Would You Unfriend/ Unfollow Someone At Spouse's Request?

[Anonymous]

I think if the request is just "I don't like this person's personality/politics" and the person didn't actually DO anything, I might pause and ask my spouse to give it some space. I don't want to go around unfriending everyone who just triggers an "ick" reaction from my spouse because how far do you take that? And some people are very sensitive to unfriending and it could create hostility or conflict where presently there is nothing at all. I don't want to piss off a neighbor, coworker, or member of my social group just because my spouse didn't like something they said/wore/though/did out in the world.

If the request is based on an actual conflict my spouse currently has with this person, and they are looking for solidarity from me to back them up, I'd probably do it. In that situation, the other person will know why the unfriending happened (in fact likely my spouse has also recently unfriended them). There is already animosity. Unfriending is a way to get space between our family and this person. It also prevents them from keeping an eye on my spouse or our family through my social media profile, which is something people do when they are in conflict with others -- why give them that window.

If my spouse was starting conflicts with people all the time and constantly asking me to unfriend, then it's time to have a come to Jesus conversation about why this keeps happening. But my spouse is not always in conflict with other people. So if something like this came up and he asked me to unfriend, I'd take it seriously.

[Anonymous]

Depends. If the guy was outright racist or misogynist, yeah I’d wonder why my spouse wanted to associate with them at all.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course. Not worth the trouble and it's taking energy away from our partnership

[Anonymous]

I would. My husband has never asked me to do this, so, if he did, I know it is important to him.

[Anonymous]

If there is a valid reason, spouse or I won't have to ask each other to do so. If its a silly political debate, neither of us is petty enough to drag our own or other party's spouse into it. That being said, if something is a huge deal for him and I don't see it that way but he asks me to, I would do it. Your partner's feelings should he important enough for you over social connections.

[Anonymous]

I suggest deleting all social media so you don’t have to contemplate these questions. It’s incredibly freeing and that way you’re not supporting Zuck who has always known how horrible these platforms are, particularly for children, and did nothing.

[Anonymous]

If it were an ex or inappropriate relationship, yes.

Politics rambling? No

[Anonymous]

Probably not unless that person had a good reason for it.

[Anonymous]

The only time this came up was over an ex-boyfriend. When my spouse brought it up, I blocked the ex. In that case, spouse comes first.

[Anonymous]

If my spouse wanted me to unfriend/unfollow someone it would be because they did or said something appalling. In that case, I would have done it - no request needed.
My DH doesn't have any personal social media so this would never come up.

[Anonymous]

Since I've been married 20 years and my DW has never asked any such thing, if she did, I'd definitely do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suggest deleting all social media so you don’t have to contemplate these questions. It’s incredibly freeing and that way you’re not supporting Zuck who has always known how horrible these platforms are, particularly for children, and did nothing.

I was just coming on here to say this. Just get off social media. It’s very childish and a waste of time.

[Anonymous]

I would unfollow my spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For whatever reason.

If your spouse had an argument with someone or strongly objected to something they posted or said, would you unfriend a mutual friend you two share simply because they asked you to?

I ask because a coworker of mine today talked, ad nauseum, about a fight she had with her DH over his refusal to unfriend a contact they both had over comments the guy made about the recent election in VA.

If my husband asked me to unfollow someone on social media I would probably divorce him. How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Certainly not.