Does anything still bother you from your middle school/ high school days?

[Anonymous]

I don't dwell on this stuff, but occasionally I will think about how mean some kids were when I was in middle school/ high school.

I suffered from bulimia for several years after high school. I don't blame it on anyone at all, but I sometimes wonder if it would have gotten as severe as it was if other kids didn't call me "thunder thighs", "fat", or "little piggy". Or if my high school soccer coach didn't continuously remind me that I was the "largest" girl on the team.

I have seriously let it go and live by the mantra that God forgives those who forgive others, move on, etc. But sometimes the words of those mean kids and insensitive adults still creep back into my mind... If those things happened now adays, I would tell them where to stick it!!

But what were you called in your teenage years that hurt? Or what situation did you have long ago that still creeps back into your thoughts from time to time?

[Anonymous]

A few things do. I have some regrets. Try to live in present though has always helped me

[Anonymous]

Truthfully I don't even remember those days. They are hazy at this point (I'm 42). I do remember one mean girl, but she was mean to pretty much everyone, so I wasn't singled out.

What I'm most angry about is feeling stupid all these years about my inability to do well at math during that time (Algebra II and Geometry). When I got to college I was automatically placed in a remedial math class with all the basketball players. I recently came to the realization that it wasn't me (I was an A/B student in all of my other subjects), but my math teachers' incompetence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Truthfully I don't even remember those days. They are hazy at this point (I'm 42). I do remember one mean girl, but she was mean to pretty much everyone, so I wasn't singled out.

What I'm most angry about is feeling stupid all these years about my inability to do well at math during that time (Algebra II and Geometry). When I got to college I was automatically placed in a remedial math class with all the basketball players. I recently came to the realization that it wasn't me (I was an A/B student in all of my other subjects), but my math teachers' incompetence.

ALL of your math teachers were incompetent? I'm thinking that you are just not good at math and have an issue admitting it!

[Anonymous]

21:54: YOU are the person from Middle School/High School who was a bully! Do you also go on Facebook and terrorize children? Get a life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truthfully I don't even remember those days. They are hazy at this point (I'm 42). I do remember one mean girl, but she was mean to pretty much everyone, so I wasn't singled out.

What I'm most angry about is feeling stupid all these years about my inability to do well at math during that time (Algebra II and Geometry). When I got to college I was automatically placed in a remedial math class with all the basketball players. I recently came to the realization that it wasn't me (I was an A/B student in all of my other subjects), but my math teachers' incompetence.

ALL of your math teachers were incompetent? I'm thinking that you are just not good at math and have an issue admitting it!

No, just the ones in higher math (two, to be exact). I was fine and understood mathematics until I got there. I tried, really I did, but there was support whatsoever. And your supposition was what I believed all along, until I really thought about it and realized they sucked.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had been more outgoing, wish I had went to proms/games, and took more social chances....had more confidence!!'!!

[Anonymous]

Yes. It doesn't keep me up at night, by any stretch. But there are so many little things i would have done differently. Looking back, I am embarrassed by how seriously I took some things, like I couldn't freaking calm down!

Sometimes I'll get myself really worked up about it. Like this: When I was a senior, I was in a tailspin of anxiety, despite being a very high achiever. But I was so afraid of taking Physics because the teacher was horrendous/scary/unreasonable that I decided to take two other sciences instead. Then when I applied to college, I didn't get into my top 3 favorite schools and felt like such a failure. I went to a decent school and eventually went to a decent grad school (even got a PhD) and met my husband during that time. But he has been disappointing me a lot lately with his lack of ambition (ironic, right?) and I have been unhappy in my marriage at times, sometimes even regretting marrying him. And in my mind, I will go all the way back to high school and wish that I took that stupid Physics class, gotten into a better college, different grad school, and, well, maybe I would be in a completely different place right now. I know it's stupid to beat myself up about a decision I made as a teenager, but i can't help but be sad that I just didn't know what I was doing. I really didn't *get* how important that class was. And my 16 year-old mind was never going to listen to anybody telling me otherwise.

Sigh. I know it sounds stupid. Sorry. But thanks for the vent.

[Anonymous]

22:02 here. Oops... I meant NO support whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had been just a TAD promiscuous. I was attractive back in high school, but very prim and prissy acting, and actually turned down guys just b/c of my own timidity. I was preppy and acted snobby.

I remember one night, alone in my bedroom, staring at myself naked. God, I had pretty breasts back then. I remember noting that to myself. But did I ever let a guy enjoy them, much less see them? No.

Those days are gone now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:21:54: YOU are the person from Middle School/High School who was a bully! Do you also go on Facebook and terrorize children? Get a life!

I was not a bully. I actually was a peer tutor. BUT, I hate whiners, complainers, and people who BLAME things on other people. "I thought I sucked at math my whooole life, but I now realize I was really an A/B student in EVERY subject but I just had bad math teachers." Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truthfully I don't even remember those days. They are hazy at this point (I'm 42). I do remember one mean girl, but she was mean to pretty much everyone, so I wasn't singled out.

What I'm most angry about is feeling stupid all these years about my inability to do well at math during that time (Algebra II and Geometry). When I got to college I was automatically placed in a remedial math class with all the basketball players. I recently came to the realization that it wasn't me (I was an A/B student in all of my other subjects), but my math teachers' incompetence.

ALL of your math teachers were incompetent? I'm thinking that you are just not good at math and have an issue admitting it!

No, just the ones in higher math (two, to be exact). I was fine and understood mathematics until I got there. I tried, really I did, but there was support whatsoever. And your supposition was what I believed all along, until I really thought about it and realized they sucked.

If you think Algebra II and Geometry are higher math than you are NOT good at math. I'm really not trying to be mean. Most of us, including myself, aren't good at everything but we don't blame others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:21:54: YOU are the person from Middle School/High School who was a bully! Do you also go on Facebook and terrorize children? Get a life!

I was not a bully. I actually was a peer tutor. BUT, I hate whiners, complainers, and people who BLAME things on other people. "I thought I sucked at math my whooole life, but I now realize I was really an A/B student in EVERY subject but I just had bad math teachers." Get over it.

You originally responded to me, and I responded that I had TWO bad math teachers. Now you're misquoting me. And I am "over it." I was merely responding to OP's question in the first place.

You may not be a "bully," but there are other words to describe you.

[Anonymous]

shit yes, if I knew then what i knew now I would have gotten laid a lot more and had a much better time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:21:54: YOU are the person from Middle School/High School who was a bully! Do you also go on Facebook and terrorize children? Get a life!

I was not a bully. I actually was a peer tutor. BUT, I hate whiners, complainers, and people who BLAME things on other people. "I thought I sucked at math my whooole life, but I now realize I was really an A/B student in EVERY subject but I just had bad math teachers." Get over it.

You originally responded to me, and I responded that I had TWO bad math teachers. Now you're misquoting me. And I am "over it." I was merely responding to OP's question in the first place.

You may not be a "bully," but there are other words to describe you.

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