The downsides to being pretty....

[Anonymous]

That's funny. Speaking as someone who is prettier than the woman in the article (and likely older...), there are no downsides. There are multiple studies out there that have pretty much proven that it is easier to be attractive. But at least she has a good self image....

[Anonymous]

Speaking as someone who's not pretty (and has not seen the woman in question)

1) I don't hate prettier women, although I am jealous (in a non-spiteful way)

2) I don't really feel sorry for the burdens carried by attractive women. Try life as a plain woman for a while and you'll count your blessings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html
"Why women hate me for being beautiful"

so where were the pics of the pretty woman?

i just saw a bunch of pictures of a blonde woman and a few where shes with a man who i assume is her husband

[Anonymous]

It's not an April fool's joke. The woman's serious. There's been a lot of coverage about this in the British press.

I'm surprised at the reactions to her beauty that she claims, but she raises a valid point, albeit in a pretty grating way. Women can be horrible to other women who're attractive in exactly the ways she describes.

[Anonymous]

she is not pretty...don't imagine that age has much to do with it in her case either.

[Anonymous]

No, not pretty at all. She has a butter face. Ick.

[Anonymous]

She is consistently running into problems with friends, neighbors and colleagues, and the problems are ALL a result of them being "jealous" of her. Really? Her single flaw is overwhelming beauty, and the misfortunes in her life are no fault of her own, ever, but instead a result of jealousy? Mmm hmmm. That must be it.

Her comment about her "modest" style of clothing being a problem at the office brought to mind a former colleague of mine. Her style of clothing was also modest - button down shirts, pants suits or skirt suits - but wearing them two sizes too small made her look like the corporate version of a prostitute.

I suspect this woman's issue is not blinding beauty but arrogance, self-centeredness, and a lack of self awareness. If she were stunning and had a great or even merely tolerable personality, she wouldn't consistently find that people hate her because she's beautiful. It's not about your looks, lady.

[Anonymous]

There will always be an England.

[Anonymous]

I liked the anecdote about a woman who didn't like her standing at the front right of a group photo, which cause the author to "burst into tears." Um...really?

[Anonymous]

She's clearly delusional. She needs help.

[Anonymous]

No, not pretty at all. She has a butter face. Ick.

but this implies she has a nice body...she's got an average one. the term "butter face" assumes her body is rockin'...as in "everything looks good, but-her-face---butter face".

[Anonymous]

I was actually going to post about a similar subject because of an incident today at work…

I am probably considered above average attractive and it has created some problems for me especially in the work environment.

Female coworkers are not friendly towards me. I have to work extra hard to establish a friendship. I was told once by a current work friend/colleague, that she originally thought I gave off an attitude of being "better" than others. I, 100% hand on the bible honestly do not feel that way whatsoever. I do find it hard to believe that it was the 'real' reason why women were often cool towards me despite my efforts to establish a connection. I don’t know if it came from a place of jealousy or intimidation or what but I don’t believe I ever gave off that impression bc I do not feel that way in any shape or form. I tend to believe that I had to try harder with females to show that I was a kind person despite my “above average” physical appearance. Its like women think I must automatically be a bitch and/or mistrustful bc of my looks. Whereas a female who may be physically average or below average does not have to try as hard to “prove” their character. (and as a side note, I will say that not ALL women have these sentiments, but many do)

It's difficult with men as well in the work environment. I find while I may be invited to client related activities and lunches and happy hours more often than other females in my office, I find that I have to work extra hard at being taken seriously. I am in no way a ditz or stupid, I have a higher ed degree from a reputable university, but my ideas and statements aren’t given the same credibility. My male counterparts’ suggestions tend to be given a little more consideration and validation than mine do. Yes, sometimes because they are better but often times I get the impression that I am just that pretty girl who they don’t pay to think strategically.

What’s helped me to deal with this all is that I do not think that any of these attitudes are in a malicious fashion or even deliberate. Its something that’s programmed in our upbringing, our culture and our society.

