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10-13-2010, 08:16 PM #2
phagocytosis
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 9 I can't speak for how her peers will react, because I know how cruel high schoolers can be, but here's my experience:
I also went to a fairly competitive high school - I frequently heard kids bragging about their high scores on exams or the SAT. My senior year in high school, I was diagnosed with a learning disability. I get 50% more time on exams. However, I was never allowed that in high school because I got A's and B's (they would only help out kids who were doing poorly). In college, I received extended time on all of my exams and I took the exams in a separate location that was proctored by the disability services office. None of my friends noticed that I wasn't in the same room as them on exam days. It wasn't until I told them that I took the test elsewhere for extended time that they realized I wasn't there. No one teased me about it - everyone was very understanding. If anything, I think people were a little jealous that I got more time. Personally, I have never been embarrassed about it. I like the perspective that even with my disability, I still do well in classes. I'm a smart person, it just takes me a little bit longer than most people.
Again, I know high schoolers can be mean, but I really hope your daughter can see that it's nothing to be embarrassed about. Once she's in college, she'll realize that no one cares. Many people struggle in college and no one will make fun of anyone for getting a bad grade. Actually, now that I think about it, I think I've only witnessed teasing for a stupid comment. As long as people see your daughter as a smart person, and I assume she is for being in a gifted program, no one will care at all about the extended time. When I was asked why I got more time (and most people sounded jealous), I would either explain why or I would jokingly say "because I'm special". Most people wanted to figure out how they could be special too.
Also, I would strongly recommend taking the PSAT with accommodations. It's very silly to miss out on a higher score because of embarrassment. I don't remember if the PSATs count for anything, but the SATs definitely matter for many reasons. I wish I had known that I could have gotten accommodations on the SAT because I'm fairly certain that I would have gotten a higher scholarship for college. My scores were fine for getting into college, but at my university there are 3 levels of merit-based scholarships, and I'm fairly certain that if my SAT score was higher, I would have gotten the middle scholarship instead of the lowest one.
Good luck!
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10-15-2010, 01:35 AM #3
juggler1990
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 19 definitely for the sat take extra time. i took the act not sat but for the act i didn't take it at my school cause they didn't offer it there and i don't even think i knew anyone in the building. also, they make it descrete. you just sign in at a different table and take it in a different room. trust me know one will notice. especially if she doesn't go in with a friend. there are so many people there and everything no one will notice. i know the psat was administered at my school. i signed up for it last minute and didn't have time to get accommodations. i did bad and the colleges i was applying to didn't care whether i took act or sat and i heard act is easier to get extra time for so i just took it. i did bad on the psat though cause i only finished half or less of every section. talk to who ever coordinates extended time for the psat and see if she can do it discretely. im sure the guidence counclor would know. maybe she can tell her friends that she decided not to take it or forgot to sign up or something. then she could just report to wherever she was taking it with extra time and they'd never know. no one will really notice or question her i am guessing. as far as accommodations go. i can completely understand. i dont like telling my peers especially cause i don't want them to think i am taking advantage of the system or something. but i have found that they are always very understanding if i just explain very simply what i have trouble with. i just say i have adhd and have to read everything 3 or more times to understand it so it takes me forever to take tests. if i didn't have the accommodation i would probably fail but i study really hard so i don't think that would be fair. having a good understand of what your specific problems are is the most helpful when advocating for yourself. for instance, i know i can't pay attention at all in class, drift off when reading and have to re read it a lot and don't process information fast. i also have trouble getting out what i want to write down so it takes me forever to write things. this is helpful when i am trying to explain it to people. people want to know specifically what you struggle with cause a term like ld is very broad and can affect people in many different ways.
Reply 10-27-2010, 11:18 PM #5
Swgyswgy
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 69 Sigh what is with all the parents requesting special favors for their children? You might think that they are brilliant and that they deserve to have all the accommodations made for them, however chances are they are of average intelligence. It sickens me to see people get unfair advantage for such benign issues. Just take the damn test and be happy with what you get. Too much blood, sweat, and tears are wasted on the standardized testing process.
Many students who just plain suck at math or reading aren't diagnosed with dyscalcula nor dyslexia. They don't use a "disorder" as an excuse for their lack of ability or understanding. Chances are the parent's kid is just a normal student, they aren't "brilliant". How many CC parents brag relentlessly about their "brilliant kids"? Brilliant kids are a dime a dozen.
I don't know your situation, but try working with your child. Accept them for who they are. Not what you want them to be. If she fears the "stigma". just let her be a normal teenager. Teenager don't need their parents making every single decision on their behalf.. Teenagers yearn for independence. Regardless, best of luck and wishes to your current situation.
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