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[quote=Anonymous]I think if the request is just "I don't like this person's personality/politics" and the person didn't actually DO anything, I might pause and ask my spouse to give it some space. I don't want to go around unfriending everyone who just triggers an "ick" reaction from my spouse because how far do you take that? And some people are very sensitive to unfriending and it could create hostility or conflict where presently there is nothing at all. I don't want to piss off a neighbor, coworker, or member of my social group just because my spouse didn't like something they said/wore/though/did out in the world.

If the request is based on an actual conflict my spouse currently has with this person, and they are looking for solidarity from me to back them up, I'd probably do it. In that situation, the other person will know why the unfriending happened (in fact likely my spouse has also recently unfriended them). There is already animosity. Unfriending is a way to get space between our family and this person. It also prevents them from keeping an eye on my spouse or our family through my social media profile, which is something people do when they are in conflict with others -- why give them that window.

If my spouse was starting conflicts with people all the time and constantly asking me to unfriend, then it's time to have a come to Jesus conversation about why this keeps happening. But my spouse is not always in conflict with other people. So if something like this came up and he asked me to unfriend, I'd take it seriously.[/quote]

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