Any women out there who did *not* do a whole bunch of crazy stuff in undergrad?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you from an immigrant or minority family or from a lower-middle income background?

No, from none of those. Is there some link between the groups you mentioned, and non-risky behavior?

Maybe they have way more to lose by screwing up than other groups??

I don't come from any of these groups, but I was a very serious student. I think it was because my Dad did not want to pay for my expensive liberal arts college, even though he could afford to, and I therefore couldn't get any financial aid. I had to earn as many credits as I could transfer at our crappy local university one year before enrolling, and I had to drop out between my first and second year at the college to work full-time and earn another year of credits while living at home. The fact that it wasn't being handed to me on a silver platter made me appreciate the opportunity I had and to work really hard. I remember deeply resenting the kids who had a full ride from their parents, no questions asked, or who received financial aid, and screwed around and didn't get nearly the grades I did.

DH and I have already fully funded our kids' 529s, so they will be able to attend the colleges of their choice. I think it is harder in this situation to make a young person appreciate the value of the gift he is being given and the importance of not screwing up.

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I drank far less than my peers in undergrad and i was a virgin until 21. But then in grad school i rebelled quite a bit. it's just not as cute at that pt.

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I drank a beer here and there, studied hard, graduated summa cum laude. I didn't have sex until I was good and ready, at 21.

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I was a dork and prude in college. I had a beer a few times, but I don't like the taste of it so I never drank a lot.

My major was time consuming, but that is how I became good friends with my classmates and built a circle of friends.

Lame. I know.

[Anonymous]

OP, I can totally relate... I only started doing "crazy stuff" after I was financially stable and not depending on my parents.

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Didn't drink, smoke or have sex throughout college. It just wasn't interesting enough to me, nor did I find the people who did very fun to be around. I think the feeling was mutual, though.

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Yep, not everyone does "crazy" stuff. I'm 26 and am still a virgin. I'm looking forward to giving that aspect of me to my future husband.
I don't have a problem with people drinking in moderation, but it doesn't appeal to me at all so I don't choose to partake.

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I can honestly say that I did not do anything crazy in college. No sex, no drugs, almost no drinking and never getting actually drunk. Went to an Ivy and there must have been plenty of crazy stuff going on, but I had my friends and we had a good time doing whatever it was we were doing. It isn't like we were studying all the time, we just weren't very wild.

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No crazy stuff. No drugs, occasional parties (few), very little drinking. Loved college, but sex, drugs, drinking wasn't what I was there for and I really wasn't interested. Virgin til I was married and so glad I waited. Had boyfriends in college, but wasn't going to risk anything too involved sexually or emotionally until I was out of college.

[Anonymous]

drank moderately only once i turned 21.

no sex.

no drugs/smoking.

my immigrant parents instilled serious fear in me re: consequences. i wouldn't advise raising kids this way, however.

[Anonymous]

I drank regularly, but never to the point of passing out drunk.

I didn't have sex until I was 24 and never smoked pot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you from an immigrant or minority family or from a lower-middle income background?

No, from none of those. Is there some link between the groups you mentioned, and non-risky behavior?

OP, there's no link. That person was trying to insult you.

Why is that an insult?

Yeah, how immature, do you have a problem with lower-middle income families PP? How absolutely silly you are. What's your problem, do tell us.

[Anonymous]

I was pretty wild in college: lots of drinking, po

[Anonymous]

No crazy stuff in college...or ever. I've never done any drugs, smoked, or had alocohol. No sex in college.

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Sorry...hit submit early. I was saying: lots of drinking, pot, and casual hookups (sex included). Some other drugs as well and putting myself in situations where I was just lucky to come put unscathed. Now I cringe when I think about it all. Not because there have been any repercussions (e.g. STDs) but because I wish I had spent my time doing worthwhile things that would have boosted my confidence.