Managing gparent boundaries

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, weekends are for you, your husband and your kids!!! Especially since you work. Did grandma work while raising her young family? Perhaps they can't relate and/or perhaps they are too self-centered.

Grandparents can work out other ways to monopolize your kids time, visit, etc.

Wow. Grandparents wanting to see their grand kids is "self-centered"?

Yes, that is the very definition of self-centered. When you only take into account your own wants, desires, culture and circumstances, not the other person's.

[Anonymous]

These grandparents, who have been basically on call babysitters for their grand kids, have merely suggested the idea of this "grandparent camp" and this makes them selfish? Really?

[Anonymous]

Actually OP said she has paid childcare when she works and the grandparents fill in if she has to work out side of that. In addition, they take the children on Saturdays to play and be involved. Now they are suggesting taking the kids the whole weekend. And OP will miss her young kids and spending quality time with them, as those are the weekends they are all free.

Honestly, these are our parents. You should be able to share your feelings with them. It's simple, just say "Ma, I work all week and run around doing errands, I'd really like to bond with my kids on those weekends they are not at sports/camps/activities. THanks for understanding, maybe we can work out the sleepover weekends another time in the future."

Also, maybe THEY need time in their house to get stuff done. Could that be why they are suggesting taking the grandkids so often and for entire weekends? THen they'd totally understand that you want to spend time with your kids, nuclear family and enjoy your house, etc.