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I just found a receipt
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Anonymous
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I think the right thing to do here is to take a picture of the receipt with your phone, put it back and then do nothing for 3 days. Let your emotions simmer down and think about whether there might be any reasonable explanation. If not, I think I would come to my husband, calmly, and ask about it. See how he reacts. But do nothing until you get to the stage where you can have this conversation dispassionately. You are already ahead being self-aware that you may be hormonal right now. And do you have a friend you could talk to about this? Unfortunately, my hunch is that this is a happy ending scenario, but you don't know. And honestly, I could live with that after the hectic infant period (and the lack of sex that happened with breastfeeding) much more than I could live with a real affair with someone he might have feelings for. |
Anonymous
| OP here. It is weird. The receipt is for Saturday when he said he was golfing and made no mention of a massage. I thought it was weird when I called the number listed in a google search and someone answered. But everyone's replies make me think I'm over reacting and now I feel like an idiot. I'm going to try to go to bed. And no, DH isn't home yet from kick boxing. Left phone at home. Should have been back 30 min ago. |
Anonymous
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Maybe he got a massage after golf? DH has done that before, usually at the suggestion of one of his friends. Maybe he didn't mention it to you since you've been hormonal and didn't want to upset you that he got a spur of the moment massage.
Step away from the computer and try to go to bed/not be pissed at DH. You seem to be dead set on him cheating on you, and unless there are other issues going on, I think you are way overreacting. |
Anonymous
Not OP here, but my husband omitting stuff because I'm hormonal amd not being home past 10:30pm would not fly at my house. I don't think she's being unreasonable. |
Anonymous
I don't think you're overreacting. I'd be extremely suspicious as well. I would ask him about it tomorrow in as non-confrontational a way as you can muster. |
Anonymous
AGREE |
Anonymous
| Maybe he's always away because you keep using being hormonal as an excuse for acting crazy and not paying attention to him. That would drive any man crazy and possibly to pay for "extra services". |
Anonymous
+100 |
Anonymous
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I think something is going on, but not that he's paying a massage therapist for a "happy ending" or sex. This is way too on the up and up for that. There's two options here:
He legitimately got a massage and told you it was golfing because he knew you'd freak out over him getting a massage and accuse him of paying for sex/getting a happy ending. or He got a massage WITH somebody and that is the secret. I'd be concerned if my husband told me he was doing one thing but was in reality spending $200 at a spa because it would be weird that he lied about going to the spa to begin with. But I don't think your husband is paying the massage therapists for sex. |
Anonymous
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Guy here, first always pay cash and never take anything with you form "the spa"
Either he is not the sharpest tool in the shed or wanted you to see it. Does he work in that area? Do you live in that area? Or you work at that spa and are trying to drum up business. |
Anonymous
| If he is doing kick boxing and golf.. Maybe he got hurt and was hoping a message would help? What if he was having trouble swinging while playing with a friend.. The friend said.. "Man when I had that trouble I got a message and it really helped." So after golf.. Your DH got a message. |
Anonymous
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Really sounds like a Asian rubdown with happy ending.Why hide the receipt? It says massage on it.Nobody can prove he was more.
I'd send a male friend of mine there for a massage and see if he could get an happy ending... |
Anonymous
Where does it say he hid it? OP found it so it couldn't have been "hidden" too well. |
Anonymous
Of course he could! Depening on the the spa and the massage therapist, they often offer it. The rub (no pun intended) is that is a cash transaction between the customer and the girl. Many times, the "house" does not even know about it. At the very least, OP's DH got a massage and she should ask. |
Anonymous
| If you have an address, just go check it out |