My stepson's Mom told him to lie to his father and I about his schooling...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible that she is depressed? Or that she would welcome a different arrangement? Maybe mornings are just too much for her, and she would be happier with afternoon visits or something along those lines. I do feel for her, I know those mornings are tough, but I also know 8 is very young to be teaching a child to lie to another parent in addition to teaching him that sometimes school is optional.

OP - your situation mirrors ours a few years ago. DH worked out a different schedule. Mom refused to do many of the typical responsibilities of parenting (bathing regularly, school, etc - it was very odd). If your DH can work out a schedule that allows him to take care of more of the parenting tasks, might be better for DS. Maybe weekends would be easier for her.

Today mom is more of a big sister to teen instead of a mom. Doesn't do any typical parenting things and doesn't show any desire to... It's weird, but we just roll with it and let her do whatever she feels up to doing and handle the rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I am torn because it is teaching him bad morals and ethics. His health, safety, and education are very important to us and we're really not sure how to approach the situation.

Please help! Is there anything we can or should do?

pretend it did not happen.
You should not be picking the kid up. It is the fathers responsibility. You are the step mom. Without you the boy would have a father in the house.
You are teaching him bad morals and ethics by shacking up with his dad.

[Anonymous]

I think your husband needs to stop confronting her on issues. Few people (especially ex's) respond well to being confronted which generally means being told they are doing something wrong. It would be a far better approach for your husband to just sit down and have a conversation that has a more collaborative or problem-solving tone to it then a confrontational one. She is likely asking him to lie to avoid another confrontation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am torn because it is teaching him bad morals and ethics. His health, safety, and education are very important to us and we're really not sure how to approach the situation.

Please help! Is there anything we can or should do?

pretend it did not happen.
You should not be picking the kid up. It is the fathers responsibility. You are the step mom. Without you the boy would have a father in the house.
You are teaching him bad morals and ethics by shacking up with his dad.

?? Reading comprehension 101 is two doors further down on the left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am torn because it is teaching him bad morals and ethics. His health, safety, and education are very important to us and we're really not sure how to approach the situation.

Please help! Is there anything we can or should do?

pretend it did not happen.
You should not be picking the kid up. It is the fathers responsibility. You are the step mom. Without you the boy would have a father in the house.
You are teaching him bad morals and ethics by shacking up with his dad.

wow NOT OP nor PP but you are a C! With a capital C.

[Anonymous]

people who live in glass houses should not throw stones.
A step mother is no person to judge a stepsons mother.
YOu are the woman with someone elses husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:people who live in glass houses should not throw stones.
A step mother is no person to judge a stepsons mother.
YOu are the woman with someone elses husband

Wow, the whackos are out in full force tonight. And it's not even the witching hour yet...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:people who live in glass houses should not throw stones.
A step mother is no person to judge a stepsons mother.
YOu are the woman with someone elses husband

NOT OP here, Lemme guess you're "husband" is gone. But let's be frank. Were you the first person your husband had sex with? Cause if not technically he should've been with that woman and you were the other woman too...if we are just going on the bible.
And are you really on here talking about not throwing stones as you judge OP. Irony? You, sound like those pro-life people that think its ok to murder the abortion doctors. Alas, you are losing -1/2 a Karma point. You my dear have unresolved issues from your "husband" those issues have saved you the 3 technical karma points you should have lost.

[Anonymous]

well
I am the wife and I had him first. He is living with a divorcee and I am the only one trying to instill morals in my children in this day and age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:well
I am the wife and I had him first. He is living with a divorcee and I am the only one trying to instill morals in my children in this day and age.

so you just make up your own story line?

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe the posters who think it is no big deal for an 8 year old to miss school, simply because his mother does not "feel" like driving him. WTH??? OP, you are right to be concerned and right to intervene. I would get on your husband about this pronto. It's his problem to work out, but this cannot be allowed to continue. I would go to court over this one if I had to.

[Anonymous]

The step mother is the marriage braker and must stay out. If the father cares he will do something.
But the father already left the family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids definitely have at least three "mental health" days a year. Many times it is because I just want to sleep in and let them sleep in too. I don't think that is a big deal if it truly is only three days. My bigger concern would be the fact that she is asking the child to lie to you guys. That doesn't seem right.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The step mother is the marriage braker and must stay out. If the father cares he will do something.
But the father already left the family

How do you know that this step mother broke up the first marriage? Maybe her husband was divorced from the first wife long before he met her. Sounds like we have a bit of personal projection going on here....

[Anonymous]

Stop feeding the troll people. Ignore the bitch and she can go back to Babycenter with the rest of her kind.