Am I a nagger?
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Anonymous
| I think you should just stop picking up the dishes. Leave the where they are for a few days. Then dh will realize he doesn't have any clean dishes to eat off of and maybe he will do a load. |
Anonymous
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Wait, seriously, PP, you can't be expected to do anything around the house if the kids are around? you've got to be kidding me. I'm a full-time working single mom and I manage to get it all done even when I'm home with the kid. It's called being a grownup and not a total slob.
I'm sorry, but it's not rocket science to not leave gross dishes all over the place. That should be expected. I can see him forgetting to switch the clothes, and that is something I wouldn't bother to nag about - I'd just do that myself because it takes 60 seconds. You might be a nag, OP, but if this is the norm, it's not without reason. |
Anonymous
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Depends on who was making the mess in the first place. My wife is much more conscientious about cleaning; but I'm much more conscientious about making sure a mess doesn't develop. (Like PP said, my philosophy is that when you are finished eating, at a minimum, you take the dishes to the sink and rinse them off.)
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Anonymous
| It's his fault if you feel like you have to repeat yourself. I can't stand laziness. |
Anonymous
I'm the puppies poster and I totall agree with your whole second paragraph. My example and words was pretty much a direct quote from husband when we had a conversation about chores  I should have focused more on the grown up aspect of asking nicely and thanking for things that were done instead of nagging and being resentful.
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Anonymous
I think everyone generally puts dishes in the dishwasher when the dishwasher is dirty and they have the time to rinse it and stick it in there. The issue is what happens when the dishwasher needs to be emptied before the dish is put in there. Or when you have a dishwasher that stinks and the dish needs to be pretty thoroughly cleaned before it does in. In those instances, some people sometimes put the plate on the counter or in the sink and try to deal first with their toddler who smeared blueberry yogurt all over his face and is now running towards the cream colored couch, with the goal of coming back in a few minutes and dealing with the dish. It doesn't always happen. |
Anonymous
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[quote=Anonymous]We men are not puppies or in need of training. So yeah, y'all are a bunch of naggaz.....
Naggaz need to have their own place to live separate from the non-naggaz. Their should be signs that say "Naggaz Only." That said, you should be able to have a real discussion as adults about the chores. But please stop thinking that men need to be "trained." I am a man. I hate that. On the flip side, men, listen up. If your DWs ask you to do things, and you agree to it, you're not incapable of doing it. Think about it: if you dont do that work someone else has to. If you hold a regular job it's no different. If you don't write up the report that you promised you would, your ass would be thrown out to the street. So just do your freaking jobs, but don't submit yourselves to puppy training. Talk about it and use your brains. [/quote] my dh does nothing around the house. i have 1 autistic, 1 todler and 3rd on its way. yes if i ask my dh to keep an eye on my autiatic child so i can use the bathroom still he would not do it. so yes i think men are puppies. at least mine is. yes i know all men are not like that. i have my father he always took care of his kids. sorry dude but i feel for op. yes op you are not nagging. wish you luck. |
Anonymous
This sounds like a sure way to discover that his threshold for household dirtiness is much higher than hers. |
Anonymous
Oh man, you sound like a joy. In my household we are more relaxed and happy for it. We try to keep general control over chaos but are comfortable with leaving the heavy lifting for after bedtime or the weekends. With two spouses working full time, life is too fleeting to spend every second doing dishes. |
Anonymous
With a young baby or toddler it can be tough to fit in anything else. In my house we prefer to focus on the kid and be a bit more relaxed instead of being type a about getting it all done. And btw I have the same expectation of our nanny - she should focus on the kids and relax during nap times instead of running around like crazy. Because she is great she does manage to clean up lunch and do bottles usually. |
Anonymous
| Sometimes it's worth chilling out a bit more and treating each other with a bit of respect - not nagging. At the end of the day, it's not that important. |
Anonymous
No, it is not tough to put your cup in the dishwasher. You sound like a child. It is much easier to put things away right then and there rather than to have to spend 20 minutes or more doing it later. |
Anonymous
| As I understand it, DW was at work all day, and it was important to her mental sanity not to walk in after a hard day to a house filled with dirty dishes and a stinky washer. I can't for the life of me figure out why it's unreasonable for her to ask her husband to take care of both things, which would have taken him less than 15 minutes total at some point during the day while she was gone. Clearly her husband doesn't think to do these things on his own. Perhaps they don't bother him, but they bother her. And, as a sign of appreciation to her, I think he should have done that for her. I'm home all day with three kids under 8 and I have time to take care of baseline crap that bothers my husband to come home to. It's not like she asked him to re-grout the bathroom because she wants that done, or even to sweep or do the laundry. I think this is basic housekeeping that she wasn't home to do. Asking each other to take care of stuff is not nagging until it's way beyond this. |
Anonymous
| *Nag* OP, Are you a NAG..not nagger. You could also use Shrew or Harpy |
Anonymous
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