My DH has 2-3 drinks per night - is he an alcoholic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I consider a glass or two of wine every night the much earned "cherry on top" of the day. It affects me not one bit not to have a drink, but if I'm just home, which I usually am, I have a drink or two. No issues.

If your drive during the day is to get a drink as a reward then you're an alcoholic

[Anonymous]

I imagine that's how my mom started...with a glass or two of wine. Thirt years later, it's more like a bottle. Just don't do it every night. Moderation is key.

[Anonymous]

I an an alcoholic. Before I got sober, I had everyone pretty well fooled that I had only 2-3 drinks a night. I was a master at hiding it. Also, like another poster, looked forward to my "cherry on top" all day long. I'd say I your curious whether your spouse has a an alcohol problem, then they probably do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think that makes him an alcoholic, but it might be drinking more than is healthy. Just like eating too many sweets, you can damage your body by drinking too much alcohol.

My DH drinks this much and I worry less about the dependency issue and more about cancer and other diseases because alcohol is hard on your body.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is using alcohol as his primary coping strategy - for stress management, for relaxation.

It isn't healthy but it doesn't make him an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

Just ask him to go a week without it and see if he can do it. If he pushes back, then Houston, we have a problem.

[Anonymous]

How many beers would 2 or 3 glasses of scotch be? That seems like a lot to me and it also seems as though if you need to ask then you're concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many beers would 2 or 3 glasses of scotch be? That seems like a lot to me and it also seems as though if you need to ask then you're concerned.

Uhh, of course I'm concerned. that's why I asked. But I'm a teetotaler. Sort of like asking if someone is a sex maniac if you're a virgin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I consider a glass or two of wine every night the much earned "cherry on top" of the day. It affects me not one bit not to have a drink, but if I'm just home, which I usually am, I have a drink or two. No issues.

If your drive during the day is to get a drink as a reward then you're an alcoholic

Who said anything about it being my drive during the day? Good lord, people are really fucked up about alcohol. There is nothing wrong with enjoying alcohol at the end of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I consider a glass or two of wine every night the much earned "cherry on top" of the day. It affects me not one bit not to have a drink, but if I'm just home, which I usually am, I have a drink or two. No issues.

If your drive during the day is to get a drink as a reward then you're an alcoholic

Who said anything about it being my drive during the day? Good lord, people are really fucked up about alcohol. There is nothing wrong with enjoying alcohol at the end of the day.

[Anonymous]

Dear Abby regularly posts the following. You can find the full article at:
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20030218

Dear Abby wrote:
ARE YOU AN ALCOHOLIC?

1. Have you ever decided to stop drinking for a week or so, but lasted only a couple of days?

2. Do you wish people would stop nagging you about your drinking?

3. Have you ever switched from one kind of drink to another hoping that would keep you from getting drunk?

4. Have you had a drink in the morning during the past year?

5. Do you envy people who can drink without getting into trouble?

6. Have you had problems connected with drinking during the past year?

7. Has your drinking caused you trouble at home?

8. Do you ever try to get extra drinks at a party because you did not get enough to drink?

9. Do you tell yourself you can stop drinking any time you want, even though you keep getting drunk?

10. Have you missed days at work because of the drinking?

11. Do you have blackouts?

12. Have you ever felt that your life would be better if you did not drink?

13. When you take one or two drinks, can you stop and walk away?

14. Have you ever embarrassed yourself or someone else when drinking?

15. Do you drink every day?

16. How many times in the last month have you awakened with a hangover?

17. Do you spend money you don't have on alcohol?

18. Has this affected your sleeping habits? (Do you pass out, get a drink in the middle of the night, or wet the bed when you sleep because of alcohol?)


If you have answered yes to four or more of these questions, you are either an alcoholic or on your way to becoming one.
So, now what do you do? For openers, go to your telephone directory and look up the listing for Alcoholics Anonymous. It is listed under "A." They charge no dues and you need not identify yourself unless you want to.

Another excellent group, Women for Sobriety Inc., was mentioned in my column yesterday. If a 12-step program is not for you, talk to your doctor about a referral for other treatment options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I consider a glass or two of wine every night the much earned "cherry on top" of the day. It affects me not one bit not to have a drink, but if I'm just home, which I usually am, I have a drink or two. No issues.

If your drive during the day is to get a drink as a reward then you're an alcoholic

Who said anything about it being my drive during the day? Good lord, people are really fucked up about alcohol. There is nothing wrong with enjoying alcohol at the end of the day.

Very classy. Perhaps if you had a drink every now and then you wouldn't feel the need to diagnose people on the internet off a few sentences and wouldn't be such an uptight asshole. Cheers!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I consider a glass or two of wine every night the much earned "cherry on top" of the day. It affects me not one bit not to have a drink, but if I'm just home, which I usually am, I have a drink or two. No issues.

If your drive during the day is to get a drink as a reward then you're an alcoholic

Who said anything about it being my drive during the day? Good lord, people are really fucked up about alcohol. There is nothing wrong with enjoying alcohol at the end of the day.

Very classy. Perhaps if you had a drink every now and then you wouldn't feel the need to diagnose people on the internet off a few sentences and wouldn't be such an uptight asshole. Cheers!

cheers! drink it up!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I consider a glass or two of wine every night the much earned "cherry on top" of the day. It affects me not one bit not to have a drink, but if I'm just home, which I usually am, I have a drink or two. No issues.

If your drive during the day is to get a drink as a reward then you're an alcoholic

Who said anything about it being my drive during the day? Good lord, people are really fucked up about alcohol. There is nothing wrong with enjoying alcohol at the end of the day.

Very classy. Perhaps if you had a drink every now and then you wouldn't feel the need to diagnose people on the internet off a few sentences and wouldn't be such an uptight asshole. Cheers!

cheers! drink it up!

its the end of the day so I assume you are on #2

[Anonymous]

I guess you've never traveled to nor lived in Europe. That's a normal day there and it does NOT equal alcoholism.