My Neighbor Does not Use Infant Seat...

[Anonymous]

Oh, for pete's sake, 19:06, get over yourself. You are not being the least bit helpful when you resort to calling someone "boarderline racist" just because she makes a comment that someone is OBVIOUSLY from another country.

And by the way, it's "you're," not "your."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yeah, i think saying something to her would be better than dropping a brochure in her mailbox. you could approach it by asking her if she knows it's not legal to use a car seat for an infant, letting her know that she may get a ticket or be stopped by the police for this. then you can offer to help or to tell her where she can go to have someone install the seat for her.

I agree with this.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thank you for the comments. I am going to say something to her today when she pulls up. I am usually out walking with my baby when she comes home. I am concerned but wimpy. The bigger issue is the baby being safe and I wasn't even thinking about the air bags! Thanks for reminding me that the air bags are dangerous as well. So... I will talk to her later. Hopefully it will go well. I am not great at confronting people and I donot want to upset her or make her feel like I am judging. I am just scared for the baby.

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of how, when I was a kid, we lived in Germany and our German neighbors had NO problem ringing our doorbell and telling us what we were doing that violated local law! For example, there was apparently an ordinance that required that all parked cars have their doors locked. Well, our neighbor came over to tell us THAT, which means he apparently checked the door handles (it wasn't apparent by looking through the windows.) Another one came by to tell us it was against the rules to water the lawn on Sundays after seeing my dad from INSIDE HIS HOUSE ACROSS THE STREET watering a wilting rose bush, and another woman told my mom my 3 year old sister wasn't allowed to stand on the bus stop bench. VERBOTEN! They weren't nasty though, just had the attitude that they we were clearly foreigners who had no clue and that they were going to make sure we didn't run afoul of the Rule of Order.

[Anonymous]

If the baby were born in the US, the hospital does not even let you leave without an infant seat that is properly installed, facing reverse in the BACK seat. Maybe she DOES know but is not complying bc it's inconvenient, she wants to see the baby as she drives, ...

[Anonymous]

PP - that reminds me of an incident at my DS's school. I kept seeing a mom pick up her 3 yo in a nice luxury sedan and never once set her in a carseat or even belted her in. I finally mentioned something to the teacher who said that maybe since the woman was older and not from this country she didn't understand the laws. Long story short, this woman has 3 other kids, all older, all born here so b-s that she didn't understand the laws. She probably didn't want to mess up her leather interior or was just too lazy to take the time to strap her child in.

[Anonymous]

OP- Good luck! Please let us know how it goes. Even if she doesn't take it well, you're doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the baby were born in the US, the hospital does not even let you leave without an infant seat that is properly installed, facing reverse in the BACK seat. Maybe she DOES know but is not complying bc it's inconvenient, she wants to see the baby as she drives, ...

OP again. I'm not sure where the baby was born but that is a good point. She has an infant seat so I am assuming she knows she needs it. But in any case I am ready to pop over and say something. I decided to tell her I saw a police officer stop someone in the neighborhood for a car seat violation and wanted to let her know. Yes, I a wimp but I can see if she needs help installing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the baby were born in the US, the hospital does not even let you leave without an infant seat that is properly installed, facing reverse in the BACK seat. Maybe she DOES know but is not complying bc it's inconvenient, she wants to see the baby as she drives, ...

Nobody at the hospital checked to ensure our car seat was properly installed. Yeah, the nurses saw that we had an actual car seat, but we could have easily left it in the car and they wouldn't have been the wiser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the baby were born in the US, the hospital does not even let you leave without an infant seat that is properly installed, facing reverse in the BACK seat. Maybe she DOES know but is not complying bc it's inconvenient, she wants to see the baby as she drives, ...

Nobody at the hospital checked to ensure our car seat was properly installed. Yeah, the nurses saw that we had an actual car seat, but we could have easily left it in the car and they wouldn't have been the wiser.

Maybe they don't check that it's tethered to the car, but if it's in the front seat, they will educate you on the position (reverse) and location (backseat) of where it should be before you can drive off.

[Anonymous]

When we had our twins, a volunteers transported us to the car. No nurse came down to see if we had car seats (I carried them down while in the wheelchair) or where/how they were installed. This was at Holy Cross 2 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Assuming this woman has her driver's license than she should know (if she took/passed the DMV test) the requirements for restraining not only an infant, but a toddler and a child.

Therefore, there is no need to be so delicate. The law is the law. She is no exception whether is a from here or not.

Besides, the woman should be grateful that you say something to her about it - imagine the ticket, fines, points, and maybe even jail time (child negligence and endangerment especially not strapped in, in the front seat, with the airbag not turned off) she could face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we had our twins, a volunteers transported us to the car. No nurse came down to see if we had car seats (I carried them down while in the wheelchair) or where/how they were installed. This was at Holy Cross 2 years ago.

When I had my child at Sibley 3 years ago, the nurse rolled me to my car in a wheelchair and looked to ensure that we had a carseat. Apparently, volunteers are not properly trained in these matters at Holy Cross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we had our twins, a volunteers transported us to the car. No nurse came down to see if we had car seats (I carried them down while in the wheelchair) or where/how they were installed. This was at Holy Cross 2 years ago.

When I had my child at Sibley 3 years ago, the nurse rolled me to my car in a wheelchair and looked to ensure that we had a carseat. Apparently, volunteers are not properly trained in these matters at Holy Cross.

Are you serious, PP? It depends on the nurse, not the hospital. I had DS3 at Sibley. There was no one to check and see if the car seat was properly installed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the baby were born in the US, the hospital does not even let you leave without an infant seat that is properly installed, facing reverse in the BACK seat. Maybe she DOES know but is not complying bc it's inconvenient, she wants to see the baby as she drives, ...

Nobody at the hospital checked to ensure our car seat was properly installed. Yeah, the nurses saw that we had an actual car seat, but we could have easily left it in the car and they wouldn't have been the wiser.

Maybe they don't check that it's tethered to the car, but if it's in the front seat, they will educate you on the position (reverse) and location (backseat) of where it should be before you can drive off.

Umm, who is "they?" The hospital police? We walked out the front door by ourselves and that was that.