Parents, I’m sorry but you’ve got to teach your boys some manners

[Anonymous]

In elementary, my son gravitated towards the loud, misbehaving boys. In middle school, this changed and he started to hang out with a quiet, polite crowd. My daughter always had polite friends.

Your kid needs guidance on his choice of friends, OP.

And YOU are extremely rude for attacking everyone on DCUM about this and implying that we're all raising brats. A little introspection wouldn't come amiss.

- parent of 21 and 16 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Huh. I’ve got 2 boys in high school, so I remember 7th grade. I can’t imagine my kids or any of their friends noticing, caring or commenting on my earrings. This sounds really phony.

[Anonymous]

That this is OPs son's friend says a lot about OPs son. Why does he run around with boys like this? Look in the mirror.

[Anonymous]

Discipline him. Tell him his behavior is unacceptable and to shut up.

I was rude to my friend’s mom when I was a teenager and she let me have it. I learned my lesson and never did it again.

Teach him a lesson, and if his parents have an issue with it, who cares. Worst case they don’t let him come over again, so it’s win-win for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Discipline him. Tell him his behavior is unacceptable and to shut up.

I was rude to my friend’s mom when I was a teenager and she let me have it. I learned my lesson and never did it again.

Teach him a lesson, and if his parents have an issue with it, who cares. Worst case they don’t let him come over again, so it’s win-win for you.

Shut up and use your manners! Real effective.

[Anonymous]

So one boy was rude and now all parents of boys need to teach their kids manners? I’ve been teaching my son manners since he was a toddler and never in a million years would he act like that.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have any problem telling kids “hey that was rude” or “we don’t talk like that in this house”. If they don’t want to come back that’s fine but in general my kids friends just forget themselves for a minute and need a reminder. I would be fine for any of their parents to do the same.

[Anonymous]

One of my son's friend's used the f word when I was driving them in elementary school. I stopped at the next parking spot and turned around and said he would no longer be allowed in my car if he spoke like that again. He's 20 now, and still no cursing in front of me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last night DS (7th grade) had a friend over after school, and he stayed for dinner. During dinner, I’m sorry, but this kid was just behaving in a way that was completely unacceptable. It wasn’t just bad table manners. He also said a lot of unkind things to me and DH, including saying my earrings were ugly and other things of that nature. This isn’t the only time something like this has happened with one of DS’s friends, either. I understand that it’s a difficult age, but I would never have dreamed of behaving this way when I was in middle school. I always feel so awkward disciplining someone else’s child, though! Parents of boys, PLEASE teach your sons some GD manners, because this is crossing the line. Completely. Okay, rant over.

Sounds like you’re raising a kid who gravitates to rude kids. What does that tell you?

+1. This is a you problem OP. Why would your son want a kid like this to eat dinner with his parents? Something is wrong with your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last night DS (7th grade) had a friend over after school, and he stayed for dinner. During dinner, I’m sorry, but this kid was just behaving in a way that was completely unacceptable. It wasn’t just bad table manners. He also said a lot of unkind things to me and DH, including saying my earrings were ugly and other things of that nature. This isn’t the only time something like this has happened with one of DS’s friends, either. I understand that it’s a difficult age, but I would never have dreamed of behaving this way when I was in middle school. I always feel so awkward disciplining someone else’s child, though! Parents of boys, PLEASE teach your sons some GD manners, because this is crossing the line. Completely. Okay, rant over.

Sounds like you’re raising a kid who gravitates to rude kids. What does that tell you?

This exactly. My boys are in grades 7 and 9 and have had countless friends ever. They are all polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you feel the need to lecture all parents of boys in a random forum instead of talking to the boy's parents who you had over at your house?

Got it.

+1. Mom, you need to learn a few social skills.

[Anonymous]

I kind of want to know what the earrings look like. Were they ugly?

[Anonymous]

All ages and genders - so few kids (and adults) say please and thank you these days.

Parents often tell me that my kids have great manners. They do these bare minimum things and also greet the parents when they first enter a friend's home and offer to help clean up after dinner.

[Anonymous]

I feel like it’s just “cool” to rude. The snark/sarcasm and meanness is all around. Perhaps it’s social media, but I’ve even seen it in books and shows geared for younger kids.

[Anonymous]

Just look at the books and shows that they have these days. They’re learning how to be rude.