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[quote=Anonymous][quote]No, no and no. In my younger years I experienced all 3 sides of the infidelity triangle: I was cheated on, I was cheated with (I.e. I was the OW), and I cheated. I came to realize that all 3 roles were toxic and that no matter how sexy/exciting/absorbing those situations were, in the end I have to treat my body and my relationships in a much more sacred fashion.

I seriously believe this is the main reason my dating life up to my marriage got so much better and I am now married to an awesome man who's also an awesome father. [/quote]

I could have written the above. Spent some years feeling ashamed of my behavior, trying to figure out why I would debase myself/hurt others. worked through that crap before I met DH and am grateful to have the perspective and I am very, very careful to keep our marriage healthy and strong.  I know that the sexual thrill, or emotional need, or fix, or whatever sucks you in, masks insecurity, pain, fear, angst, immaturity and there is always a better way to address those issues. I also know that everyone is susceptible to an affair and both partners in a marriage need to be mindful of creating secure boundaries and fostering a loving connection. This cannot prevent all affairs, but it is a start. [/quote]

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