm feeling a bit less nuts about the whole thing! |
Anonymous
| Just do it. Time to move on. Sit him down, tell him you're breaking up with him. If you give him reasons, he'll argue each one. Don't feel nuts...move on!! |