Preference for older/mature women?

[Anonymous]

I'm a recently divorced early 40's woman. For some reason I'm only attracting mid-30's guys (no complaints here!!). I found it a little strange initially but I'm accepting of it. And now men slightly older than me (my old preferred age range) just seem OLD in comparison now. And there's a lot to be said about the difference in stamina between a man in his 30's and one in his 40's...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a recently divorced early 40's woman. For some reason I'm only attracting mid-30's guys (no complaints here!!). I found it a little strange initially but I'm accepting of it. And now men slightly older than me (my old preferred age range) just seem OLD in comparison now. And there's a lot to be said about the difference in stamina between a man in his 30's and one in his 40's...

I am 38 and recently set up a profile online. I've had a lot of very young guys approach me. I think it would be really creepy to date a 20 year old, but I totally wouldn't mind early 30's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a recently divorced early 40's woman. For some reason I'm only attracting mid-30's guys (no complaints here!!). I found it a little strange initially but I'm accepting of it. And now men slightly older than me (my old preferred age range) just seem OLD in comparison now. And there's a lot to be said about the difference in stamina between a man in his 30's and one in his 40's...

I am 38 and recently set up a profile online. I've had a lot of very young guys approach me. I think it would be really creepy to date a 20 year old, but I totally wouldn't mind early 30's.

[Anonymous]

I can't speak to what goes on in a guy's mind, but I'm a late 40s divorced woman who regularly gets interest from guys in their 20s to ~34. I'm actually FWB with one right now and just ended a FWB with another.

I honestly don't get it. I'm not "hot" in the conventional American entertainment industry sense. I'm fit for a middle aged woman and still have long/lustrous hair, but that's about all I have going for me, looks-wise. Maybe it's proximity — I'm in an industry packed with personable males under the age of 35.

[Anonymous]

Younger men who are into women 15 to 20 years older are trolling for an easy connection and sex. Many are incapable of handling a relationship with a woman closer to their age who has expectations for the present and the future. They want a woman who is most likely just looking for companionship and possibly fwb sex and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Younger men who are into women 15 to 20 years older are trolling for an easy connection and sex. Many are incapable of handling a relationship with a woman closer to their age who has expectations for the present and the future. They want a woman who is most likely just looking for companionship and possibly fwb sex and nothing more.

please say more. i married this guy. his previous relationships had all been with significantly older women. i am significantly younger than him. i wonder if there's something to what your saying, something critical in his psychology.

[Anonymous]

When I was in my 20s I preferred divorced women in their 40s. They liked sex, drove nice cars, lived in nice apartments or houses, and provided fun beach vacations.

Now that I am in my 50s, I prefer women 25-40. 45 is too close to menopause and all the horrible problems it brings. I am a menopause survivor.

[Anonymous]

When I was 25 (now 38) I had an awesome relationship with a 50-ish divorced acquaintance of my parents. At a party she mentioned she was having problems with her computer and I offered to help. I went to her place late one afternoon and it didn't take long before she made it clear what was on her mind. Her honesty and maturity were refreshing especially when compared to the girls I was dating who were my own age. The sex was really good as she had a lot more experience than I did and was very open about what she liked. And I had no idea that a woman in her 50's would enjoy sex that much. We hooked up about half a dozen times until I met the girl who is now my DW. I think every single guy should experience an older/mature woman. My DW has definitely benefited from what I learned.

[Anonymous]

A house dress, Naturalizer's and nylon kneehighs get me every time.

[Anonymous]

This explains alot. I am in my 50 and since about mid 40's have had a constant stream of young guys approach me. I thought once I hit 50 I would be able to just end the conversation when I told them my age. That just seemed to spur them on. I don't look my age and have very little gray hair and a lot of hair, I mean a ridiculous amount of hair, and a life long runner. I thought it was just cause I was appearing to be another age but that wasn't it. On the few times I have allowed myself to enjoy the attention of a guy 15 yrs younger I have really enjoyed it. The sex, the spontaneity, the energy. I always end up ending it though cause I just can't see a future. One day I will look my age and I don't want to be on the receiving end of a guy in his 40 looking back and wondering why he is with someone so old. I do appreciate the attention of a younger man, always flattering

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

thegeek20004 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband loves the "mature" ladies and he has always shared that with me and I have always found it weird. He says he can't wait until I'm 40. :-/

Interesting... 40 is an ideal age... actually 42 for some odd reason to me, lol. The sex drive tends to go out of control which always makes things.... interesting.

Interesting, because 42 is the age when most women lose their fertility.

So, on your 42nd birthday, there's this loud clang and something falls out? I didn't get to experience this, and actually got pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This explains alot. I am in my 50 and since about mid 40's have had a constant stream of young guys approach me. I thought once I hit 50 I would be able to just end the conversation when I told them my age. That just seemed to spur them on. I don't look my age and have very little gray hair and a lot of hair, I mean a ridiculous amount of hair, and a life long runner. I thought it was just cause I was appearing to be another age but that wasn't it. On the few times I have allowed myself to enjoy the attention of a guy 15 yrs younger I have really enjoyed it. The sex, the spontaneity, the energy. I always end up ending it though cause I just can't see a future. One day I will look my age and I don't want to be on the receiving end of a guy in his 40 looking back and wondering why he is with someone so old. I do appreciate the attention of a younger man, always flattering

I agree completely. I'm 52 and love the attention from guys 35-40. I've met a few of them at my fitness center where pretty much all you have is on display. While I'm hoping a more age appropriate guy is in my future these younger guys really know how to make an older woman feel young again. I know they enjoyed the experience as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 25 (now 38) I had an awesome relationship with a 50-ish divorced acquaintance of my parents. At a party she mentioned she was having problems with her computer and I offered to help. I went to her place late one afternoon and it didn't take long before she made it clear what was on her mind. Her honesty and maturity were refreshing especially when compared to the girls I was dating who were my own age. The sex was really good as she had a lot more experience than I did and was very open about what she liked. And I had no idea that a woman in her 50's would enjoy sex that much. We hooked up about half a dozen times until I met the girl who is now my DW. I think every single guy should experience an older/mature woman. My DW has definitely benefited from what I learned.

I agree! Divorced women in their late 40's/early 50's who have exited loveless marriages but have desire are a gift to younger men. Their relationship expectations are limited and having fun and great sex for the first time in years is a high priority. I'm a divorced guy in my mid-30's and I really like these ladies as there are few complications. Most just seem to want companionship, fun and great sex.

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP who attracts the mid-30's guys. I agree that all I'm looking for is someone to hang out with, have a good time with and enjoy sex with. I don't want a relationship or any drama. Between full time work, half time custody, my friends and other interests I don't really have a lot of free time. Seeing someone once every week or two, maybe just for a few hours on a weeknight, is totally sufficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP who attracts the mid-30's guys. I agree that all I'm looking for is someone to hang out with, have a good time with and enjoy sex with. I don't want a relationship or any drama. Between full time work, half time custody, my friends and other interests I don't really have a lot of free time. Seeing someone once every week or two, maybe just for a few hours on a weeknight, is totally sufficient.

Where do you find these guys? I'm in the same boat as you and I'm confident I can make a younger guy happy. I've dated some older guys (late 50's/60's) but the sex has not been great.