Vacations with other families

[Anonymous]

Um you should not be going on trips with other families if your alcoholic husband might make a scene. Especially if you have kids!

[Anonymous]

We used to go camping with up to 5 other families. We were all coming from different places, so there was no ride sharing, and we all had our own campsites next to each other.

We liked to drink and have a good time, but I never worried that my husband would drink too much and embarrass me. That sounds like a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I try to do this with our family and always feel on edge because I never know if they are going to get the best version of DH or the worst. So either happy and charming, or drinking and over the top. Anyone else feel like this? I need to accept that I cannot control the behavior of others but it is hard.

Chill and relax. Your anxiety can’t help it. You can make a deal with DH to avoid drinking when going on a vacation. If he can’t control his drinking and stay polite then vacation isn’t the problem, his alcoholism is. You need to do something about that.

[Anonymous]

It sucks being too poor to afford to go on vacation just with your own family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It works when both families get along and not too needy. We recently traveled with another family and we only hung out together 30% of the time. I also prefer not to be in the same house.

This^. Travel separately. Stay in separate dwellings. Do some activities and meals together with them and some on your own. Having other people around for vacation can make it interesting, if both sides are sensible and easy going. Your DH needs to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I try to do this with our family and always feel on edge because I never know if they are going to get the best version of DH or the worst. So either happy and charming, or drinking and over the top. Anyone else feel like this? I need to accept that I cannot control the behavior of others but it is hard.

Yes. But my spouse is in the spectrum so runs out of gas to socialize more than two days. Then he turns to work, to hide, and waking up super early / going to bed late, and just popping in for chosen meal or one hour with his family or the other.

Needless to say, the conversations are lacking too. And we don’t get invited back. Meanwhile I’m running around cooking, tidying, and doing kid stuff solo.

[Anonymous]

Is it too difficult to do a week without alcohol?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I try to do this with our family and always feel on edge because I never know if they are going to get the best version of DH or the worst. So either happy and charming, or drinking and over the top. Anyone else feel like this? I need to accept that I cannot control the behavior of others but it is hard.

Yes. But my spouse is in the spectrum so runs out of gas to socialize more than two days. Then he turns to work, to hide, and waking up super early / going to bed late, and just popping in for chosen meal or one hour with his family or the other.

Needless to say, the conversations are lacking too. And we don’t get invited back. Meanwhile I’m running around cooking, tidying, and doing kid stuff solo.

Hugs to you. Your life sounds exhausting.

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised that so many people dislike vacationing with other families. My partner hates it but will tolerate it if the families live in separate dwellings and just meet up for activities. I thought they were just a party pooper but it seems to be a common sentiment on this thread so far!

[Anonymous]

A drinking problem because the guy slams beers on vacation at the beach? Never let me down DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t vacation with non-family members because we like to chill and generally fly by the seat of our pants during vacation. Why do you want to do something that stresses you?

This is us.

Plus I like being naked as much as possible on vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sucks being too poor to afford to go on vacation just with your own family.

In my experience, a vacation with another family is just as expensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I try to do this with our family and always feel on edge because I never know if they are going to get the best version of DH or the worst. So either happy and charming, or drinking and over the top. Anyone else feel like this? I need to accept that I cannot control the behavior of others but it is hard.

Don’t go on vacations with other families

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don’t vacation with non-family members because we like to chill and generally fly by the seat of our pants during vacation. Why do you want to do something that stresses you?

This is us.

Plus I like being naked as much as possible on vacation.

Free the bu$h

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sucks being too poor to afford to go on vacation just with your own family.

In my experience, a vacation with another family is just as expensive.

Then why on Earth would anyone ever do it? It sounds like the stupidest thing in the world to me. Unless of course it's used as a cover by people who are cheating or something. But that's even worse.