Undoubtedly I will get lots of comments about “oooh poor pretty girl” and “you do sound like you’re coming off as haughty” but this is truly my take on the situation and some of the discrimination I have faced.

Just my two cents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was actually going to post about a similar subject because of an incident today at work…

I am probably considered above average attractive and it has created some problems for me especially in the work environment.

Female coworkers are not friendly towards me. I have to work extra hard to establish a friendship. I was told once by a current work friend/colleague, that she originally thought I gave off an attitude of being "better" than others. I, 100% hand on the bible honestly do not feel that way whatsoever. I do find it hard to believe that it was the 'real' reason why women were often cool towards me despite my efforts to establish a connection. I don’t know if it came from a place of jealousy or intimidation or what but I don’t believe I ever gave off that impression bc I do not feel that way in any shape or form. I tend to believe that I had to try harder with females to show that I was a kind person despite my “above average” physical appearance. Its like women think I must automatically be a bitch and/or mistrustful bc of my looks. Whereas a female who may be physically average or below average does not have to try as hard to “prove” their character. (and as a side note, I will say that not ALL women have these sentiments, but many do)

It's difficult with men as well in the work environment. I find while I may be invited to client related activities and lunches and happy hours more often than other females in my office, I find that I have to work extra hard at being taken seriously. I am in no way a ditz or stupid, I have a higher ed degree from a reputable university, but my ideas and statements aren’t given the same credibility. My male counterparts’ suggestions tend to be given a little more consideration and validation than mine do. Yes, sometimes because they are better but often times I get the impression that I am just that pretty girl who they don’t pay to think strategically.

What’s helped me to deal with this all is that I do not think that any of these attitudes are in a malicious fashion or even deliberate. Its something that’s programmed in our upbringing, our culture and our society.

Undoubtedly I will get lots of comments about “oooh poor pretty girl” and “you do sound like you’re coming off as haughty” but this is truly my take on the situation and some of the discrimination I have faced.

Just my two cents.

Well, at least you have your looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was actually going to post about a similar subject because of an incident today at work…

I am probably considered above average attractive and it has created some problems for me especially in the work environment.

Female coworkers are not friendly towards me. I have to work extra hard to establish a friendship. I was told once by a current work friend/colleague, that she originally thought I gave off an attitude of being "better" than others. I, 100% hand on the bible honestly do not feel that way whatsoever. I do find it hard to believe that it was the 'real' reason why women were often cool towards me despite my efforts to establish a connection. I don’t know if it came from a place of jealousy or intimidation or what but I don’t believe I ever gave off that impression bc I do not feel that way in any shape or form. I tend to believe that I had to try harder with females to show that I was a kind person despite my “above average” physical appearance. Its like women think I must automatically be a bitch and/or mistrustful bc of my looks. Whereas a female who may be physically average or below average does not have to try as hard to “prove” their character. (and as a side note, I will say that not ALL women have these sentiments, but many do)

It's difficult with men as well in the work environment. I find while I may be invited to client related activities and lunches and happy hours more often than other females in my office, I find that I have to work extra hard at being taken seriously. I am in no way a ditz or stupid, I have a higher ed degree from a reputable university, but my ideas and statements aren’t given the same credibility. My male counterparts’ suggestions tend to be given a little more consideration and validation than mine do. Yes, sometimes because they are better but often times I get the impression that I am just that pretty girl who they don’t pay to think strategically.

What’s helped me to deal with this all is that I do not think that any of these attitudes are in a malicious fashion or even deliberate. Its something that’s programmed in our upbringing, our culture and our society.

Undoubtedly I will get lots of comments about “oooh poor pretty girl” and “you do sound like you’re coming off as haughty” but this is truly my take on the situation and some of the discrimination I have faced.

Just my two cents.

Seems like you have a lot of time on your hands too.

[Anonymous]

As a women (average looking) I have never had an issue with a women based on how she looks but definitely how she acts. I have known gorgeous women who have not encountered these same issues because they are also kind and nice people. While I do think it is easy for us to tear each other down as women it really is a matter of how you are perceived by others not how you perceive yourself as a beautiful women.