Quick, should I pick dh up at the metro?

[Anonymous]

wow, seriously?
why should op have to spend forty five minutes vs dh on a bus for half an hour?

[Anonymous]

I assumed that you mean it takes you 45 minutes from when you leave the house to when you return to the house - so 20 minutes driving each way, more or less?

I would personally not do this if I was already at home. Coordinating return commutes is one thing, so picking him up on the way is nice, but what you're describing today is different. Maybe if the weather was crappy, but it's not. I will be walking a mile home from the metro myself in an hour or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH always asks me to pick him up at the metro if I can. Otherwise it takes him 30 min. on bus. (35-40 min. total commute). Usually I pick him up at his work on my commute home, but some days I work from home, so can't. I HATE picking him up. It takes me 45 min. with the kid in the car. But I like to show him that I love him, and am willing to do stuff for him. Please advise.

Nice of you to pick him up but if his total commute is 35 to 40 minutes, he should take the bus or walk most days. My commute most days is an hour. I'd love to only spend 40 minutes commuting. Question: would you ask him to pick you up if the circumstances were reversed or would you just not want to bother him?

[Anonymous]

in my house, i do not pick my husband up if both i have the kids, and my total time in the car would be greater than his total time getting home as he usually does. i could (but don't) also include in the total time it takes the time it takes to get shoes on the kiddos and to get them loaded in the car.

so, if it were me, no, i wouldn't go get him. especially if i hated it as much as you say you do.

[Anonymous]

wow, and wonder why there are so many depressing threads about failing , sexless marriages, spouses who are unappreciated, etc. etc.

what happened about just doing something nice for your spouse because you love them? guess not with this self-absorbed crowd with over-inflated values of self-worth and importance.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. That is why public transportation exists. Why be so unnecessarily car dependent and waste quality time with your child?

[Anonymous]

I make my hubby walk. It's about 30 mins walking. It's a hard time to get him around dinner time and meltdown city w the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH always asks me to pick him up at the metro if I can. Otherwise it takes him 30 min. on bus. (35-40 min. total commute). Usually I pick him up at his work on my commute home, but some days I work from home, so can't. I HATE picking him up. It takes me 45 min. with the kid in the car. But I like to show him that I love him, and am willing to do stuff for him. Please advise.

You have to make yoiurself di this? You sound thoughess. What about him working all day and then having to deal with public transport? Go get him. Set an exame for your kids re what love is.

[Anonymous]

he should ride a bike.

[Anonymous]

I am so dumbfounded that so many people think this would be an acceptable normal activity! Sure, on occasion, but what a horrible example to set for your children regarding the environment.

[Anonymous]

Do you drop him off?

[Anonymous]

Why can't he walk?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. Tell him to get a bike.

[Anonymous]

Why bother living in the city? Isn't the whole point "walkability"? Unless the weather is crappy and/or buses aren't running, let DH walk or take the bus. But pick him up once in a while, not enough that he gets used to it, but often enough to feel like a nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

Hell no, he can take the bus. Unless he's sick, injured, is carrying a cake, or there's extreme weather.