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are you baptizing your DC even if you're not "religious"?
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Anonymous
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"And I do plan to start going to church more often when my daughter is old enough to be in sunday school learning stuff, and not just in a nursery. "
LOL! |
Anonymous
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Another Christian - Muslim couple here. Father is Muslim and we believe the religion of the children follows the father, as Islam dictates. So my husband whispered the prayer in our kids' ears at birth. We are all non practicing in general. But we did that anyway.
I would never baptize our kids because they are technically Muslim. They can choose to practice whatever they want as they get older. At that time, if they choose baptism, fine. But right now, what little religion we practice in the home is Islam. |
Anonymous
oh, but I bet you are. . . |
Anonymous
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NO! It drives me nuts when people do this, at least in the protestant faith (I was raised protestant). When you do a baptism as a protestant you are committing to raising your child in the church. And the congregation commits to helping you raise your child. If you aren't going to be a part of the congregation, don't baptize your child in a protestant church. I won't speak to other faiths since I'm not knowledgeable in that area.
DH and I have not baptized our 14 month old. If we decide at some point to join a church and attend regularly, we will consider baptizing him then. |
Anonymous
| DH and I were both raised in the church - Catholic & Episcopalian. We are both atheists now but don't want to disappoint our families by telling them that, so we had both kids baptized. |
Anonymous
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"Another Christian - Muslim couple here. Father is Muslim and we believe the religion of the children follows the father, as Islam dictates. "
Oh, brother! |
Anonymous
Why would a Christian believe what Islam dictates? |
Anonymous
Wow! |
Anonymous
| No. Neither my DH nor I are particularly religious. None of my 3 kids are baptized and we don't attend church. I find it a little amusing when my athesist friends baptize their kids. They do so mostly for their parents and to keep the peace. I see nothing wrong in that, but then to appoint godparents, etc....it seems like such a farce... |
Anonymous
Because I choose to. |
Anonymous
what's the "oh brother" for? judaism teaches that the religion of the child follows the mother. would that elicit an "oh brother" from you? |
Anonymous
11:19 here - the godparents know the real deal and have a very special relationship with our kids. |
Anonymous
| Nominate this thread for clueless DCUM Hypocrites of the Month Club. |
Anonymous
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I was raised Catholic but do no practice, and my husband wasn't raised in any religion. My parents are fully aware of my beliefs, but we chose to baptize my daughter because we knew it would make them happy. We chose as godparents good friends of ours who are practicing Methodists. We felt that if we were going to go through the process, it was important to choose godparents who actually practiced their faith, even if it wasn't Catholic. And to be honest, I don't know of any Catholics (other than my parents) who I actually consider practicing Catholics (i.e., mass every week, confession, etc.) so these Methodists were our best option!
I feel totally comfortable with our decision because we were honest with our family about why we were doing it, and if our daughter wants to learn more about religion, she now has a great set of godparents to guide her. |
Anonymous
I don't understand the "oh brother" either. In Catholicism you are supposed to raise the child in the religion of the mother, too, and it's not exactly like women are superior in that religion, if that poster is implying this is a way Islam subjugates women, as I suppose she was implying. We are Catholic but did not baptize because we knew we would not raise our DS as a Catholic, as you are promising when you baptize. After DS was born, a sweet and wonderful man in our neighborhood who was Muslim and who we adored saw us with baby and asked if he could say a prayer for him. He put his hands on DS and said his prayer, and told us he was blessing DS with a long, healthy, and blessed life. It was so sweet--this gesture that had nothing to do with our religion and everything to do with his like for us and his kindness as a human being. It was a nice moment I will never forget. |