Does anything still bother you from your middle school/ high school days?
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Anonymous
Okay, by that logic don't blame any of your kid's teachers when your special snowflake is having difficulty learning something. It's all on DC's back to do alone. Just "figure it out independently." See how that works? |
Anonymous
And she says she's not a bully.... 
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Anonymous
I "see how that works" n your house and I feel sorry for your kids. I have never and will never blame any of my kids' teachers for anything unless they harm my children in some way. I am fully engaged in my children's' education whether they have great teachers or bad teachers. If you believe the only way your child should learn is through formal education and their teachers than your kids have a long road ahead of them, particularly if you put it all of your DC's back if they have difficulty in a subject. I know I'm repeating myself, but do you really leave your child's education up to the teachers?? I'm just baffled. |
Anonymous
Do you also teach your children what the meaning of "sanctimonious" is? I see that you teach by example. |
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No, just the ones in higher math (two, to be exact). I was fine and understood mathematics until I got there. I tried, really I did, but there was support whatsoever. And your supposition was what I believed all along, until I really thought about it and realized they sucked. If you think Algebra II and Geometry are higher math than you are NOT good at math. I'm really not trying to be mean. Most of us, including myself, aren't good at everything but we don't blame others. Okay, by that logic don't blame any of your kid's teachers when your special snowflake is having difficulty learning something. It's all on DC's back to do alone. Just "figure it out independently." See how that works? I "see how that works" n your house and I feel sorry for your kids. I have never and will never blame any of my kids' teachers for anything unless they harm my children in some way. I am fully engaged in my children's' education whether they have great teachers or bad teachers. If you believe the only way your child should learn is through formal education and their teachers than your kids have a long road ahead of them, particularly if you put it all of your DC's back if they have difficulty in a subject. I know I'm repeating myself, but do you really leave your child's education up to the teachers?? I'm just baffled. You've completely missed the point. Of course it's not all on DC's back. Children need support and scaffolding when they have difficulty learning something. Do you understand sarcasm? I see reading comprehension is not your strong point. |
Anonymous
| I regret that I was not as nice as I could have been to certain people in middle school. I regret that I didn't get more involved in student government or whatever in high school.. My mother kept trying to get me to join this or that group and I wouldn't have any of it. Now I wish I had done just that. I love being involved in stuff. I try to get my kids involved. It kills me! |
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Okay, I'm going to bring us back to the original point. One thing that still bothers me from high school, that I just can't get past, is that I had a teacher who had serious boundary issues with his students. There was a small group of boys in my class that this teacher hung out with on the weekends. They would drink together, go on road trips together, etc. I became a favored target by these boys (my peers) for ridicule, and it was vicious. They would torment me in this teacher's class because they knew they would get away with it. Things finally got to the point that other students in the class encouraged me to go to the teacher and ask for help -- mind you, these were kids who didn't even know me very well! They were just freaked out to see fellow students acting out to this extent in class and the adult in charge doing nothing. When I worked up the courage to do so, my teacher essentially shrugged his shoulders and encouraged me to grow a thicker skin. He then sort of shamefacedly said he couldn't really do a lot about it, since these guys could really get him in trouble if the principal found out about their out-of-school activities.
There are two aspects of this that absolutely drive me insane as an adult. First, that any adult -- especially a teacher -- could find themselves in this position to begin with. (Not to mention my sinking feeling, as a grown-up looking back, that the inappropriate behavior I was aware of from the outside may only have been the tip of the iceberg). Second, that as a teenager, I was so ashamed of being an outcast -- of having been chosen for humiliation -- that it never once occurred to me to go to my parents or a guidance counselor or someone for help. I was so ashamed of _myself_ that I couldn't bear to tell anyone in authority -- even though every kid in my class knew exactly what was going on, and many of them felt sorry for me, even tried to protect me. There's a lot I would change about high school, in retrospect. This is way up there among them. |
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23:35 So sorry that happened to you! I also had some experiences that I wish I had talked to my parents or a counselor about.
We had a situation with a couple of science teachers that were a little cliquey bitch duo that favored jocks and cheerleaders and if you were not in either of those categories you were screwed that year. |
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I wish my parents had gotten me counseling instead of just being satisfied with my academic performance. My grades, etc., we're good, but I was such an emotional mess over my boyfriend that any time I ate in a restaurant I would puke because I was so nervous. They just didn't pay attention to me because I didn't get in trouble like my brother, but inside I was a real mess.
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There are things, looking back, I regret. But the one thing that really sticks out to me is how I allowed a bully to single out a very timid boy in the middle of our cafeteria. The timid boy was bald (I knew of him, but didn't know him, so I don't know why he was), and this football-playing ogre just stood up in the lunch room and started picking on him, calling him "gay", etc. It was just so vicious and I really wish that I would have been the person I know I was and stood up to the bully.
To this day, if I see any sign of bullying or any sign of something wrong, I immediately step in and take action. Never again do I want to feel like I could have don't something and didn't. |
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| * done something |
Anonymous
| Yes. I had a friend in high school who was bisexual that kept suggesting we experiment. I was not interested, and eventually I got upset and stopped hanging out with her and returning her calls. I wish I had been a little nicer about it and just clearly stated that I was not interested and wanted her to stop asking instead of being avoidant and immature. |
Anonymous
I hated those days in high school where you forgot there was a whole other world out there. Your immediate classmates were your world, which was not so great at times. I remember times when I would like a boy then he would end up liking my friend, or my friend would like a boy and then he would end up liking me. It caused so many tears and fights over these issues at the time because there were only so many boys in my class that were potential boyfriends, but looking back, those guys were so lame! If I knew then what I know now, I would have told them all to go take a hike because there were SO many, much better guys once I got to college 
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Anonymous
This is me too - not sticking up for kids who were being bullied. And there was one kid in particular who had a TERRIBLE time all throughout our school years. I didn't participate, but I didn't help him either. I think about him from time to time now and feel awful. I think about what his Mother must have felt like too. I ran into her while I was home on break from college and couldn't even look her in the eye. I'm tearing up thinking about it now. Wish I was stronger then. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I never had sex in high school and I loved my boyfriend, what a waste! |