Why don't more people kill themselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? You think that killing yourself will make it all better?

There are so many ways to fix it before you resort to that!

If you love DH, marriage counseling. If you don't divorce him.

If you like your job, talk to your boss. If you don't just quit.

Now, on the kid... If you spent more quality time with the little one maybe the whining would stop. And, honestly, the whining is more in your head than the kid him/herself. If you were in a better mood you would see the whining in a different perspective and you would have more tolerance to deal with it.

Sit down and make a plan. Giving up is not the way to go.

Least helpful post ever.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm reading this just before bed....There is goodness in the world, and it's so very difficult when one feels so very lost. I'm rooting for you. Please get the help you deserve. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

OP - sending virtual strength your way and thinking of you.

[Anonymous]

OP stay strong. Please take some time to talk to someone. Life can get hectic but it is a precious gift, including yours. Stay strong girl. Lots of live from ppl on here who care.

[Anonymous]

Focus on a little change that you can make. Could you get some time to link up with friends (even ones you haven't seen for a long time) - leave DH with your child? Are there some small things you could do to focus more on the things you love? Forget DH and your child for now - make a change that will get your head back together. Talk to your doctor about your struggle to cope with the health issues and the impact. Maybe that means a new doctor.

And the answer to your title question is that people do - unfortunately. Some of us are living with suicide/s in the family. The stats are worrying (someone posted recently that suicides have now overtaken traffic fatalities - on the Freakonomics website).

There's got to be a better solution. Find the strength to look for it. We are all rooting for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP stay strong. Please take some time to talk to someone. Life can get hectic but it is a precious gift, including yours. Stay strong girl. Lots of live from ppl on here who care.

Sorry meant *love*

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm a cancer patient currently undergoing treatments and waiting for surgery that is likely to leave me seriously disfigured. I have also had thoughts of just ending all this suffering since my prognosis is sort of questionable. But when I think about it, it feels like the most horrible thing to do to my DC. Ever. That's why I'm staying in the fight.

Oh, and my DC is also whining all day long, and my DH sometimes drives me nuts, so I can definitely relate to what you are saying. But at the end of the day, don't they deserve a mother and a wife?

Please take good care of yourself. There are people out there who love you and need you, even if it sometimes seems otherwise.

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that having small kids takes all of the escapist fantasy fun out of contemplating suicide. Instead of making me feel deep and tragic, now it just makes me feel self-centered and guilty. Even when I'm feeling my lowest, I still know I'm worth something to them, and I can't feel relief at the prospect of them having to tell everyone about their father's suicide for the rest of their lives. No sex, no evenings out, no peace & quiet, and not even any suicide fantasies.

It's taken me a while to understand and accept it, but I've learned that I can't feel good about my life as a whole, and certainly not about myself as a whole. I have to break it down into very small pieces, small units of time in which I can do the next right thing, hopefully helping someone else. That's my only hold on sanity, often contentment, and sometimes joy.

You're not alone.

[Anonymous]

OP, another new poster who has felt the same way as you before. Sometimes I'd drive a curvy road up high and think would what happen if I just kept going straight? It would be so easy. But like others, when I decided to have children, I took the option away of killing myself. I can't imagine a more horrible, selfish thing to do to them and my sense of responsibility to them is too strong. So, even as much as I feel like I wish I could sometimes, it's just not an option.

But what I did do for the first time ever last summer when I was hitting bottom was, at my husband's urging, get myself to counseling and on anti-depressants. I joke about the meds now but seriously, the best thing that has happened to me in a long time. I don't know that I've ever felt this content with myself before, which is sad but true. I hope to be on them for the rest of my life. Please give it a try if you haven't already. I don't think I had quite the right fit in a psychiatrist but I think that can be incredibly helpful, too. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Are you spiritual? I would never kill myself because it's a sin and because I was meant to live my full life on this earth. Things might get better.

[Anonymous]

Because even in a place where usually you see nothing but snark and bitter (DCUM) there can be some wonderful human kindness and people to make you feel better.

People are out there for you - and people care about you. You just need to find them.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am an adult whose stepdad committed suicide when I was a child. He was the father figure in my life as my real dad just wasn't there. It leaves lifelong scars on those left behind, and even as an adult I struggle to understand why he did it, and to forgive.

He must have been in a really dark place. Death is not pretty, and the process is often not painless. I wish to god that he would have called someone, reached out, screamed, cried, anything to let people know he needed help. After he died I thought about suicide myself, but decided that I couldn't do that to my family. But boy did I want "out". Years have passed and I can tell you that I now am SO thankful that I have my life, despite it's bumps and hurdles and flaws and challenges.

PLEASE reach out, make that phone call to the hotline, talk to your doctor, your spiritual counselor, your trusted friend. You have value to so many people even if you don't see it right now. You are wanted, needed and loved.

[Anonymous]

This is no different than what everyone else has told you, but please don't hurt yourself. I know this is a corny idea, but watch the movie, "A Wonderful Life". Everyone is in the shit at different times in our lives and at one moment or another we all think there is no point in going on, but those moments pass and life gets better.

In the movie "a wonderful life" the James Stewart character wishes he had never been born. An angel then shows him what other people's lives would have been like if he had never been born. What then he realized that by living, he had made other people's lives better.

By you living you are making the lives of other people better and I for one thank you for that.

Please try not to let the shit get you down too much. Talk to a pastor or a priest. You'd be surprised how many caring people live in our community and maybe just down the street a bit.

[Anonymous]

OP, call a hotline. Everyday is a choice to stay alive and you are making that decision everyday. Good for you. Take the next step and call someone. You have nothing to lose. You can still kill yourself down the road, it is always an option. But you know that you have a child who needs and wants YOU. So, keep the suicide in the back pocket...and just take it day by day. Step by step, bit by bit, you may find a way to find a way out of the cloud you are in.

Please know others want you to live and we do not even know you. Your child needs and wants you. Call now.

[Anonymous]

I was in a very bad place in the late 90s, early 2000s, and didn't think I could take one more day of my perceived hell. If it hadn't been for antidepressants, I really don't know where I'd be today. Even if you don't believe in medication, believe you're too far gone for them to help, or that it's "not you" - do yourself a favor and go on one. Come back in 6 weeks and tell us how you feel. I was on Zoloft and never felt better, and it saved my life.

Remember, life is soooo short, and being dead is forever, as in thousands of years. You'll never get a chance to live, ever again, you only get life once. Life sucks, but once you're feeling better, you'll start to appreciate the smaller things in life that help you get through the bad times.

Plant a vegetable garden and then work it. Take nice long long walks, you'll feel better. Sit in the sunshine with a good book. I went through hell, but the last 5 years have been the best years of my life. I wouldn't have known "the good life" if I had done something drastic, as in killing myself. At this point, go to your general practioner and ask for medication. Please give it a try. I PROMISE you will feel better and will wonder why you didn't do it sooner.