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Anyone with a mom who had you over 40?
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Anonymous
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My mother had me when she was 47 (and that was really old and unusal back in the day!). She died when I was 22. I had 4 other siblings who were older than me. My mom was just too tired by the time I came along.
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Anonymous
| My mom had me when she was 40. I think she was an amazing mom, and I strive to be like her for my kiddos. Good things about my older mom: She was able to dedicate a lot of time to me, she had married late in life and had A LOT of great stories about her younger days, she had the wisdom and calm that came with being an older parent, and money wasn't an issue in the way it would have been if she was younger. Bad things: she died when I was in my 20's, we took last place every time in the mother-daughter swim races (because the other moms were at least a decade younger), and she knew every dang Beatles tune but not really anything current (say, Duran-Duran). |
Anonymous
| 43 here and ttc #1....how did all these older moms get pregnant (wgout stating the obvious.) ? |
Anonymous
They were healthier back then... Girls used to have their menarche at age 14-16. A woman is born with her eggs all counted out already so the later they start menstruating the later they'll hit menopause. Now with all the hormones and crap added to the food kids are losing teeth at age 5, menstruating at age 9... HORRIBLE, no? |
Anonymous
| I am not so sure about the early mense=early menopause statement. Does not sound right to me, pp. I am going to google it to see. |
Anonymous
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My mom was 31, which is a bit younger than some of the moms posted about here.
However, I never noticed a difference. I had nice clothes, attended private, had a great group of friends, and lived my summers at the beach. My parents were established, which gave me an "edge" over my friends. Dad was home for much of my childhood b/c he had good people running his business. Although Mom stayed home, she also helped to run Dad's business from behind the scenes. And she volunteered at my school - but did not make volunteering her life, as some do these days! Mom's alive; Dad's dead. She lives 5 minutes away and plays a big role in my children's lives. I am an older mom now who can't ever give my children the type of lifestyle I had unfortunately, as time's are different. But when I look back, I have nothing but fond memories. |
Anonymous
Sounds like she's one now, regardless of age the attitude is there. OP there are a lot of older moms in this area and in many metro areas so your kid will be in good company. I think 40s are different now. My mom had us in her 20s but by the time she hit 40s, she was tired and ready for mom jeans. She was awesome (and still is) but I feel like women today are into exercising, yoga, etc. in a different way than my mom's generation, we eat healthier, we are into taking care of our ourselves more, not just physically but emotionally and mentally too. |
Anonymous
I was lucky. I had my first (one shot deal) at 38 - an "accident" - and my second (one shot deal) at 42. I've had friends, however, who have had trouble (both young and old) - going through fertility treatments for some time. some successful, some not Good luck. 43 is still young, IMO. |
Anonymous
speaking from experience as a mother? |
Anonymous
I have to agree, although I have no study to support my post. My friend's daughter, however, has female classmates who started menstruating at 9. When she told me this, she also encouraged us to keep up with organic milk - as with as many organic products as possible. We never went overboard, but with the staples - like milk, yogurt, certain meats (like chicken and beef), we stuck with organic products. My daughter and son are on the long and lean side. Usually the children who develop earlier have more body fat. |
Anonymous
To 9.11. 43 ttc'er year old pp here again. Thanks for your good wishes. Yes, you were indeed lucky!  what do you mean by "one shot deal" ? Thanks!
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Anonymous
| This is depressing. Just found out I am pregnant and I will be be 39 when I give birth. Lovely to think that my child may think of me as a fossil. |
Anonymous
| PP don't stress about this, I think times have changed a lot since we were kids. My mom was 38 when I was born and I always thought of her as an older mother. Today I am 30 and just had my second child and I feel like a teen mom compared the most of the moms that I see. These days 39 isn't an old mom at all. |
Anonymous
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Totally different. My mom was in her 20s, and I am in my late 30s. But, I think that given the different settings, we were both in the norm. Back then, moms mostly didn't have PhDs or other advanced degrees, and we lived in a much smaller city. Now, a lot more women have advanced degrees and are therefore older, having waited to finish graduate schools; and we've moved to DC, which is a much larger, more liberal city where there are a lot of first time parents in their late 30s.
I think that children growing up now in DC (at least in NW) are the anomaly if their moms are in their 20s. |
Anonymous
| What is considered an "old" mom these days, 37+? |