Reporting a Provider But Preserving the Relationship

[Anonymous]

OP here. Guess I was unclear. She said the staff told her that they did it at a parent's request but that it was not an acceptable practice and that the staff were trained not to do it anymore despite the parent's request.

[Anonymous]

was this a bright horizons? as a 3 month old's mom - and as someone who is considering a BH, it would be helpful to know.

thanks!

[Anonymous]

Three month olds have teachers and CLASSMATES?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Guess I was unclear. She said the staff told her that they did it at a parent's request but that it was not an acceptable practice and that the staff were trained not to do it anymore despite the parent's request.

Absurd. The staff still needs to be disciplined. The director and the staff don't get to hide behind the excuse of well errr duhhh derrr, the parents told us to do it?

These teachers and this daycare sounds sketchy.

[Anonymous]

@19:04 yes, it was a BH center, but the director assured me that bottle propping was against BH protocol and that she trained the staff not to do it again. She also.thanked me for bringing it to her attention and called me afterwards to let me know the steps she had taken to handle the situation.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry but if it is against policy and regulations to feed the bottle in this manner, when the parent asked for the bottle to be propped they should have been told sorry but no go. They should have been told if it isnt acceptable to them they would have to find somewhere else who doesnt have an issue with propping the bottle.

I agree with another mom, i think they are just trying to cover their ass. Why, now, train the staff not to do it anymore? that is how they should have been trained prior. geesh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@19:04 yes, it was a BH center, but the director assured me that bottle propping was against BH protocol and that she trained the staff not to do it again. She also.thanked me for bringing it to her attention and called me afterwards to let me know the steps she had taken to handle the situation.

If that is all it takes to placate you, then you need to be more involved in the care of your child.

Frankly, I think you should have asked what the teachers were doing while you observed it. Easy Peasy. I don't see how that threatens to jeopardize a "relationship." Pleasantries are nice, but really this is the stuff that matters. For the sake of that kid and your kid.

If every parent was a little less self-involved and a little more vigilant about ensuring that the teachers are doing their jobs (which matters to me alot more than a director playing nicey nice), I think there would be less pervasive daycare problems, esp in a BH like setting. Too often it takes tons of problems before parents know about what other parents were witnessing or experiencing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:@19:04 yes, it was a BH center, but the director assured me that bottle propping was against BH protocol and that she trained the staff not to do it again. She also.thanked me for bringing it to her attention and called me afterwards to let me know the steps she had taken to handle the situation.

If that is all it takes to placate you, then you need to be more involved in the care of your child.

Frankly, I think you should have asked what the teachers were doing while you observed it. Easy Peasy. I don't see how that threatens to jeopardize a "relationship." Pleasantries are nice, but really this is the stuff that matters. For the sake of that kid and your kid.

If every parent was a little less self-involved and a little more vigilant about ensuring that the teachers are doing their jobs (which matters to me alot more than a director playing nicey nice), I think there would be less pervasive daycare problems, esp in a BH like setting. Too often it takes tons of problems before parents know about what other parents were witnessing or experiencing.

Wow. Fly off the handle much?

[Anonymous]

I daresay that parents of more than one kid have propped a bottle on some or another occasion. If the parents do it, why not? It really isn't the end of the world.

Too funny, the way you people are so fussy.

[Anonymous]

"train the staff not to do it"? Um, you mean told them not to do it? How exactly do you train someone not to do something? Overcompensating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I daresay that parents of more than one kid have propped a bottle on some or another occasion. If the parents do it, why not? It really isn't the end of the world.

Too funny, the way you people are so fussy.

I dare say that many a parent has slapped a kid now and then. If parents do it, why not? So fussy, those people who demand their daycare providers don't violate regulations or endanger children. I mean it really isn't the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

I think it is a big deal and I would report it. It is against the state guidelines in VA...not sure where this center is located.

Have you talked to the parents about this? I think you could have a casual conversation with them and say "hey, I saw that the bottle was propped with your baby and talked to the director about it". You might get a very different answer from the parents about this.

[Anonymous]

Some of you people need to chill. Propping up a bottle is not the end of the world and it doesn't mean that mothers/fathers don't care for their children. It was how we taught our oldest to hold his bottle - he would only attempt to hold when no one else was there, but if we were holding the bottle he would hold our hands or our shirts instead. He was no more in danger of choking while the bottle was propped than when I was holding it. And if he did start to choke, he would STOP SUCKING and force the bottle away with his tongue, and the formula would stop flowing.

Seriously people calm down. Not EVERYTHING is a choking hazard or a sign of bad parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people need to chill. Propping up a bottle is not the end of the world and it doesn't mean that mothers/fathers don't care for their children. It was how we taught our oldest to hold his bottle - he would only attempt to hold when no one else was there, but if we were holding the bottle he would hold our hands or our shirts instead. He was no more in danger of choking while the bottle was propped than when I was holding it. And if he did start to choke, he would STOP SUCKING and force the bottle away with his tongue, and the formula would stop flowing.

Seriously people calm down. Not EVERYTHING is a choking hazard or a sign of bad parenting.

If his mouth is filled with liquid, even if he stops sucking, he can still choke.

Moreover, you clearly know nothing of the practice and its safety. Propping is a violation for a reason.

This discussion is not about parents who do it, it is about a daycare following the law.

[Anonymous]

This whole subject is disgusting, and clearly BH is trying to cover their asses. Not only would I report this, but I would pull my child out faster than BH takes my $1700 per month. There are SO MANY BETTER OPTIONS OUT THERE for childcare, don't settle for second best - especially after witnessing this practice. I'd be curious to know if you ever meet the parents of that infant, and ask them if they bottle-prop their infant at home. I'm prettttty sure I'd know the answer....