Scared of what the Developmental Pediatrician is going to say

[Anonymous]

I wish you could meet my teenage Asperger kid. He started out how you are describing your child and now everyone who meets him is blown away by his awesomeness. I remember all too well those feelings you are describing but try to remember it really is just a new label, your child is still the sweet child he was before testing began. And, it gets better, I promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish you could meet my teenage Asperger kid. He started out how you are describing your child and now everyone who meets him is blown away by his awesomeness. I remember all too well those feelings you are describing but try to remember it really is just a new label, your child is still the sweet child he was before testing began. And, it gets better, I promise.

I wish I could too. I am just scared that he isn't going to make it in a typical school.

[Anonymous]

PP -- I hear you, i had that fear and it turned out to be right. Ask yourself -- if that happens, so what?

[Anonymous]

My DS was diagnosed with high autism in December. Like others have said, getting the diagnosis is hard, but I must confess that I wasn't shocked. As a parent, you always have a good instinct into whether something is not right with your DC.

It's now been almost 2 months since the diagnosis and I'm finally coming to terms with it. The important thing to remember is that your DC will not change as a result of a diagnosis. They will be the same child they were the day before. However, the diagnosis is an opportunity for you to change as a parent. To accept your child for who they are. And to learn to read and understand the cues they give you. I think my relationship with DC is much better and more understanding now than before the diagnosis. And, I still have high hopes for his future.

The hardest part (for me at least), has been dealing with immediate family denial. Grandparents, uncles, and aunts have all been in denial over the diagnosis. When the family is together, I find myself having to "defend" DS's diagnosis, which is exhausting. I hope that with time our family will accept the tough fact and will continue to love him.

Good luck. Hang in there and continue to love your child.

[Anonymous]

<<It's now been almost 2 months since the diagnosis and I'm finally coming to terms with it. >>

Two months? That's pretty good. Mine has been a three year process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:<<It's now been almost 2 months since the diagnosis and I'm finally coming to terms with it. >>

Two months? That's pretty good. Mine has been a three year process.

I had seen it coming for about one year. That's why the diagnosis wasn't so shocking and acceptance was a bit easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish you could meet my teenage Asperger kid. He started out how you are describing your child and now everyone who meets him is blown away by his awesomeness. I remember all too well those feelings you are describing but try to remember it really is just a new label, your child is still the sweet child he was before testing began. And, it gets better, I promise.

I wish I could too. I am just scared that he isn't going to make it in a typical school.

OP,
Please do not get ahead of yourself with worries!
IF it comes to his, and that is a big if, this too will not be the end of the world.

DS (age 10) did not make it in a typical private or our local public, but guess what, he is doing wonderfully in his AS program and we love love love it---he has amazing teachers, accesses challenging academics, AND HAS FRIENDS! He is happy much of the time now and the specialized programming is key for a child with asynchronous development.

Hang in there and take things one step at a time.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for making me smile. He will always be my sweet, smart son. I want to make life easier for him than it had been.